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Dislike The Friendzone? Then You’ll Hate The Enemyzone!

Dislike The Friendzone? Then You'll Hate The Enemyzone!
Guy Talk: Friendzone
What guys need to know about the friendzone. Read More »

I don’t know why anyone is still talking about the friendzone. I thought we’d established that it’s a whiny, childish idea, that some people feel entitled to a friend’s romantic attraction by rights of … I don’t know, having been their friend? Or that they feel that pretending to be a friend in hopes of getting some is an OK way to relate to other people and not at all dishonest. Or that being friends with someone they think is great is a bad thing, or that they see sex as the end-all be-all of all human relationships. Yeah, definitely childish and entitled.

Of all the sort of casual, social concepts that go hand-in-hand with misogyny (you know, not rape, abuse, disenfranchisement, slavery, or genital mutilation), I think the “friendzone” is the most offensive to me. I get that it sucks to be attracted to someone and not have that attraction reciprocated. The first song I ever recorded was about my grade school crush and how he didn’t like me back. I spent years in a weird situation with another person where we both really liked each other but for one reason or another kept each other at friend-distance, which I think ultimately ruined what was a good friendship. I’ve dated a few guys who I liked better than they liked me, and vice versa. It feels insulting and off-balance, and it feels like you aren’t on the same page when you so, so thought you were.

That being said — oh well? Keep reading »

9 Tips For Taking On Jealousy

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Of all the ugly emotions out there, jealousy has to be one of the worst. It can feel childish, petty and almost like a primal rage. But it’s also inescapable; jealousy is almost like an epic equalizer, because everybody feels it now and then. On the path toward emotional growth, jealousy is one of the hardest hurdles to take on because it seem like such an out-of-control, counterproductive emotion, but it can be used for good. Whether it’s competitive jealousy with friends and acquaintances or the kind of jealousy that inches its way into monogamous relationships, this crummy feeling can take us to the emotional maturity level of a 7th grader with the snap of a finger. We can’t just make it disappear, but we can find ways to handle it like (semi) grown-ups. Keep reading »

It’s Time To Cry: This 7-Year-Old Raised $54,000 For His Best Friend’s Surgery

It's Time To Cry: This 7-Year-Old Raised $54,000 For His Best Friend's Surgery

Brayden Grozdanic, a seven-year-old little boy from Vancouver, Canada, has cerebral palsy. He struggles to walk with the help of braces and faces painful physiotherapy every day. In Canada, Brayden can undergo surgery that would allow him to walk without the braces, but a much less invasive procedure is offered in New Jersey for the hefty price of $20,000.

His buddy Quinn, who is also seven, hated watching his friend suffer and wished he could help. He told CTV Vancouver News:

“After I watched one of (Brayden’s) physiotherapy things, and I saw how hard it was for him, I asked my mommy and daddy if I could build a lemonade stand to raise money.”

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This Stray Cat Became Best Friends With A Lynx At The Zoo

This Lynx And Cat Are Bffs
So Many Feelings

The Leningrad Zoo in Russia became home to a stray calico cat when she snuck on the property looking for food. She somehow found her way into the zoo’s lynx closure and soon became best friends with the lynx who lived there. When the zoo saw how close they were, they decided to adopt the kitty and let the pair live together. The emotional music in this video is a little excessive, but it does help conjure up lots of thoughts about the beauty of nature and the power of BFFdom – and it also just really makes me wish I were petting a cat. [Gawker] [Image via Imgur]

Study: Empathy Goes A Lot Further Than Telling Depressed Friends To Think Positive

There’s often nothing more isolating than being told to “cheer up” or “it’s not so bad” when in the throes of a rough patch. Even when it’s clear that a shift in perspective or a perkier outlook could make a situation seem better, it’s not always possible to just flip an internal switch and suddenly decide to feel better. A new study in the Journal of Personality and Social Psychology reminds us of what psychologists have been saying for years — that these “positive reframing” phrases, which we use in an attempt to create perspective, are sometimes anything but helpful. Keep reading »

10 Signs You’re Hosting A Pity Party (In GIFs!)

Ever have a bad day? Maybe someone cut you off on the way to work, your favorite show was canceled, the last cookie in the jar was covered in mold, or you broke a bone on vacation (sigh, that would be me). Whatever it is, it’s healthy to acknowledge what’s bothering you, but don’t linger there too long. Take a few minutes to sing the blues and move on, or you may find yourself hosting a sad, pathetic pity party for one. Keep reading »

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