It’s time again for “Dear Wendy Updates,” a feature where people I’ve given advice to in the past let us know whether they followed the advice and how they’re doing today. After the jump, we hear from “Needs New Friends,” who had lost friends in her breakup and didn’t know how to make new ones or transition well into her new single life. After the jump, find how how she’s doing now six months later. Keep reading »
Megin and I first met as mid-level slaves to the fashion industry eight years ago. I recognized a kindred spirit the minute I caught her screaming harsh obscenities at her computer. We’ve been through boyfriend breakups, apartment break-ins, and career changes. So when she asked me to be a bridesmaid, I jumped at the chance to stand by her side and watch her start a new life with the man she loved. Of course I wanted to support her in any way possible on her big day; I just didn’t realize how much it would cost me! Keep reading »
There’s this thing called a girl crush, and we all have them. You don’t think you do? What about that girl in high school who had the best clothes? You always loved her fashion sense, and you occasionally go to her Facebook profile when a new album of hers pops up in your newsfeed. You long for her Chanel bag and adorable romper for a few minutes, and then you move on. That’s a girl crush! Or what about that friend of a friend who socializes in the same circle as you? Heads turn when she walks in the room, and you love that she speaks two languages fluently, just like you’ve always wanted to. That’s a girl crush, too. Sometimes, you can’t help but be attracted to qualities or characteristics in other women, whether they’re qualities you want or not. Keep reading »
You’ve met his friends; he’s met yours. Now it’s time to add fruity cocktails and mix. Short of introducing your parents to his, combining your two sets of friends—especially if they exist in very different worlds—is one of the most nerve-wracking milestones in a relationship. And since summertime is party time, it’s probably going to happen in the next month or so. Here are a few steps you can take to make sure it’s not a complete disaster. Keep reading »
Of the 11 guests who recently got wasted at my apartment, I’d guess that approximately zero could tell you my sister’s name.
I doubt any would know if my parents are still together or who the latest guy I dated was. Maybe half would know I grew up in Texas. A casual observer might find this lack of basic information surprising, given how comfortable we were with each other: One guy lay on his back giving a girl an airplane ride on his legs, while a different girl swigged straight from a wine bottle on my couch. Read more … Keep reading »
Today is National Tell The Truth Day, and it’s time to get real. Stop lying! Some people (us included) love to beat around the bush or zip their lip while their friends make serious mistakes. Hate the bridesmaid dress you have to wear? Tell the bride (unless it’s the day of her wedding). Listening to your girlfriends whine about shady men? Remind them they deserve better! Whether you’re dealing with fashion disasters, diet choices, or relationship problems, here are all the lies we simply must stop telling each other and ourselves. Keep reading »
You know that one guy friend of yours who’s always been something of a question in the back of your mind? The one who finishes your sentences and is there for you whenever you need him, but whom you’ve never actually gotten naked with? You know the one – he’s the prime candidate for your “If we’re not married by the time we’re 45” pact.
I have one of those guys in my life, and recently, after evaluating what it was that I’m really looking for in a relationship and thinking it might be him, I decided to take the leap. I vowed to be brave and bold and all mature-like and actually address aloud what had been unsaid for all this time.
So, I did exactly that. And basically, this happened. To my complete and utter surprise, he explained that I’d totally misread his signals; that, in fact, he hadn’t thought of me in that way for a very long time.
Where, in my interpretation of things, had I gone so utterly wrong? Keep reading »
If you’re lucky, you have an awesome group of girlfriends. Our friends keep us sane and happy … most of the time. What about the friends who aren’t always true blue? The fair-weather friend is in your address book, but she doesn’t always make it to your planner. You count her as one of your closest buddies, but she has let you down more times than you can count. Here’s how to deal with a friend who isn’t treating you the way you deserve to be treated. Keep reading »