Bachelor parties are a little bit like funerals, which are not for the dead but for the living. Bachelor parties are not for the groom; they’re for his male friends. Like a corpse in a coffin, the groom is actually just a kind of living prop. An excuse for a group of men to gather for a night of heavy drinking so they can ask themselves existential questions, like “Is commitment the antithesis of the male identity or its most perfect expression?” Funerals are places to say goodbye to loved ones; they’re ancient rituals that allow us to let go. Likewise, a bachelor party allows a man to break up with what he has known, and prepares him for an adventure that, if pop science is to be believed, has only a 50 percent chance of succeeding. Those are terrible odds, but you can’t win big unless you go all in. Keep reading »
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In this interview on PJTV, Dr. Helen Smith interviews Maggie Arana and Julienne Davis, coauthors of Stop Calling Him Honey and Start Having Sex: How Changing Your Everyday Habits Will Make You Hot for Each Other All Over Again.
Prior to watching the video, I thought, Eh, another couple of broads with a relationship book, but what they’re saying is actually really interesting — and, I think, spot-on. Keep reading »
Congratulations are in order for the totally adorable Russell Brand and Katy Perry. The two were married in a traditional Hindu ceremony on a tiger reserve in India today! Guests included the couple’s families, Katy’s bestie Rihanna, and 21 camels, elephants and horses. Sounds like a wild time! [TMZ and Dlisted] Keep reading »
Ever since my engagement ended, I’ve been kind of “meh” on marriage. Not because I haven’t found the “right” person yet, but because I’m just not sold on the whole institution anymore. Chen Wei-yih hasn’t met the right person yet either, but she’s not letting that little fact get in the way of her having the wedding of her dreams — the Taiwanese woman is marrying herself. “My work and experience are in good shape, but I haven’t found a partner, so what can I do?” Chen lamented to reporters. What she can do, apparently, is throw herself a lavish party, hire a photographer, and don a pretty white wedding gown, all to mark the marriage of Chen Wei-yih to Chen Wei-yih. which, naturally, won’t actually be recognized by law. “I’m not anti-marriage,” she says. “I just hope that I can express a different idea within the bounds of a tradition.” My only question: where did she register? [My Fox Orlando] Keep reading »
I pulled the curtain back from the living room window in my small adobe home and stared at the dirt road winding down the little hill into Los Molinos. In the three years I’d been married to Verlan, this was the longest he’d ever been away. How many times in the past four months had I stood here, pretending his silver pickup was on that road headed back to me? Dust would billow high as he drew closer and entered the colony. He would stop at Lucy’s place first, like he always did. He would unload mountains of supplies into the shed and tell the family there hello. Then he’d stop at three more wives’ homes. Just before coming to see me, he would go to Lillie’s house. Read more … Keep reading »
Shanae Hall is like that wise friend you have who cuts through all your whining and obsessing to tell you exactly what you’d been avoiding telling yourself.
Not only is she an ex-NFL wife (of the Falcons’ Corey Hall), she’s also the co-author of the book Why Do I Have to Think Like a Man?, a book about dating, spoiled guys and our responsibilities as women in relationships. We were lucky enough to spend a few minutes picking Shanae’s brain … and, of course, we asked her about Favregate. Read more … Keep reading »
A few years ago when I was in college I was engaged to someone who was a little older and made me feel bad because I was always broke even though I was broke with a purpose (getting my bachelor’s degree). Now I have a job that pays me decent money but the hours are long. My day starts at about five while my current fiancé sleeps till about 8:45. Sometimes I get home much later than him and what little time I have left is spent looking up scholarships (I’m trying to continue my education and get another degree), studying for certifications (I work in Information Technology), and going to the gym (to try to avoid gaining weight like many of my counterparts who work behind desks). When all of this is done I have usually only a couple hours to myself during which time he harps on me about housework (which I try to keep up with but it’s hard with everything else that is going on). I feel exhausted and unappreciated to the point that sometimes I feel like moving out. I don’t know what to do. I feel I am very understanding when it comes to his shortcomings (he is constantly complaining that he is broke and therefore takes me out almost never). I feel like he should be more understanding with mine. — Tired of Being Tired
I’m 24 and engaged to a fantastic guy I love a lot. He doesn’t want to have kids, though, which I’ve known all along, and I’m undecided about them. If my fiancé wanted kids I’d have them, but how can I know if I’ll eventually want to have children myself? P.S. I am really good with kids. — Not Sure About Children