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Girl Talk: I Lost My Boyfriend But Gained A Best Friend

“I know what you want and I just can’t give it to you.” My boyfriend of seven months, Jonathan*, started to cry before I could ask any questions. For some reason seeing a man cry immobilizes me. I don’t know what to do. I decided to comfort him. I put my arms around him, squeezing into my tiny love seat to sit next to him. I took his pizza slice and put it in the kitchen. I got him a box of Kleenex. Keep reading »

Dear Wendy: “My Friend Dumped Me And I Want Her Back”

I’m a senior in college and last year, my friends Angela and Rachel and I lived together and it was a disaster. Angela and I fought a lot as we’re both stubborn and I was depressed after a death in my family so I lashed out a bit. Since then, I’ve spent time dealing with my issues and am in a different place now and I’ve apologized to both my former roommates. But, Angela is still living with Rachel and one day, four months after our last argument, she decided that all the events that transpired were worth cutting me out of both their lives. She stopped taking my calls and answering my texts, (gasp!) deleted me and blocked my profile on Facebook, and constantly hounds Rachel to stop hanging out with me (even though we have classes together), giving her hell if I’m invited over or if she comes over to my apartment. Angela, in the small bit of contact I have had with her, says that no matter how different I think I am now, it doesn’t dissolve the past and she’s tired of fighting, which I would understand if things hadn’t been fine for four months. I’m really good friends with my current roommate and I have other friends, but I still get really lonely. Both of my best friends are gone and I guess I’m just wondering: what do I do next? Should I try apologizing again? Should I give it up and keep myself busy enough to not think about it? –– Three’s Company

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Guy Talk: A Man’s Female Friendships Are Nothing To Worry About

I have a fair number of female friends, and sometimes dating is hard as a result. I’m not Casanova — I write on the internet for a living, for Christ’s sake — but my girlfriends often get jealous of my girl-gendered friends. They think that if I’m hanging out with a female friend, I’m probably having sex with them. If I were having sex on the side, this article would be titled something like “How To Tell If Your Ugly Boyfriend Has Somehow Figured Out How To Sleep With More Than One Person.” Unfortunately, my motives are as pure as they come. I’m trying to get my girlfriend to stop bothering me. Keep reading »

Girl Talk: I Don’t Have A Posse

I’ll be frank: not having a close group of girl friends makes me feel like a failure.

Sometimes not having a close group of friends makes me feel like a failure, but mostly it’s not having a posse of girlfriends, six or eight women to flank me in salmon bridesmaids gowns, that makes me feel like I’ve done something wrong. Aren’t I supposed to have women with whom to start a book club, a knitting circle? Isn’t there supposed to be a core group to call upon for appletinis in our most satin-y, shiniest clothes? Aren’t we supposed to rehash Saturday night’s antics over Sunday brunch? Groups of friends aren’t just reflected back everywhere at me in pop culture — The Babysitters Club, “90210,” “Gossip Girl,” “Sex & The City” — but in the lives of other women I know as well. But my life just doesn’t, and hasn’t ever, looked like that. Keep reading »

What Girlfriends Does Every Girl Need?

My mom always said that there are three kinds of friends in this world: friends for a reason, friends for a season or friends for life. (My mom loves rhyming advice.)

Lately, in the age of 500-plus Facebook friends, it’s a question everyone seems to be asking: Is real friendship dying? Which relationships really matter? And is it better to have one BFF — or an army of acquaintances? Read more Keep reading »

Dear Wendy: The Deal With Post-Breakup Friendships

About three months ago I broke up with my first really serious boyfriend. It was messy, because I wasn’t expecting it. We’ve since started talking again, and I’d even call him a friend — albeit a long-distance one. I went through a really rough period a few weeks ago, and he was incredibly supportive through it all. I know he values my friendship very highly, too. The problem, as you’ve probably guessed, is that the more often I talk to him, the more I find myself wanting him back, while he has made it clear he doesn’t feel this way at all. We were really good friends before we started dating, and I appreciate his friendship too much to completely cut him out of my life, but I have a feeling that’s the only way I’m going to get completely over him. My saving grace is that he lives across the country from me, so IM, texting, and phone calls are our only interactions. So my question, I guess, is what to do — cut him out and lose a great friend in order to protect my heart? Or, keep talking to him and try to keep up my guard so I don’t get hurt again? — Friends Without Benefits

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Girl Talk: I Googled My Crush And Found Out The Worst

It started out as a normal, 21st century love story: I met Paul*, I liked Paul, so I Googled Paul. We’d been hanging out for two months, and I knew he was fluent in French, played guitar, and liked India Pale Ale. Now I was ready for the good stuff, the stuff only the internet could tell me. I was hoping to find mentions of him in school newspapers, signs of previous girlfriends, and, if I was lucky, the holy grail of Googling: his high school LiveJournal. Keep reading »

15 People You Should NOT Be Friends With On Facebook

Even though the Facebook empire is taking over the world and everyone you know in it (even your grandparents), that doesn’t mean that you are obligated to accept every friend request or suggestion that comes your way. In fact, there are some people who are best left out of your social network. After the jump, the people you should never friend on Facebook. Because not all friend requests are created equal. Keep reading »

Dear Wendy: “My BFF Dumped Me Because My Husband Is Friends With Her Ex”

I have been friends with an interesting lady for about six years. She even was a bridesmaid in my wedding in July. My problem is this: she and her boyfriend of four years had a pretty nasty breakup a few weeks before my husband’s and my wedding; no one was really in the wrong, they were just really terrible together and the relationship should have ended years ago. Before they broke up, she and her boyfriend and my then-fiance and I would double-date. My husband and her boyfriend ended up really hitting it off and becoming close friends, a status they maintained following the break-up. About a month ago she decided that she had to cut her ex, and everyone connected to him in any way, out of her life, including me. I feel a huge sense of loss because she was perhaps my closest friend, but I never wronged her in any way other than not demanding that my husband end his friendship with her ex as it seems she would have had me do. Should I leave any thoughts of renewing the friendship and move on? Should I call her and ask her to go to lunch? I can’t help but hope that, in time, she will become a more stable and mature person and we can resume our friendship, but at the same time, I am still reeling from the betrayal that I feel. — Missing My (Immature) Friend

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Girl Talk: To Friend Or Not To Friend My Therapist?

With the movie “The Social Network” debuting last week amid much hype, I find myself with an interesting Facebook-induced dilemma: whether or not to “friend” my therapist. We’ve never met in person, yet her perky face keeps popping up on my computer screen. Keep reading »

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