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Bikini Kill’s Kathleen Hanna & Kathi Wilcox Play The Friendship Game

Kathleen Hanna Rocks
Le Tigre photo
Kathleen Hanna of Le Tigre on being a feminist ambassador. Read More »
Bikini Kill's Beginnings
How the best-known riot grrl band got its start! Read More »
Kathleen On Katy
She calls "I Kissed A Girl" a straight up offensive song. Read More »
Kathleen Hanna and Kathi Wilcox
"Kathleen is secretly good at chess."

Guys, it was a rough weekend, what with the coverage of the Steubenville rape verdict, and all the rape apologists and all. Very disheartening. But then I caught this little gem of a video — Bikini Kill legends Kathleen Hanna and Kathi Wilcox playing “The Friendship Game” — and I felt a little bit better. It’s hard to believe that Bikini Kill is more than 20 years old now; the band’s music is still as vibrant and prescient as ever. [Huffington Post]

10 Things Every Non-Black Person Should Know (By Now) About Black Women

On Interracial Dating
Madame Noire and The Frisky discuss interracial dating. Read More »
Lisa's Racist Tweet
Her schtick abuses the art of comedy. Read More »
On The N-Word
Madame Noire asks why some white people want to say the n-word so bad. Read More »

We’re more than a decade into the 21st century. I’d hoped — in vain — that some basic understandings of how non-Black people should interact with Black people could be something I could take for granted. But no. Somehow there are “those people” who remain entirely clueless, so much so that they will call a 9-year old the c-word, or paint a white model bronze-Black, or not even, as so-called, journalists, bother to learn the pronunciation of an Oscar nominee’s name. This is unacceptable.

Recently, I read the comments section of a post on Clutch where a male reader was baffled as how to initiate a conversation with Black women and asked for some rules. Several helpful women obliged. In the same spirit of combating ignorance, I offer rules for non-Black people to engage Black women without causing offense. If you can manage NOT to do the following, you can probably come across as a decent human being.

Humbly, I submit a basic list, my rules of engagement, and ask you NOT to do the following (and encourage Black women to add to the list in the comments)… Keep reading »

Girl Talk: How I Learned To Stop Equivocating And Just Remove The Jerks From My Life

FB Friend Dealbreakers
These Facebook infractions will get you unfriended. Read More »
Evolution Of Friendship
On the evolution of female friendship. Read More »
Toxic Friendships
15 toxic friends you need to dump ASAP. Read More »

In the past couple of months, I’ve tried something new: I’ve removed people from my life  who were not adding anything to it. I de-friended on Facebook. I unfollowed on Twitter. I stopped responding to emails.

This is so unlike me. Keep reading »

Girl Talk: On What It Means To Be A Real Friend

Friends We Need
Six types of friends every woman needs. Read More »
Digital Friendships
Is the computer killing our bonds with friends? Read More »
FB Friends To Keep
Because they're so fun to stalk! Read More »

In fall of 2010, I went through maybe one of the lowest points in my life. I was dumped over IM by my live-in boyfriend (yes, that one) and due to a zillion circumstances outside of my control, my work life was in complete chaos. I walked around for weeks with a burning feeling in my stomach, unable to eat or sleep and in a total daze. I committed the cardinal sin of crying at work, and begged a doctor friend to write me a prescription for anxiety meds (I didn’t have health insurance at the time). I went to therapy. I bought self-help books on cognitive therapy to try and shake the shitty, negative thoughts that constantly ran through my head. I felt like a raw nerve with absolutely no hope of ever healing.

So I did the completely sensible thing, and bought a plane ticket to Barcelona. Keep reading »

I Always Wanted To Ask: The Frisky & Madame Noire Tackle White Privilege And Diversifying Friendship Circles

I ALWAYS WANTED TO ASK...
Do White People Understand White Privilege?

This may be my favorite episode so far in our “I Always Wanted To Ask” series, which features the staff at Madame Noire — Brande, Veronica and Victoria — answering the questions we always wanted to ask Black women, and The Frisky staff answering the questions they always wanted to ask white women. In this episode, we talk about whether white women think about race, and white privilege, as much as they do. Also, we discuss the issue of diversity in — and diversifying — our friendship circles. It’s a good one, so check out the video above and weigh in with your thoughts and experiences in the comments!

On The N-Word
Madame Noire asks why some white people want to say the n-word so bad. Read More »
On Interracial Dating
Madame Noire and The Frisky discuss interracial dating. Read More »
Black Women Stereotypes
Stephen Colbert gets schooled on stereotypes of black women. Read More »

Girl Talk: Fat Girls Are A Man’s Best Friend

He Told Me To Lose Weight
When he told me to lose weight, I got rid of him. Read More »
Fat And White?
Is "fat and white" the new "sassy and black" in Hollywood? Read More »
Bikini Thoughts
The things that freak me out when I think about myself in a bikini. Read More »
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Years ago, I had a conversation with a group of my close male friends and the age old question came up: Can men and women really be just friends? My boy Otto said, “No way! Guys always want to sleep with their female friends.” My friend Steve interjected, “Of course! I have a platonic female friends and I love them to death.” But then my friend Yorell said, “Yes, men can have platonic female friends, but only with women that are unattractive. If she’s pretty, there is no way you can be just her friend. That doesn’t mean it’s not a genuine friendship, but if you get the opportunity to smash, you will. Unless … she’s ugly.” Keep reading »

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