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DeAnna Pappas And Other Broken-Hearted “Bachelor” Contestants Who Found Love

Back in 2007, “Bachelor” viewers were shocked when lame-oid Brad Womack decided not to choose either Jenni Croft or DeAnna Pappas in the final episode. Uh, didn’t he get that memo about the point of the show? DeAnna was totally heartbroken, but picked herself up and became “The Bachelorette.” Only she and her final choice—Jesse Csincsak—didn’t work out, either.

Now, DeAnna has found love for realz. And oddly enough, it happened because of “The Bachelor.” One of DeAnna’s good friends is Holly Durst, a contestant on “The Bachelor” who was let go by Matt Grant. (Bizarre side note: she also dated Jesse.) Holly later got together with Michael Stagliano, who tried to win over Jillian Harris on “The Bachelorette.” Holly and Michael decide to set up DeAnna with Michael’s twin, Stephen, and—shocker—it worked. DeAnna is currently home in Georgia, planning her wedding to Stephen, which will apparently be going down very soon. Before she left for the trip, Stephen tweeted, “The love of my life leaves me today to go home to Georgia : ( .” [Radar]

There’s something oddly inspiring about seeing someone who was crushed on “The Bachelor” find love in real life. After the jump, other folks who went from heartbroken to giddily happy in a very short time. Keep reading »

How To Pay Off Your Relationship Debts

One my husband’s biggest gripes is that he’s always in debt to me. And I’m the collections agent knocking down his door, refusing to offer him a deal to somehow pay it off once and for all. Read more Keep reading »

“Put A Ring On It” Kind Of Gives Me The Sads

A reader sent me a link to the pilot episode for a new web series on weTV.com called “Put A Ring On It,” a show that covers real-life, over-the-top marriage proposals. “I think you will really like this one,” she wrote, “a guy calls a team of proposal experts to help him freeze time for his proposal.” Intrigued, I watched the clip, but I can’t say I share the same enthusiasm as the reader who sent it to me. Sure, I love a good proposal story as much as the next person, but there’s something a bit icky and disingenuous about turning what should be an intimate moment into entertainment for other people (says the girl who’s watched every season of “The Bachelor/ette”). We aren’t talking about a proposal that happens to be videotaped and slapped on YouTube; this is a real production with a team of “experts,” including a stylist, a techie and a relationship guru, as well as producers, and multiple cameras. And while there’s certainly nothing wrong with a big production, in this case the sentiment seems to get lost. Maybe the guy was just nervous — he’s not only proposing, after all, he’s performing a role … for a show — but where’s his excitement? Where’s the love? I guess I’m just not feeling it for “Put A Ring On It.” Are you? Keep reading »

Say Goodbye To Your Wedding Day Photos

What to feel worst about watching this video? The humiliated photographer? The wreck of his gear? The bride? The groom? Their empty, empty wedding album? It’s a toss-up, really. [The Daily What] Keep reading »

Dear Wendy: “I’m Dying For My Boyfriend To Propose”

I’ve been dating my boyfriend for almost seven years. We’ve talked about getting married and having kids constantly, but nothing’s come out of it. We’ve even set a tentative date and picked colors. We’ve picked colors!!! But he still hasn’t proposed. I’m getting really frustrated and wondering if all the talk is just that: talk. Things are really great with us, but I’m losing patience and losing my mind. What should I do? — Not-so-patiently waiting

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Dear Wendy Updates: Anxious Bride Responds

In a new feature called “Dear Wendy Updates,” people I’ve given advice to in the past let us know whether they followed the advice and how they’re doing today. After the jump, we hear from “Anxious Bride,” a recently engaged woman who worried her outgoing fiancé would have lots more friends at the wedding than she would and that, consequently, “his side” would outnumber “her side” in an embarrassing way. She was also concerned that his friends and family would resent traveling to New York, to the venue where she always dreamed of getting married. So, is she still anxious? Has she decided on a spot for the wedding? Find out after the jump. Keep reading »

Girl Talk: More On Marrying For Money

Of all the personal essays I’ve written, “Why Marrying For Money Isn’t A Totally Bad Idea” has provoked the biggest response. It has actually run twice on the Frisky site: once about a year ago and again in June for our Cash & Coupling feature. Due to all that exposure, it has racked up comments numbering in the hundreds and been written about (90 percent negatively) on dozens of blogs. Someone even sent me an email calling me a “yeast infection”!

Some of the things written about the post, and about me, are so untrue that I’m not sure the author actually read the essay all the way through. But it’s clear to me — both from the tone of the comments and from seeing the piece run with “fresh eyes” for a second time — that I did not explain myself and my beliefs very well. I think that instead of being speculative, I should have gotten more personal.

