The Twitter is abuzz about this Time article that simultaneously paints men’s attitudes about not dating women in their 30s as “caveman-era,” then goes on to uncritically give voice to a whole other set of stereotypes about women in their 30s by asking men why they do date tricenarians, as if the entire body of women aged 30 to 39 have had the same life experiences, look the same way, act the same way, are at the same level of emotional maturity, espouse the same attitudes, want the same things. As if women go from 29 one day to 30 the next and are magically POOF!ed into a whole new being, and these artificial lines we draw between one set of women and another are actually real. As if we aren’t all very different individuals who are given, in the very grand scheme of things, an arbitrary number to attach to ourselves that has to do with our planet’s relative position to the sun. Keep reading »
Sarah Silverman is working with the National Women’s Law Center on their Equal Payback Project, a fundraising effort focused on economic justice for women, and is acquiring herself a dick so she can make as much money as a man in her profession! OK, not really. The video’s premise is that if we can raise $30 trillion, we can pay every working woman in America the money she’ll lose for having a vagina. The money will go instead to NWLC, which crafts equal pay legislation and advocates for pay equality. Keep reading »
Ladies, I’m exhausted.
I know, I know — things are better in 2014 then they have historically been for women and gender minorities for generations. Our foremothers’ victories are nothing to sneeze at. They’ve paved the way for us to do incredible things, and in doing so they’ve raised the bar. We now know that we don’t have to accept “realities” like, oh I don’t know, that women aren’t cut out to be CEOS because PERIODS. Or gender minorities have to fit into a narrow, arbitrarily-created boxes. Or that getting drunk and dancing like a hilarious maniac means you’re responsible for putting yourself in danger if you’re raped. Keep reading »
GOD I love Robot Hugs. Robot Hugs is the webcomic behind that amazing analysis of street harassment as a male attitude of ownership over public spaces and everything that exists in public spaces. One of their new strips addresses, well, strippers — or, more specifically, why men have ugly attitudes toward sex workers to whom they are patrons. Keep reading »
“If you look up feminism in the dictionary, it just means that men and women have equal rights. And I feel like everyone here believes men and women have equal rights. But I think the reason people don’t clap is that word is so weirdly used in our culture. … People think feminist means like, ‘some woman is gonna start yelling at them. … If you believe that men and women have equal rights, if someone asks if you’re feminist, you have to say yes because that is how words work. You can’t be like, ‘Oh yeah, I’m a doctor that primarily does diseases of the skin.’ Oh, so you’re a dermatologist? ‘Oh no, that’s way too aggressive of a word! No no not at all not at all.’”
While I don’t think feminism needs to be centered around men, I’m certainly happy to see anyone who understands its basic definition embrace the label, including funny dudes like Aziz Ansari. There are definitely more complex aspects to feminism beyond just “men and women should have equal rights,” and feminists disagree with each other plenty, but Ansari’s analogy (shared on last night’s “Late Show with David Letterman”) for why we shouldn’t be scared to use the word or identify as such is spot on. Welcome to the club, Aziz! [Policy Mic]