Amanda Hess at the Washington City Paper has a bone to pick with feminism. “If I have to endure another essay on the mysteries of the female orgasm in the name of feminism, I may never have an orgasm again,” she writes in “Why Sex Positivity Is Bad For Feminism.” She writes in reference to the Visions in Feminism conference, an annual feminist symposium held at American University, having picked PhD’d porn star Annie Sprinkle as their keynote speaker. While the conference aims to address a wealth of issues — domestic violence, queer feminism, etc. — it ends on a “sex positive” note. “A sex positive polyamorous pansexual bi-gendered individual who enjoys nothing more than talking about and/or having sex” is doing a workshop, followed by Sprinkle’s presentation. I’m gonna give this a resounding “eww.” Why does sex positivity always sound so ickily intellectual? Way to kill my girl boner. Keep reading »
“We’ve demonstrated that women can do what men do, but not yet that men can do what women do. That’s why most women have two jobs — one inside the home and one outside it — which is impossible. The truth is that women can’t be equal outside the home until men are equal in it.”
– Gloria Steinem, who turns 75 years old today. Happy Birthday Gloria! Keep reading »
Since I got engaged early last month and began planning a wedding for this summer, I’ve been thinking a lot about what it means to be hitched. As someone who already lives with her husband-to-be, I wonder just how much marriage will actually change things, whether I’ll wake up the morning after the wedding feeling any different. I’ve also been thinking a lot about what kind of wife I want to be, what it means to be a “good” wife, and how — if at all — being a “good wife” could compromise my identity or personal needs and interests.
I don’t feel a pressing desire to “prove” to myself or anyone else that I won’t change, that I won’t compromise anything, because at some point I’m sure I will. (Isn’t compromise a big part marriage, after all?) But I’m also certain that while bits of my identity are bound to shift, just as I would expect them to with any big life change and new perspective, the core of who I am will remain the same. No new name, white dress, ring on my finger or any other traditional convention is going to change that. For better or worse, I am who I am and I’m pretty solid in my identity. So when I read a column in the Guardian recently by Abigail Gliddon, a woman who claims “when a woman takes her husband’s name, she surrenders her former identity and adopts his,” I wondered how she came to have such low expectations for other women. Keep reading »
The New York Times just cannot quit “Sex and the City.” It seems like the Sunday Style section is always in search of the next Carrie & Co., which resulted in this weekend’s profile of “Juno” scribe Diablo Cody and her three friends who dubbed themselves “The Fempire.” Cody, who won an Oscar for writing “Juno” and is currently the mind behind Showtime’s “United States Of Tara,” plans on dominating Hollywood alongside her best gal pals, Lorene Scafaria (who wrote “Nick & Norah’s Infinate Playlist”), Dana Fox (“What Happens in Vegas”), and Liz Meriwether, also a screenwriter. Think of them as the estrogen packed version of Judd Apatow and his boys — and guess what? They’re gorgeous! Also! “We’ve all seen each other naked.”
Despite that admission, the quartet want to be taken seriously and make sure that everyone understands that their success and bank-ability has nothing to do with the fact that they’re all easy on the eyes. “I know a few beautiful women,” said Adam Siegel, a producer who is friends with the women. “But none of them write like Dana, Liz, Lorene or Diablo.”
Attributing the Fempire’s success to their talent not their looks is something we can get behind, but it kind of seems like the group uses the latter to their advantage as well. Keep reading »
Jessica Valenti, Feministing editor and Full Frontal Feminism author, is getting married! Congratulations are in order! Wait, are they? Apparently not, if you believe feminism and marriage can never, ever go hand in hand. Certainly, marriage has its traditions that are problematic from a feminist perspective, which Valenti has addressed many times on the blog — and perhaps that’s why she seemed hesitant to announce her good news. But does the personal really always have to be political? Can’t she get married without every Gloria, Betty, and Camille judging if her wedding is “feminist” enough?
“I don’t want to feel that I must blog about getting married because it relates to the work that I do. I want to be able to have things that are just for me and not be judged poorly because of that…. I realized that I don’t feel like I had to blog about getting married — I wanted to…. I’m positive you’ll be hearing more from me on the marriage front: Like how to do it while shirking patriarchal tradition? Or why I decided to participate in an institution that still (for the most part) excludes same-sex couples.”
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Yesterday, President Obama celebrated National Women’s History Month by creating a special panel to focus on women’s issues. The council will seek new opportunities in the workforce, since women still earn only 78 cents for every dollar a man makes. This makes Obama mad, since he loves the ladies…
No, like, he really, really does. Which is more than kind of hot. Here’s a collection of his most toe-curling musings on the women in his life, from 2005 to now… Keep reading »