The Right and Wrong Ways to Do Butt Stuff to Your Man
Communication and lubrication
I try to get all the kink stuff discussed after the first or second sexy time encounter. I will ask, “So, what do you like in bed?” Most of the time I will receive, “Uh. I dunno, what do YOU like?”
This is the point where I say I enjoy getting butt stuff done to me. “Do you like butt stuff? Giving and/or receiving? Do you wanna try sometime?”
You might get the dude who says,”Hell, yeah! Will you peg me right now?!” Or the dude that flat out says no, which ends the conversation. Perhaps you’ll get the dude that will shrug or mumble something. Everything is a “NO,” unless you get a loud and clear “YES,” because CONSENT.
Got that permission slip signed? Let’s go!
Number one in number two
Before starting, remind him that he should say stop if it’s painful or for any reason. He is in control here.
You can have him in doggy style, but he might be too self-conscious. He can lay on his stomach and you can massage his neck and shoulders to relax him before going in. Also, you can do this during a blow-job since that will have him already relaxed.
Cover a pointer finger so it’s dripping with lube. Gentle rub around his anus like you are washing it. He’ll probably be clenched up, so rub the area for a few minutes until he relaxes.
Slowly start to slip your finger inside. SLOWER. EVEN SLOWER! You might need more lube. Judge his responses. Is he making any noises of pain or pleasure? If you can’t tell the different, ask! Is his anus still clenched? Maybe try another time.
If he is pushing back on your hand to go faster, you can try a second finger, but warn him first before making any sudden movements.
But wait! There’s more!
Butt stuff doesn’t have to start with fingering his a**hole. You can order cheap (but quality) butt-plugs off of Amazon or adult sites. Please be careful in ordering. Silicone is best, as some materials for sex toys can potentially be toxic. Silicone toys are also non-porous and can be sterilized. WARNING: Do NOT use silicone lube on silicone toys!
Maybe he’ll like analingus if you’re down to do it. Chomp that bum! Nom nom nom!