How Many Partners Has the Average American Had?
What's your number?
SuperDrug conducted a survey of over 2,000 men and women from The U.S. and Europe about their sexual histories.
The undeniable standout of the study is lying. In terms of lying about the amount of previous partners, 67.4% of women said they tell the truth when asked about their number, compared to 58.6% of men. That means that, all things considered, about 1/3 of people lie about this particular question.
When it comes to lying about past lovers, men tend to increase the number of sexual partners they’ve actually been with, while women do the opposite and decrease their number. Why lie, though? Of course many women are still scared of being shamed for being sexually active, while men tend to up their count to appear more experienced.
Most of the people surveyed said that having relations with more than 14 or 15 people is considered “promiscuous.” Of course, SuperDrug did not reveal the ages of those they surveyed, so it could be all gamgams and grandpappys.
So what do people think the idea number of sexual partners to have had is? Both men and women said around seven or eight.
In the Bedroom…
Of course conversations need to be had before you jump into bed with someone, even if it’s a one night stand — and they should be around consent and STIs. Always ask a new partner when they were last tested (please ask to be tested for EVERYTHING because some labs/docs don’t automatically do it). Hell, I got my clean bill of health on my phone in case I need to prove it. But one of those conversations probably shouldn’t be about your old lovers (unless you’re both there for it, I guess).
Out of the 2,000+ questioned, over 60% of men and women believe that sexual history should be disclosed between right away and four months. About 11% of respondents are on my side of “would not disclose.”
How does the good ol’ U.S. of A. stand up?
Well, it goes to show you what a melting pot of people we really are. Utah, known for being quite religious, has the lowest number of average sexual partners with 2.6 people. The state with residents who have the highest number? Louisiana with 15.7 partners. Mardi Gras is a helluva drug, y’all. Wrap it up, though, because in 2014 Louisiana had the highest rate of gonorrhoea (per capita).
Telling your partner the number of people you’ve slept with should be a non-issue. There’s no need to do it as long as they are properly tested and divulge any STIs they may have. That said, it’s totally up to you to decide whether you want to share that. Just know that sometimes it can create problems between partners. Then again, if it does, they’re probably not the person you’re meant to be with!
It’s up to you if you want to share your number. These findings seem pretty low to me, and I’m making an educated guess that the average number of partners will go up while more and more people become liberated regarding their sexuality.
What are your thoughts on revealing the number of sexual partners you have had to your new partner? Do you spill the beans or keep it to yourself? Let us know in the comments, and SHARE this with your friends.