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Taylor Swift: Criticizing Her For Writing About Exes Is Sexist

“My first album came out when I was 16, so I would write about my life as I saw it, as I felt it. And then what happens is as you get more successful, which you’re lucky if that happens, you have more and more people paying attention to what you’re doing and you’ve been doing it the same way your entire career as a songwriter, but all of a sudden the perspective has changed. They use kind of you writing songs about your life as a way to play detective. And for me, I have a really strict personal policy that I never name names, so anybody saying that a song is about a specific person is purely speculating….The most important thing for me is maintaining artistic integrity which means as a songwriter I still continue to write about my life…you’re going to have people who are gonna say, ‘Oh you know, like she just writes songs about her ex-boyfriends,’ and I think, frankly, that’s just a very sexist angle to take. No one says that about Ed Sheeran. No one says it about Bruno Mars. They’re all writing about their exes, their current girlfriends, their love life and no one raises a red flag there.”

Taylor Swift told Australian radio station 2DayFM how she really feels about all the flack she gets for writing so many songs about ex-boyfriends, and, well, she makes a great point. [Celebuzz] [Image via AKM-GSI]

Life After Dating: Sorry, But Sometimes I Just Want A Man To Take Care Of Me

Life After Dating: Sorry, But Sometimes I Just Want A Man To Take Care Of Me

Growing up, I saw singledom as the “default” way to live. My first impression of my (divorced) parents were as singles, and they were carrying on just fine, so I figured that was just the way things were. I managed to remain pretty oblivious to the society-wide pressure to marry longer than most kids, and while a partner sounded nice, I never thought I needed one growing up or planned my future with a someday husband in mind. I reasoned that I could never plan for something so volatile as love, and always thought of myself as something of a free agent in the world, unlike many of my peers, who went through high school and college counting the days until they found a nice young guy with top-dollar earning potential so that their “real life” could start. Other people, potential partners included, seemed like such wildcards — who knew whether they’d show up for me or when? I expected to only be able to count on myself. On paper, this sounds pretty bitter, but it wasn’t that way at all — it was just how I saw life, and rarely gave it a second thought. If I had thought about it more at the time, I’d have seen it as empowering, if anything. As I got older, though, my mind felt lagged and overtaxed as it constantly ran over and prepared for every task and potential problem each day would hold. I had to check and double check my own logic, because I made nobody else privy to my day-to-day stresses, and as a result, nobody else was going to make sure I stayed on top of things. I started to feel the mental and physical toll of counting on nobody but myself.

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4 Reasons I Want/Need To Learn Spanish

All right, that’s it, I’m done, I have to learn Spanish. Je peux lire le français et parler un peu, so while I’d like to brush up on it to be fully fluent, I could get by in French-speaking countries. But my one year of Intensive Spanish in high school is no longer cutting it. I’m still beginner-level. Here’s why I want to learn it: Keep reading »

One Of TIME‘s Most Influential Teens Is Trans

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  • One of TIME’s 25 Most Influential Teens is a transgirl advocate and author named Jazz. [Advocate]
  • Artist Kara Walker responds to white viewers’ macabre selfies at A Subtlety, her installation at the Domino Sugar Factory in Brooklyn this summer. [Jezebel]
  • #StopGamerGate2014 has been trending all day on Twitter. [Kotaku]
  • The National Book Award finalists were announced, and almost half of them are women. WOOOOT! [NPR] Keep reading »

Why I Refuse To Criticize Islam As A Feminist And Atheist

Sam Harris and Bill Maher and Richard Dawkins all want really badly for me to criticize Islam. They claim I’m scared to do so because Islamic extremists bully people into silence. They consider it a liberal failing that people like me have deferred to that bullying. They say it’s not “phobic” to criticize Islam, nor is it racist.

Then, of course, they say that we should profile Muslims, and their self-defense starts to fall apart. They fail to recognize that I do not live in a majority Muslim country, and that especially since 2001 but even before that, white Americans have exhibited incredible fear of Muslims (demonstrated by a call to profile them, coincidentally) and committed hate crimes against people who even “look” like they might be Muslim. They fail to see their own criticisms as so sweeping that they amount to a judgment on anyone with brown skin.

I won’t do it. I won’t take the bait of a patronizing call for feminists to set aside their goals in America to address problems in Muslim theocracies, and I won’t take the bait of an anti-intellectual call for atheists to denounce an entire religion simply because a handful of atheist leaders prescribe it. I will exhibit more caution and conservatism in my judgment, and here’s why: Keep reading »

Tennessee Could Change Its Constitution To Repeal Protections For Abortion In Any Circumstance

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  • Tennessee’s state constitution could be changed so that it doesn’t protect abortions in any circumstance, ever. [Slate]
  • A new PBS documentary series is delving into white identities and many of the delusions white people have about race in America. [The Grio]
  • GamerGate is becoming the most distilled example of misogyny in American culture. [Deadspin] Keep reading »
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