My husband and I met and got married all within five months. Kale had been visiting from Australia on a year-long tourist visa when we fell in love. Marrying not only kept us together, but launched us into a lifetime side-by-side. It didn’t really feel like a choice or a decision; it was obvious to both of us what we were going to do. And that means that I put just about zero forethought into what our marriage would “mean” for me as a woman or for us as a couple.
I’d thought about marriage long before I got married, sure. As a little girl I played house, pretending to be married to my teddy bear (his name is Gregory and I still have him). I had a serious relationship in my 20s with a man — Ex-Mr. Jessica — who I’d thought I would marry and have children with. While dating Ex-Mr. J, most of my thinking had been around the work/career balance and justifying to myself how I wanted to be a stay-at-home mom, if possible, for a time. However, I hadn’t put too much thought into how the day-to-day drudgery of marriage would go. It seemed so far off. Keep reading »
I don’t have much money to donate, so I assume politicians don’t care about me personally. But I guess I forgot about various “voting blocs” and how I’m probably listed on a sheet somewhere as “female,” “middle-class” and maybe “shrieking feminist harpy.” Even though — obviously — all Latinos or veterans or parents don’t vote the same way, politicians and their henchmen know they can reach these groups by appealing to issues that are important to them. And according to The New York Times, the voting bloc du jour, the one that could make a difference in the 2014 midterm elections, are single women. Keep reading »
In its 236 years of existence, the U.S. Navy has never had a female four-star admiral — until now. Vice Admiral Michelle Howard was just promoted to an admiral and is now the Navy’s new vice chief of naval operations, which is the branch’s number two position. (The Air Force and the Army have both named women as four-star officers in the past.) As if Howard weren’t already enough of a badass, she was also the first Black woman to command a Navy ship. Keep reading »
This past Monday, The Atlantic’s Noah Berlatsky took it upon himself to complain that “Orange is the New Black” inadequately represents the male prison population. Ohhhh boy. Keep reading »
The UK boasts universal healthcare, tea flowing like wine, and Conservatives who sound like our Democrats when it comes to gun control and reproductive justice. A foreigner unfamiliar with the journalism landscape in the UK would have no reason to question the country’s progressive values.
The Sun is the UK’s widest-circulation newspaper and is read by more than two million people every day. It is published by News UK, a subsidiary of News Corps, and owned by Rupert Murdoch – i.e., it’s about as far right as the UK gets. I never purchased The Sun, but for the entire four years I lived in the UK I saw it most days I ventured out of my house; it’s absolutely everywhere. The paper costs £2 (just under $4.00), boasts amazing sports coverage, celebrity and political news and a TV guide. But where The Sun sharply diverts from newspapers we’re used to in America is on its third page. Page 3 is a cultural institution: in every issue for the past 40 years, there has been a topless young woman on the third page, referred to as “Page 3 girls.”
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I guess the good ol’ boys of Texas get started early.
The progressive Texas politics blog Burnt Orange Report reported on Friday that nearly 1,000 high school-aged boys gathered in early June for the annual, nonpartisan Boys State conference, where they learn firsthand about politics. The students are split into two fake parties, the Federalist Party and the Nationalist Party, and are meant to learn basic civics lessons such as how to run for office and pass legislation. Another conference for young women in Texas, called Girls State, is held separately. Sounds as wholesome and American as apple pie, yes? Keep reading »