My best friend is a woman. My best friend in college was a woman. In fact, a majority of my closest friends since college have been women. And this presents a problem in my dating life.
There isn’t one single reason why I have more female friends than male ones and if you looked at my weekly activities, it would seem strange that I don’t have more male friends. Every weekend I enjoy traditionally masculine, rip-my-chest-hair-out activities, like hockey and football. Yet it’s my female friends who I tend to call when I want to go out.
For starters, I do have a somewhat functional brain that is capable of functioning independently of my penis (albeit the little guy does occasionally develop a Napoleon complex). This has led to several of my close female friends starting out as love interests. Others I met while on my college’s ski team. Additionally, there is the fact that most of the closest male friends I had in college were the earliest to get married and have kids. Keep reading »
A new study from the University of New South Wales has found that expressing gratitude to new acquaintances will earn you friends. The study was put together to explore a theory that suggests that gratitude helps people create new relationships, build on the ones they already have, and help to maintain both. In an effort to test the “new relationships” aspect of that theory, researchers studied 70 university students who gave advice to younger peers. The students were told that they were mentoring high school students and critique their university admissions essays. Afterwards, the mentors received handwritten notes from their faux mentees, and only about half of those notes included an expression of thanks for assisting them with their essays. The mentors who were thanked were more likely to give the younger students their contact information and presumably continue the friendship. The mentors also reported warmer personalities when it came to the grateful mentees, and that warmth is probably why grateful people make lots of friends. Keep reading »
Not all friendships work out. We all can’t be the sisterhood of the traveling pants, okay? Sometimes somebody (with bad taste) just decides you suck. If you’re fortunate, a friendship fizzles out slowly and imperceptibly, without any awkward requests to get that cardigan back. If you’re not-so-fortunate, your friendship is going to end in either one or a series of small confrontations. We can’t avoid breaking up with our friends or getting friend-dumped. But we can apply some rules of engagement so it’s not a complete and utter shitshow, like many a romantic breakup.
Allow me to add an honorary attachment to the Girl Code (although this certainly applies to male friends, too):
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Ask any tall girl, and she will tell you that going out can get awkward. Whether it’s your heels that make you the height of a professional basketball player, guys who come to your shoulder, or the perpetual squat you hold to talk to people, being tall comes with its fair share of uncomfortable situations. Yes, we love being tall — for the style advantages alone — but it’s hard not to squirm when you have to lean down to talk to a guy. Click to see if you (or any of your tall friends) have ever experienced any of these things on TresSugar…
There’s something to be said for a full, well-rounded group of friends — a support network that can be there for you no matter what you need. Although some friends check off plenty of boxes, it’s hard to depend on just one person. That’s why we’re highlighting important relationships everyone should have, just in time for Friendship Day on Sunday. For a sentimental look at the sorts of people you should surround yourself with, take a look at seven must-have friends in every woman’s life. Read more on Tres Sugar…
Thought you left popularity contests behind in high school? WRONG. According to a new, weird study cited by NYMag.com, you’re at your most popular age at 29 years old, when a person has an average of 80 friends. This is compared with other age groups who suffer from a paltry 64 friends at a given time. Hmm,I have some qualms with this “study”: 80 friends-and-good-acquaintances maybe, but 80 friends sounds like an awful lot for one person, even in the social media age. And what’s the point of knowing how popular you are at a given age, anyway? Might not two or three good, solid close friends be better than 80 less dedicated ones (and they are less dedicated, because you’re going to lose some when you’re not 29 anymore)? Oh, well. Enjoy it while it lasts, 29-year-olds. [NYMag.com] [Image of birthday cake via Shutterstock]