What Matchmakers Don’t Tell People (Who Aren’t Their Clients)
Too quick to dismiss
Both men and women tend to write each other off too fast if there’s not an initial spark. Why still cling on to the notion “love at first site” or fireworks on the first date?
It takes a little time and effort to really get to know someone, especially if the person you are meeting is shy. That doesn’t mean you should date them for a month, but don’t count out a second date unless they offended you, didn’t tip the bartender, or you really aren’t attracted to them.
Many people still have the fairy tale notion that there’s only one person for them: a “soulmate.” Hanging on to this concept makes dating soooooo much harder, because you’ll dismiss a lot of people without even talking or meeting up with them.
“How do you know if you don’t meet someone? A picture will never breathe life into how someone feels to you,” reveals Toni Bergquist, a professional matchmaker and blogger tells YourTango.
Just because they’re brunette instead of redhead, is that really a dealbreaker?
Mind your Ps and Qs
“I once had a client call me after the first match with a beautiful girl who I had known for about a year. When he told me that she was describing what her v*gina looked like to him over dinner, I almost died. Yes, she described it in detail,” Toni said.
Try to eat something before you go on a date at a bar. Drinking too much on the first date is a common problem. Yes, alcohol loosens you up, but try to remember to drink a glass of water for ever alcoholic beverage you have. Or choose a bar that serves snacks that you can share. If you get too tipsy, call it night because getting all wobbly on the sidewalk doesn’t leave a good impression.