The Real Reasons Why Younger Men Prefer Older Women
More than just cougars...
Older women have more life experience. Therefore they tend to know more about relationships, romance, and self-care. These amazing women are comfortable in their own skin, knowing who they are, what they need/want, and don’t have time to play games.
In the book Older Women, Younger Men: New Options for Love and Romance, 35-year-old Neil explains why he decided to date a woman much older than him:
“Pat is very special. Not only is she beautiful, but she has a wonderful sense of humor and is very giving. The ability to talk about anything with her was refreshing and engaging. In fact, when I first met her, I didn’t know I was attracted to an ‘older’ woman. I knew she was older than I, but I didn’t realize the disparity in age until she told me (which didn’t happen until a couple of dates into our relationship).
Pat offered me space, devotion and herself, which I couldn’t find in anyone else. I take better care of myself now. She is a best friend who reflects back to me what a good person I am, which builds my confidence and self-esteem. I now have a better job and feel better about myself than ever before.”
With age and experience comes self-confidence. We all remember what it was like to be young and uncomfortable with ourselves, (and a lot of us still feel that way sometimes). The fact is that confidence is a major turn on for many people. Loads of men are drawn to women who seem comfortable in their own skin, and unfortunately, not a lot of women in their twenties feel that way. Knowing yourself and what you want from life can go a long way… and that’s something that older women tend to have a better handle on.
Both young men and women are in stages of experimenting, learning, and growing. One of the allures of the cougar is that she knows how to set boundaries, establish what your “relationship” is, and (most of all), can communicate her needs, wants, and expectations without feeling insecure about her own place in it all.
Many older women have nailed down flirting. They don’t play coy or giggle with their friends in the corner of a bar. Cougars and the like know what they want, are direct about it, and their wit and charm seals the deal.
Lots of younger men find this new, exciting, and curious. If your aim is to get lot of different sexual experiences, the delights of an older woman should be included in that.