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8 Tips For Getting Along With Your Ex When You Share Friends

It’s only natural to date someone in your circle of friends. But what happens when the relationship ends? How do you handle the next pool party or skiing invitation from your buddies, when you know he’ll be there, too? Whether you part on decent terms or really really bad ones, it’s going to get awkward. If you want to keep your friends, however, you’ll need to figure out a way to get along with your ex. After the jump, eight tips for getting along with an ex in your circle of friends. Keep reading »

8 Women Talk About How They’ve Stayed Friends With Exes

Sometimes you hear women talk about how and why they stay friends with their exes and wonder how they do it. For some of us that seems impossible. After the jump, eight women share their thoughts about how they are able to keep friendships with exes. Keep reading »

Dear Wendy Updates: “Needs New Friends” Responds

It’s time again for “Dear Wendy Updates,” a feature where people I’ve given advice to in the past let us know whether they followed the advice and how they’re doing today. After the jump, we hear from “Needs New Friends,” who had lost friends in her breakup and didn’t know how to make new ones or transition well into her new single life. After the jump, find how how she’s doing now six months later. Keep reading »

Dear Wendy: “My IM Buddy Wants To Come Visit: Awkward!”

I’m 26 and have been in a happy relationship with a wonderful guy for two years. Over the last year, I’ve found it helpful to supplement my Russian language courses with IM sessions on a reputable language exchange website. I chat with people of either gender, and my boyfriend is aware of this. One native speaker is particularly helpful and wants to improve his English, so we have been IM-ing twice a week for an hour over the last year. We discuss food, music, or movies, but we don’t flirt. In fact, until his recent separation with his wife, he’d often speak lovingly of her (as I do of my BF). Yesterday, he asked if we could grab coffee when he comes to town. I agreed, thinking that he was in town on business and coffee would just be a “since I’m already here” thing. Then I found out (after persistent questioning) that he’s coming to Toronto for a wedding, but is planning to fly to Calgary to meet me in person, before returning to France where he works. I know he’s not rich, and he doesn’t seem to be coming to Calgary for any other reason. I’m hard-pressed to believe that someone would go that far out of his way just for a short platonic meeting. What is he really expecting of me? Should I ask my boyfriend to join us? — Lost in Translation

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Girl Talk: Being A Bridesmaid Drained My Bank Account

Megin and I first met as mid-level slaves to the fashion industry eight years ago. I recognized a kindred spirit the minute I caught her screaming harsh obscenities at her computer. We’ve been through boyfriend breakups, apartment break-ins, and career changes. So when she asked me to be a bridesmaid, I jumped at the chance to stand by her side and watch her start a new life with the man she loved. Of course I wanted to support her in any way possible on her big day; I just didn’t realize how much it would cost me! Keep reading »

The Girl Crush Defined

There’s this thing called a girl crush, and we all have them. You don’t think you do? What about that girl in high school who had the best clothes? You always loved her fashion sense, and you occasionally go to her Facebook profile when a new album of hers pops up in your newsfeed. You long for her Chanel bag and adorable romper for a few minutes, and then you move on. That’s a girl crush! Or what about that friend of a friend who socializes in the same circle as you? Heads turn when she walks in the room, and you love that she speaks two languages fluently, just like you’ve always wanted to. That’s a girl crush, too. Sometimes, you can’t help but be attracted to qualities or characteristics in other women, whether they’re qualities you want or not. Keep reading »

Dear Wendy: “I Want To Skip My BFF’s Wedding”

My best friend in the whole wide world has been away for about two years, and now she’s back and in love with a guy from her childhood and getting hitched. I barely know the guy, but I don’t have a good feeling about him, and worse, she “changes” for him. Meaning her values may have changed as a result of his influence. I’m uncomfortable with the whole thing because I feel like she’s rushing into it. She’s never lived with the guy, and they’ve only been dating long-distance for six months or so. I’m finding it difficult to be genuinely happy for her, and what’s worse, I feel super guilty about it. Correct that: I AM happy for her, but I still need some time to get used to the idea. But I don’t have time: the wedding is set for October, and she’s assuming I’ll be in it. Already, I feel overwhelmed. I thought the wedding would be at least a year away; in fact, she assured me it would. The fact that I just found out that the wedding going to be alcohol free is making things worse. Yikes. How am I going to get through it? Is there any way I can get out of it without destroying our friendship? Moreover, am I a bad friend for not acting thrilled about the whole thing and jumping in head first to support her? We’re like sisters, and now I just feel terrible. — Losing Sleep in LIC

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Dating Don’ts: How NOT To Mesh Your Friends With His

You’ve met his friends; he’s met yours. Now it’s time to add fruity cocktails and mix. Short of introducing your parents to his, combining your two sets of friends—especially if they exist in very different worlds—is one of the most nerve-wracking milestones in a relationship. And since summertime is party time, it’s probably going to happen in the next month or so. Here are a few steps you can take to make sure it’s not a complete disaster. Keep reading »

Making Friends Is Like Dating

Of the 11 guests who recently got wasted at my apartment, I’d guess that approximately zero could tell you my sister’s name.

I doubt any would know if my parents are still together or who the latest guy I dated was. Maybe half would know I grew up in Texas. A casual observer might find this lack of basic information surprising, given how comfortable we were with each other: One guy lay on his back giving a girl an airplane ride on his legs, while a different girl swigged straight from a wine bottle on my couch. Read more Keep reading »

15 Lies We Should Stop Telling Each Other (And Ourselves)

Today is National Tell The Truth Day, and it’s time to get real. Stop lying! Some people (us included) love to beat around the bush or zip their lip while their friends make serious mistakes. Hate the bridesmaid dress you have to wear? Tell the bride (unless it’s the day of her wedding). Listening to your girlfriends whine about shady men? Remind them they deserve better! Whether you’re dealing with fashion disasters, diet choices, or relationship problems, here are all the lies we simply must stop telling each other and ourselves. Keep reading »

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