So. Here we go, again … Keep reading »

Cash & Coupling: 15 Tips For Throwing A Wedding On A Budget

When I planned my wedding for last summer in one of the most expensive cities in the world (New York City) during the worst economic climate since the Great Depression, I picked up a few tips for couples looking to throw a wedding on a budget. I learned how to cut costs and stay sane without compromising too much on what I wanted. If you’re willing to be flexible and open to nontraditional ideas, you, too, can have the “perfect” wedding, whatever your budget may be. After the jump, 15 tips for throwing a budget wedding. Keep reading »

Guy Talk: How To Propose Like A Champ

Men fear commitment the way that dogs fear vacuum cleaners. And actually, men kind of fear vacuum cleaners, too. But marriage is a scary prospect for any person, and guys tend to ridicule friends who take the plunge and decide to propose. Yeah, it’s completely juvenile and undeniably silly. Guys try not to show their emotions, and since marriage is associated with one of the strongest emotions around, some guys associate all aspects of marriage — particularly proposals — with a sort of loss of dignity. It’s even worse if a guy proposes and his girlfriend says no. That’s a lot of egg to wipe off of your face. After the jump are a few ways that guys can propose and come off like a hero … no matter what his girl says. Keep reading »

Girl Talk: Can A Friendship Work If One Of You Is Lagging Behind?

Of course I’m not actually “behind.” It’s not as though life’s milestones have point values assigned to them. But, within one of my closest friendships, it had started to feel that way.

I’m 28 years old, I live in New York City, and I’m single, which might read entirely commonplace except that if we were to get technical, I’d tell you that I haven’t been in a serious relationship in about four years. (Maybe more, depending on just how technical we’re getting.)

My long-term single-dom doesn’t bother me.

I’ve never lived with a boyfriend; I have no idea what that’s like. So when my friend would bring up the intricacies and complications that arise from cohabiting, I’d be hyper-aware of my blank expression and lack of insight.

There are levels to said lagging. If you’re in a relationship, you’re only a step ahead of me, and that’s a head start I can handle. It’s when cohabitation comes in to play that I start to feel like you’re lapping me, and I take that figurative distance between us and make it literal, the way I did with my best friend this past year.

Believe me, when my best girl and her boyfriend first got together, distance wasn’t at all present, despite us even living in different states at the time. Like many best friend duos, she and I were known to spend hours on the phone recounting trivial details of an impossible crush or first date, so when she told me she had a boyfriend, and that he was wonderful, I couldn’t have been happier for her. It’s important to note that during their first year of dating, I was still completely and totally single, and I didn’t find my friend’s serious relationship to be wedge-driving in the least.

I’ve never lived with a boyfriend; I have no idea what that’s like. So when my friend would bring up the intricacies and complications that arise from cohabiting, I’d be hyper-aware of my blank expression and lack of insight.

It’s not that I wasn’t interested in what she was saying; it was that I was so completely unable to relate, because I’m so far away from having that. When I would offer my input, I was painfully aware of how phony I sounded. Ask me about football, ask me about shacking up with a significant other; I’ve got nothing.

It happened gradually. I started feeling slightly embarrassed, telling her about my trivial-seeming relationships — in comparison with hers, I was in the minor leagues!.

Soon, going to her boyfriend-shared apartment felt like visiting another world I’d never live in. It got to the point where eating dinner at their adorably set table made me wonder if she resented having to eat on the couch while at mine. Eventually, she and I were barely speaking. I’m lucky, because a few months later, I received a note from her in the mail. It said simply that she missed our friendship, and I recognized immediately that I did too, and had for so long.

When we got to talking, I explained that I’d been feeling like somewhat of a failure in comparison to her and her cohabiting, all-grown-up self. She listened, and said she understood how I’d feel that way, but assured me that she didn’t see my life happenings as any less significant than hers. She helped me remember that just because you and your friends may start out in similar life stages, this doesn’t mean that you’ll forever move at the same pace towards life’s main markers.

Last weekend, during a sleepover at this same friend’s Brooklyn apartment that she shares with her boyfriend (he was out of town for the night), I felt myself slowing down a story I was telling her about a recent guy’s lack of potential. I recognized that same old feeling creeping up, like what I was concerned with was trivial compared to the relationship intricacies she deals with on a daily basis. But as I slowed my speaking cadence, she took the opportunity to ask me a follow-up question, and then another, and I was reassured that while we might not be able to exactly relate to each other on every issue, we could still certainly spend hours talking. And let me tell you, I slept very, very well — on my friend and her boyfriend’s shared couch — that night.

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