Recently I got a chance to meet Isabel Dresler (safe for work), who I’ve taken to calling “photographer to queer porn stars.” She’s shot with some queer porn faves like Courtney Trouble, Dylan Ryan, Andre Shakti, and Siouxsie Q. We got to chatting at a shoot for the cover of the East Bay Express on the local porn scene, where Betty Blac, Jolene Parton and I helped fulfill her desire to have a photo taken while she was being smothered by breasts.
There’s an interesting combination of intimacy and high fashion that manifests under her gaze. I was curious to ask her a bit more about it, as well as why she decided to focus attention on marketing photos for sex workers. I liked how she called herself more of a scientist than an artistic photographer, investing her time in the study of her subject (which could be anything from insects to fancy homes). Everyone seems to be obsessed about the sex part of sex work, but it’s still work. As such, middle class indoor sex work often requires some practical and related investments: a decent website, a second phone, and, of course, some excellent photos.
Here’s my conversation with Dresler, after the jump: Keep reading »
Guys, close your eyes and imagine this. You’re just trying to go about your life and do your thing, but there’s this chick who keeps tapping you on the shoulder to tell you really dumb, childish things. She’ll say stuff like, “Hey, your shorts are stupid, and you look like shit in them.” When you tell her she’s being an asshole, she claims you’re uptight and replies: “You just need to get laid!”
What the hell sense does that make, right? The idea is that somehow you having sex will make you feel less angry about her being objectively rude.
This is a real thing that happened to me recently. A guy made a blanket statement on social media that all women look like shit in high-waisted shorts and that we should all stop wearing them. I pointed out that A) there’s a long history of men telling women what to wear that’s been detrimental toward our relationships with our bodies, and that’s sexist and uncool, B) we couldn’t possibly please everyone with what we wear because everyone’s got different tastes, so most people just wear what they want because they like it, and C) it’s rude to tell people they look like shit, especially when they didn’t ask for your opinion. The response I got was two-fold: “You’re a cunt,” and “You obviously need to get laid.” Keep reading »
If you think you don’t know who Jenny Slate is, you just haven’t attached the name to the person. She’s Mona-Lisa on “Parks and Recreation”; Tammy on “Bob’s Burgers”; a bunch of characters on “Kroll Show”; and she was on one season of “Saturday Night Live.” (You may remember her from the Doorbells And More sketch?). Lately, Slate is everywhere — literally everywhere — as the star of a new film, “Obvious Child” which appears nationwide this month.
In “Obvious Child,” Slate plays 27-year-old Donna, who accidentally gets pregnant right after she’s been dumped and lost her job. She genuinely likes the guy who got her pregnant (played by Jake Lacy from “The Office”), but is in a bad place to bring a kid into the world. Donna wants to have an abortion and unlike many movies where a women ends a pregnancy, that choice isn’t portrayed as a scary or dangerous thing. “Obvious Child” manages to be both hilarious and heart-tugging, a testament to both director/writer Gillian Robespierre’s writing and Slate’s earnest relatability onscreen.
Jenny Slate and I chatted recently about movies depicting abortion, women in Hollywood, and feminism. Here’s our conversation, after the jump: Keep reading »
What would a feminist world look like? The Feminist Utopia Project anthology, which is currently in the making, aims to help us discover exactly that. Writers Alexandra Brodsky and Rachel Kauder Nalebuff are leading the project and are putting together a collection of pieces that will get us thinking about what life might be like in the absence of a patriarchal society. As they note on their website:
Too many of us know too intimately the ways sexism constrains our lives, limiting our opportunities, harming our bodies, reducing us. Often unspoken, though, is the way misogyny limits our imaginations. The ubiquity of sexism comes to feel like the inevitability of sexism. Electoral politics narrow our ambitions to preserving the rights we are told we can have rather than mobilizing for what should be.
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The DMV in Anderson, South Carolina, forced a 16-year-old boy to take off his makeup in order to get his driver’s license picture taken because “he needs to look like a male,” according to an official. Chase Culpepper is gender non-conforming and wears makeup and stereotypically female clothing everyday. But on March 3, the DMV refused to photograph Chase because he looked like he was “wearing a disguise,” according to Chase’s mom, Teresa Culpepper. ”He’s male, he needs to look like a male,” said spokesperson Beth Parks. Keep reading »