Ask any tall girl, and she will tell you that going out can get awkward. Whether it’s your heels that make you the height of a professional basketball player, guys who come to your shoulder, or the perpetual squat you hold to talk to people, being tall comes with its fair share of uncomfortable situations. Yes, we love being tall — for the style advantages alone — but it’s hard not to squirm when you have to lean down to talk to a guy. Click to see if you (or any of your tall friends) have ever experienced any of these things on TresSugar…
There’s something to be said for a full, well-rounded group of friends — a support network that can be there for you no matter what you need. Although some friends check off plenty of boxes, it’s hard to depend on just one person. That’s why we’re highlighting important relationships everyone should have, just in time for Friendship Day on Sunday. For a sentimental look at the sorts of people you should surround yourself with, take a look at seven must-have friends in every woman’s life. Read more on Tres Sugar…
Thought you left popularity contests behind in high school? WRONG. According to a new, weird study cited by NYMag.com, you’re at your most popular age at 29 years old, when a person has an average of 80 friends. This is compared with other age groups who suffer from a paltry 64 friends at a given time. Hmm,I have some qualms with this “study”: 80 friends-and-good-acquaintances maybe, but 80 friends sounds like an awful lot for one person, even in the social media age. And what’s the point of knowing how popular you are at a given age, anyway? Might not two or three good, solid close friends be better than 80 less dedicated ones (and they are less dedicated, because you’re going to lose some when you’re not 29 anymore)? Oh, well. Enjoy it while it lasts, 29-year-olds. [NYMag.com] [Image of birthday cake via Shutterstock]
Happy National Friendship Day! Let’s make it all about Oprah for a moment, shall we? Oprah says in reference to Gayle (and I’m paraphrasing here), “Nothing’s better than a good friend,” and with the notable exception of a perfectly done French fry, I wholeheartedly agree. There’s really nothing better. If you’re living without, I recommend you fix the situation pronto.
That said, I have no intention of instructing you on how to go about that here; I’m out of practice myself, having slipped into a motley crew of lunatics my freshman year of college and having held on tightly to those lunatics for the better part of 15 years. At this stage, new friends come along only once in a long while. And all I can say in terms of how I find them, is that, well, I don’t really. They find me is how it feels: I’m at a social gathering complaining about my facial hair, when suddenly there’s some new gal beside me who’s like, “My issue has always been my hairy lower back.” So you get to talking and fast-forward five years and she’s the one you call crying about the fact that you’re crying about those Jayonce breakup rumors. So again, I’m not here to tell you how to find her; I’m here to tell you how to assess a new lady friend. How to tell if she’s The One. Or, more specifically a Keeper. Keep reading »
I don’t know why anyone is still talking about the friendzone. I thought we’d established that it’s a whiny, childish idea, that some people feel entitled to a friend’s romantic attraction by rights of … I don’t know, having been their friend? Or that they feel that pretending to be a friend in hopes of getting some is an OK way to relate to other people and not at all dishonest. Or that being friends with someone they think is great is a bad thing, or that they see sex as the end-all be-all of all human relationships. Yeah, definitely childish and entitled.
Of all the sort of casual, social concepts that go hand-in-hand with misogyny (you know, not rape, abuse, disenfranchisement, slavery, or genital mutilation), I think the “friendzone” is the most offensive to me. I get that it sucks to be attracted to someone and not have that attraction reciprocated. The first song I ever recorded was about my grade school crush and how he didn’t like me back. I spent years in a weird situation with another person where we both really liked each other but for one reason or another kept each other at friend-distance, which I think ultimately ruined what was a good friendship. I’ve dated a few guys who I liked better than they liked me, and vice versa. It feels insulting and off-balance, and it feels like you aren’t on the same page when you so, so thought you were.
That being said — oh well? Keep reading »
Of all the ugly emotions out there, jealousy has to be one of the worst. It can feel childish, petty and almost like a primal rage. But it’s also inescapable; jealousy is almost like an epic equalizer, because everybody feels it now and then. On the path toward emotional growth, jealousy is one of the hardest hurdles to take on because it seem like such an out-of-control, counterproductive emotion, but it can be used for good. Whether it’s competitive jealousy with friends and acquaintances or the kind of jealousy that inches its way into monogamous relationships, this crummy feeling can take us to the emotional maturity level of a 7th grader with the snap of a finger. We can’t just make it disappear, but we can find ways to handle it like (semi) grown-ups. Keep reading »