Not to put too grim a spin on it, but it’s a fact that most relationships eventually end, and most of us have been on both sides of the breakup equation. Here’s a brief guide to handling being either end—the dumper or the dumpee. Keep reading »
Tag Archives: friendship
10 Signs He Might Be A Moodle
Is your new flavor of the week extremely good-looking, complementary at the bar, always well-dressed and open about his emotions? He might seem perfect, but maybe he is just a moodle, a man-poodle. Here’s a little explanation of the man-poodle from Urban Dictionary: “Women like to walk the moodle, feed the moodle, play with the moodle, but they never do the moodle.” After the jump, find out the 10 signs your new guy might be a moodle! Keep reading »
Are All Your Friends Lying To You? Lori Gottlieb, Fairy Godmother Of Rudeness, Thinks So
We all have friends who act stupid. The one who’s sleeping with her unemployed alcoholic ex again. The one who continues to pick up her mother’s phone calls even though they always end in tears. The one who works for corporate America and still posts nip-slip pics of herself on Facebook. We, the friends, usually stand by as these inanities occur, lying in wait with a shoulder to cry on. That is the role of a friend, right? We’re here for you after the fact.
But in a piece for July’s issue of Marie Claire, author Lori Gottlieb argues we are the ones making bad decisions by not being blunt with our friends. (You’re crazy if you’re still seeing that jerk! Your mother is messing around with your head! You’re going to lose your job if you don’t exercise a little more discretion!) As female friends, Gottlieb writes, we “yes” our pals “into false presumptions and bad decisions … convincing one another that anyone who disagrees with us is wrong.” Keep reading »
How To Deal When Roommates And Their Partners Stage A Home Invasion
Having a roommate can be a godsend if you want to live in an expensive city. But a roommate can also be a major annoyance in your life, especially if she or he has a habit of bringing home late night lovers or giving their partners all-access passes to your apartment. Headphones and an easy-going attitude can only get you so far. Luckily, there are ways to avoid roommate wars and uncomfortable confrontations. Here are a few things you can do to give yourself some peace of mind and some peace in your apartment. Keep reading »
Dear Wendy: “My Boyfriend Won’t Let Me Sleep Over”
I’ve been seeing this really great guy for about a month. We’ve ended a few evenings at my place and fooled around until the wee hours of the morning, yet he has refused to sleep over even though I’ve explicitly invited him. He said he had a hard time sleeping next to someone because he’s a fussy sleeper, is used to his own bed, needs to listen to the radio, et cetera, so it would just be easier if he went home. But then last weekend, when we were in the same situation, only at his place, he made me take the bus home at 3 a.m. rather than let me sleep over (he did walk me to the bus stop). He said it had to do with his trust issues and that he found it very difficult to feel comfortable sleeping next to someone. I was upset and we talked about the issue a few days later, and he said that he had had bad experiences before (having a panic attack while a girlfriend stayed over once) and had fully intended to let me sleep over, but then got scared at the last minute and refused. We also agreed to give the sleepover a try next time. My question is, what do I do if he can’t handle sleeping next to me? Is it unreasonable for me to expect to be able to stay over at the end of the night? How do I put him at ease? And if I can’t, should this be a dealbreaker? — Losing Sleep
5 Good Reasons To Crack A Smile
How many times a day do you smile? Chances are it might not be enough. Smiling can change your mood, making you feel happy even when you didn’t think you could. Think about it — people are always busy, whether they’re late to work, shopping around, or running errands. We often forget how easy it is to smile and the significant effect it can have on improving your perspetive. If happiness is not enough of an incentive to start smiling, well, for the hell of it, then maybe getting a beach bod is. While smiling may not directly burn calories, it might lead to a good laugh, which could burn anywhere from 10 to 40 calories per day! Science, people! After the jump, find out five more reasons to smile just because. Keep reading »
Girl Talk: Honesty — Did I Do It Wrong?
I consider myself to be a pretty honest person, save the occasional white lie — “Oh yeah, I’ve read War & Peace. Thought-provoking!” However, I think telling the truth is not always easy and it doesn’t necessarily work out how you’d like it to. The goal of telling the truth shouldn’t be about relieving a guilty conscience; if being honest is going to have massive repercussions, it’s important for the truth-teller to really consider its worth; other people’s truths should be theirs to tell, unless the emotional cost to the one being lied to is that grave. Ultimately, though, I think we all decide when to be honest based on whether we would want to hear the truth ourselves. Is it a foolproof decision-making method? Definitely not, but sometimes it’s all we’ve got. Keep reading »
The Frisky Ladies Confess Their Deepest, Darkest Secrets
You know what girls are good at? Keeping secrets. Just kidding. No, we are not. Women like to share and care, and the ladies who work for The Frisky are no exception. But what are the deep, dark secrets of The Frisky ladies? From not-so-secret sexual assignations to repeat visits to Star Trek Conventions to plastic surgery confessions, we dish all — anonymously, of course — after the jump. Keep reading »
15 Lies Women Tell Each Other
We’ve discussed the most common lies women tell men and men tell women, but what about those little white lies women tell each other? For the most part, women fib to one another to spare feelings, but sometimes, as the Daily Mail reports today, lies are told to sabotage the competition (how rude!). After the jump, the 15 most common lies women tell each other. Keep reading »
Would You Be Cool With Your Significant Other Having A Best Friend Of The Opposite Sex?
This may come as no surprise to some regular Frisky readers, but John DeVore — our Mind of Man — is my best guy friend. If I were to rank all of my friends in order of importance, he would probably be in the Top 3. (I wouldn’t say he is my number one, like Elizabeth Hurley views her ex, Hugh Grant, but he could potentially work his way into that spot.) Back in my engaged days, I really wanted him to be a bridesmaid and/or officiate the ceremony — were I to ever get married in the future and have a wedding, I hope he’ll be up for the job. When I have a problem, he’s one of the first people I turn to for advice, a laugh, or a shoulder to cry on. When I hook up with a dude, I usually tell him, though he always stops me before I can get to the juicy bits. As guys are wont to be, he is less over-sharey with me, but I believe he knows he can talk to me about anything. In short, John DeVore and I are tight. He’s the Ken Paves to my Jessica Simpson, only not a gay hairdresser (though he does love musical theater and does a mean updo). Keep reading »
