TheKnot.com is a resource for everything wedding-related, and also some pretty ridiculous statistics. They surveyed 21,000 couples across the country and what they found out was shockalicious, especially during a recession. You can’t run, you can’t hide, bridezillas are everywhere and June is their month. Check out the freaky findings after the jump! Keep reading »
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Over the last few weeks I’ve answered a couple wedding-related questions in my “Dear Wendy” column that left me wondering why people are still following outdated “rules” when planning a wedding. One person who wrote me worried that her fiancé would have more guests on “his side” than she’d have on hers; the letter I posted yesterday incited a debate about the etiquette of organizing a wedding party. As someone who got married last summer, I know there can be a lot of outside pressure on the people planning the wedding and it’s easy to lose sight of what’s most important and meaningful to them, so after the jump, a helpful reminder of 20 things you do not have to do at your wedding (no matter what the mother-of-the-bride might say!). Keep reading »
I’m a woman on the cusp of her 30th birthday and have enjoyed my single status for over a year now, but am looking for a relationship again (I had three serious ones throughout my twenties). About a year ago, I joined an online dating site, and have had no shortage of first-dates, but very few second dates. Granted, I don’t always want a second date with every guy I go out with, but I’m baffled when my date seems to show genuine interest and then I never hear from him again. So my first question is this: do women really have something to lose if we go ahead and call after a date to take a man up on his offer? Several friends are insistent that calling after the first date makes a woman look desperate, end of story. I am not sure how many more blows I can take in this department — there’s always the nagging question of, “What if I had just called?” I’m also wondering if there’s some “secret” I’ve been oblivious to in the past year that will magically make me more successful in the dating world. I believe I’m a “catch” and I know all the first-date don’ts: don’t drink too much, don’t talk about your ex, don’t sleep with him or come on too strong, etc. Is there something else I should be (or not be) doing? — Tired of Being Single
In exactly 11 days, something very exciting is happening in my life and relationship: My husband and I are finally moving out of his bachelor pad and into a new apartment. When I moved in nearly three years ago, I never expected to stay here this long. In fact, when I initially moved to New York from Chicago, I only meant to stay in Drew’s apartment long enough to find a job and a place of my own. Things changed, though, and Drew and I quickly realized we really enjoyed living together. So I stayed. Even after I finally found work and could afford to get my own place, it seemed dumb for us to live apart when what we wanted was to be together. And for awhile it made sense to stay in Drew’s bachelor pad here in Manhattan. Even though he’d lived here for 13 years already — since he was 24 — the apartment was a great space in a convenient location (especially for someone brand-new to the city), with one of those controlled rents you normally only hear about in urban legends. But now it’s time to go. Keep reading »
Well, we’re ankle deep in wedding season, with the real push starting Memorial Day and Vera Wang Chung-ing it straight through Labor Day. And while wedding planning is a Big Deal, it seems that the biggest concern for most wedding parties is the pictures. In fact, the second biggest wedding fear for lots of ladies (between a no-show husband and saying the wrong name) is that the photos will somehow get funked up. Many brides, grooms and mothers of the bride are strict adherents to the saying that, while your marriage may not last forever, the photographs will. But while a wedding is huge, the days, weeks and decades after, it can be argued, are far more important.
My point being that the whole operation seems to be a contrived photo op. Keep reading »
I was sitting around talking with some single ladies the other night. The topic du jour was the very popular “What are we looking for in a relationship?” I listened to variations on a theme: “someone to spend the rest of my life with,” “a partner, lover, and best friend forever.” I took it in. I even nodded my head and shared their vision to an extent, but the pragmatist in me started to think that forever and ever with one person sounded a little bit naïve. Does anybody really know what forever with a person looks like until they’ve done it? Following that logic, how can I really speculate what I want with a person forever and ever? Especially one I haven’t even met? Maybe there’s a reason why so many relationships don’t survive because of infidelity and maybe that reason is simpler than we think. Maybe monogamy isn’t really working for many of us. Keep reading »
Wendy is off today, so I’m reposting an oldie but a goodie from her Dear Wendy column. She’ll be back at it tomorrow!
I have been dating my boyfriend for about three months. We get along great and he would do anything for me. We just have one problem. He doesn’t believe in evolution and I very passionately do. We got in a discussion about it which quickly turned into a huge fight. Although my current career has taken me down a different path, I have my masters degree in biology concentrated in ecology and evolution so I know a little something about it and pretty much dedicated my entire education to learning about it. He is an engineer and very smart, but I just found out that he used to be really religious, hence his disbelief in evolution. I tried to answer his many misconceptions about evolution as best I could without being prepared for such a heavy debate, but he persisted in refusing to listen to the evidence I presented and even compared me to a religious zealot who has been brainwashed by my schooling. I know that when I feel passionately about something I can get quite worked up and come across as condescending. I understand that a lot of couples have different beliefs and make it work so I know that we can too. However, I don’t want us to have restrictions on what we can or can’t discuss in a rational manner. So I guess what I am asking is how do I broach this topic in a manner that doesn’t turn into a huge argument? Should I just accept that we may never agree on the topic and try to get over it? — The “Mad” Scientist
Many couples feel that marriage is not necessary for happiness and long-term commitment. Fifteen women give us their ideas about what marriage means and why they don’t need it to be happy in their relationships. Keep reading »
Here’s a story that will warm your heart just a little. Shane Bauer and Sarah Shourd have been imprisoned in Iran for 10 months because they strayed illegally into Iranian territory while hiking. But their love has continued to grow while they’re living this prison nightmare — so much so that they became engaged. Bauer proposed to Shourd using a ring he made from his shirt threads in the yard of the prison on Jan. 6, according to their mothers who recently visited them. And even though it’s impossible to know when the wedding will take place, their unbreakable bond is what’s keeping Shourd going, says her mother. A third hiker, Josh Fattal, will serve as best man.