The Frisky Forum

The Super Religious Guy

2008-08-02T09:52:00-05:00

Is this a dealbreaker or no?

I have personally never dated a super religious guy, but I did date a Jewish guy for 3 years. It always baffled me that he maintained such strong ideas about marriage and Judaism. He certainly wasn't practicing and probably hadn't been since he was 13, but yet he expected any woman he married to be Jewish or convert, which I found hypocritical. He also had very strong ideas about raising any of his children as Jewish, which I didn't agree with. All in all it was doomed from the beginning because I have very strong opinions in general. I was never baptized and don't have a religion at all. I feel that my children should be able to choose whatever religion they want and if they don't want one then that's fine too. Luckily I found a man who was never baptized as well so it makes that whole subject a lot easier.

Check out Jocelyn's post on the subject and come back here to post your thoughts!

Living Together Before Marriage?

2008-05-10T22:50:25-05:00

In this week's Friday Quickies there was a link to a Dear Sugar post where they asked whether or not idea to wait until marriage before cohabitating. I thought the overwhelming response would be no, but the debate is pretty even and almost leans in the direction of waiting until marriage before living together.

I want to know what everyone here thinks on the subject. Do you think people should wait until marriage before living together or do you think it's a good idea to test the waters before you say "I do"?

The Health Benefits of Masturbation

2008-08-11T23:49:15-05:00

As if you really needed an excuse to get to know yourself.

Health Benefits for Men

Research summarized in a 2007 article in Sexual and Relationship Therapy found that masturbation may help men by:

— Improving his immune system’s functioning.

— Building his resistance to prostate gland infection.

— Making for a healthier prostate.

Australian researchers have reported that frequent masturbation may lower a man’s risk of developing prostate cancer. A survey of men found the more frequently a man masturbates between the ages of 20 and 50, the less likely they are to get prostate cancer. In fact, those who masturbated more than five times a week were one-third less likely to develop prostate cancer.

Health Benefits for Females

When it comes to a woman’s health, self-pleasuring serves her well by:

— Building her resistance to yeast infections.

— Combating pre-menstrual tension and other physical conditions associated with their menstrual cycles, like cramps.

— Relieving painful menstruation by increasing blood flow to the pelvic region. This will also reduce pelvic cramping and related backaches.

— Relieving chronic back pain and increasing her threshold for pain.

Health Benefits for Both Sexes

Masturbation rewards both men and women because it’s:

— The safest kind of sex, keeping you free of sexually transmitted infections.

— A great form of stress relief.

— A mood booster in releasing endorphins.

— A natural sleep sedative.

— A mechanism for building stronger pelvic floor muscles, which can lead to better sex.

— A natural energetic pick-me-up.

Courtesy of Fox News

Is it just me or are men shallow?

2008-08-02T16:21:30-05:00

About a month ago I got fed up with my 2 and half years of being single and decided to try online dating. So far I've talked to lots of guys and had a couple of casual dates. I'm an attractive woman with pretty eyes, nice facial features, nice teeth, and an athletic body type. I have a head shot and another head shot ( from the torso up). But one question that I get from men is, "Do you have a full-body shot?" This question bothers me because you can tell from my pictures that I'm not fat.

I've heard the whole "men are visual" excuse a million times. I'm a woman and I'm "visual" too. If a guy's got a nice face, good credentials, and has interesting things to say, I'm generally willing to keep talking to him. I care about what he'll "look like", but I'd rather just meet the guy for 30 mins at a local coffee shop and see whether he's worth it. Everyone looks different in person than in their pictures.

So I guess what I'm wondering is what the hell are men expecting to get from looking at a picture? Are they too lazy to meet a girl in person and see what her true shape is? Why are they so shallow?

Toothbrush Cooties?

2008-02-09T18:52:18-05:00

I recently started seeing someone new. The first time he spent the night at my house, I woke up to find him using my toothbruth. OK, I know we've just swapped bodily fluids and all, but isn't that a little presumptuously intimate? And, er, gross?

colored condoms

2008-01-16T11:40:39-05:00

what are your thoughts?

Purity Test

2008-03-05T00:13:00-05:00

I have a thing for quizzes and polls. I can't help myself when I see a quiz or poll that is really good. I was just browsing around online when I thought back to this purity test I took in college on TheSpark.com. I did a quick search and pulled up a plethora of purity tests, and even found the original Spark purity test. I took two different tests and was 41% pure according to the Spark test and 60% pure according to the other. I'm so proud of my sordid past (and present...lol)!

If you want to find out how pure you are you can take the purity test here (this one is pretty extensive): http://www.puritytest.net/ or my favorite, the old Spark.com Purity Test (you need to create an account to see your results): http://www.okcupid.com/tests/take?testid=6723848929018245563.

How pure are you?

eek! what to do when asked about your sex roster count?

2008-08-01T14:33:12-05:00

there comes a time for most girls when your new/current boyfriend asks about your 'number' or 'roster count' as i call it. aka... how many dudes you've slept with.

how do ya'll handle this situation...and has lying/telling the truth impacted your relationship!?

Guys wearing makeup

2008-07-30T14:31:23-05:00

What do you think? As for me, I think guys can look pretty hot with a bit of eyeliner, but I wouldn't want to be with someone who wore it on a regular basis. But a guy with concealer - not for me!

http://www.guardian.co.uk/lifeandstyle/2008/jul/30/beauty.fashion

Is Polyamory Just An Excuse To Be Greedy?

2008-07-22T23:41:21-05:00

I've been seeing the term polyamory popping up a lot recently and something about it makes me feel wrong inside. I personally would not want to love and have sex with multiple partners at a time, but I'm sure there are people out there that do and it works for them. Would you consider polyamory or do you only want to share your love (and body) with one person at a time?

If you’re not familiar with it, polyamory (which means “many loves”) is the practice of having more than one open sexual, romantic relationship. Typically characterized as loving, poly-relationships don’t just involve sex, but emotions as well.