Intimate Couples Admit If They Would Rather “Make Love” or “Have Sex”
There's a clear winner here
I don’t think there’s a one-size-fits-all answer for this. Personally, I almost always keep my eyes closed, although I’m trying to open them more lately. At first I may have done it because I felt uncomfortable with myself, but then it just became a habit and allowed me to really focus on the sensations without distractions.
I’m trying to open them these days because I realized I may be missing out on the deeper connection of eye contact. Keeping my eyes open just doesn’t come naturally for me at all. (starfishingit)
In the Moment
Sex is very important to a healthy relationship. However, many people over-compartmentalize the act of sex in a relationship. If you love the person with whom you have relations, then you are making love. Additionally, you are having sex.
Just allow yourself and your partner to enjoy what you are doing. Don’t over think, compartmentalize, or devalue sexual relations by drawing a line in the sand. Don’t force something on your partner which will force them to be fake. Just enjoy one another. (Johnmona)
The Love Factor
With my ex, we never made love, because he didn’t truly love me. Our love life wasn’t terrible and at the time I thought it was the greatest but he was also my first sexual relationship. He was a selfish person, in all aspects of our relationships but especially in bed. He would get frustrated if he didn’t climax, wouldn’t even try to last longer than a few minutes, never went down on me, the list goes on and on.
When I first “made love” to my current boyfriend, it was about half a year into our relationship, I was blown away. When I get really turned on I start shaking, involuntary jerks even, but this was a different kind of shake. It’s the kind of shakes you get when you’re texting a guy you really really like and you think he might like you back, or after you gain the courage to kiss someone for the first time. It was like I was discovering a whole new feeling towards him.
I wasn’t forcing myself to think about love, I just was by default. The noises that came from both of us were different, I didn’t feel a need to rush or “get there”. After we were done we were both in bliss and couldn’t stop kissing each other. (LettuceWouldntFit)