Why People Stay in Bad Relationships
Have you dragged out a relationship past its prime?
Fear of being alone
Do not settle for someone just because you are scared of being alone. It’s really hard to face that fear, but it’s important to realize that being single is better than being with someone who makes you unhappy. You can have happiness again even if you break up.
Being single, doesn’t necessarily mean you’re alone — family, friends, and new people that will come into your life will support you emotionally. Yes, there is that palpable loneliness that is natural after being shacked up with someone else for a long time, but that doesn’t mean you will be single forever.
Gene Simmons of the band KISS said, “I’m fascinated with myself and love hearing the sound of my own voice. I’d like to hear what I have to say. A lot of people don’t like being alone because they truly don’t like themselves, but I love me.”
You don’t have to be a complete narcissist, but Gene Simmons is correct: Being alone gives you time to appreciate your awesome qualities and to work on become even more awesome!
Staying with a partner out of guilt long after the passion has died out is already hurting them and hurting you. They will feel the ever-growing emotional and physical distance, and if you don’t communicate with them a swarm of emotions and paranoia might take over.
Then you are both suffering needlessly. Just end it. They deserve better, and so do you!
Some people think their partner is the best they can find, even if they aren’t happy in the relationship. This is a self-esteem issue that needs to be actively worked on. For me, I’d rather be alone than settle. Also, it’s not fair to string your S.O. along for months or years because you have negative thinking when it comes to romance.
Reddit user Inconspicuously_here said:
“I ignored all the things that I didn’t like. His lack of motivation in life, his video game addiction, his constant complaining when we didn’t have alcohol in the house, his lack of involvement as a parent. Now we are getting divorced and I’m realizing settling was the biggest mistake of my life. Lesson learned. Settling on appearance is one thing, but don’t settle when it comes to life goals and drive to move forward in life.”