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Dear Wendy: “My Boyfriend Thinks I’m Too Much Of A Feminist”

It seems that, as an adult, every time I date someone new, he’s a better for me than the previous guy. The current one seemed perfect at first: friendly, health-conscious, outgoing, spontaneous, but also established and responsible. We’re so, so good together. And. It’s. The. Best. Sex. I. Have. Ever. Had. We’ve been officially together for a couple of months now and it all seemed to be going swimmingly until he came over one night and dropped a bombshell: he wasn’t sure he could continue a relationship with me because I am too “political” — I vote and am an ardent feminist who’s also an activist. A gendered analysis informs my most fundamental worldview. Apparently, this is a problem. It’s not that he “opposes feminism, so much as wishes it didn’t have to exist,” however he can’t seem to grasp conceptually that my work as a feminist is towards ending gender inequities that he so easily wishes away. Is this relationship doomed? Or do you think I can be political with my friends and fellow activists and leave the politics aside in order to be with him? — Feminist Girlfriend

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Today’s Lady News: Will There Be An Abortion On “Friday Night Lights”?

  • Last week on “Friday Night Lights,” 15-year-old Becky discovered she was pregnant and considered having an abortion. If she goes through with it in the episode airing tonight, “Friday Night Lights” would be one of the few shows to not pull the “Whoops, she fell down the stairs and miscarried!” card. I’ve never seen “Friday Night Lights,” but I’m curious. So, Frisky readers, tell me what happens tonight in the comments! [Reproductive Health Reality Check]
  • Yesterday, a judge in Massachusetts ruled that the portion of the Defense of Marriage Act that defines marriage as between a man and a woman is unconstitutional. The judge declared gays and lesbians whose marriages are recognized by their individual states should have access to the same federal benefits as married straight couples. [Newsweek]
  • Stressed out? A mall in Shenyang, China, has a women-only “frustrating venting” store where ladies smash TVs and other appliances with baseball bats. [The Gloss]

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Today’s Lady News: Crystal Renn’s Agent Assures Everyone She’s Still A Size 10

  • A couple of blogs — including us — noticed that supermodel Crystal Renn, who is fuller-figured and vocal about promoting healthier body images, looks much skinnier in recent pics. But Renn’s agent at Ford models, Gary Dakin, confirmed Renn is a size 10 and is not trying to lose weight. It’s kinda weird that the poor girl’s agent has to talk to the press about what size she is! [Fashionista]
  • Nevada senatorial candidate Sharron Angle believes abortion should be illegal in cases of rape and incest. In a long interview about her views, she described a young girl she knows who was the victim of rape by her father, who was then adopted by new parents. “And they found that they had made what was really a lemon situation into lemonade,” Angle says. [The Huffington Post]
  • Louisiana Senator David Vitter has finally responded to why he let an employee stay on staff for two years after he allegedly beat his girlfriend. So if Brent Furer allegedly beat his girlfriend, why was he assigned to work on women’s issues? He wasn’t, says Vitter. Brent Furer only worked on abortion issues, not women’s issues. Ah, OK. [YouTube]

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Where The Pervs Are: New iPhone App Tracks Street Harassment

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It’s that time of year, ladies: heat waves burning across the continental U.S. and Leering McLeerers are coming out of the woodwork. (Or is it up from the sludge?) Not that McLeerers wait until sundress season to sexually harass women in public. Many is the man who finds something sexually foul to say when you’re wearing a down parka. A new iPhone app, soon to receive approval from the Apple app store, will let women in New York City chronicle their sexual harassment on a map. It’s created by the women behind the Hollaback! blogs, where women in cities across the country write in with their experiences of street harassment and sometimes even snap cellie pics of the douches who pester them. Keep reading »

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  • Iran has halted a Sakineh Mahadmmadi Ashtiani’s death by stoning for adultery after it faced worldwide criticism. Lindsay Lohan, however, is still going to jail. [Guardian UK]
  • Louisiana Senator David Vitter has finally responded to why he let an employee stay on staff for two years after he allegedly beat his girlfriend. So if Brent Furer allegedly beat his girlfriend, why was he assigned to work women’s issues? He wasn’t, says Vitter. Brent Furer only worked on abortion issues, not women’s issues. Ah, OK. [YouTube]
  • “The only person who’s actually been doing anything for the battle against teen pregnancy is Levi Johnston. Don’t have unprotected sex with your boyfriend, girls. Look what he might turn into.” Gail Collins, op-ed columnist for The New York Times, you are brilliant. [NYT]

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Quotable: Does Olivia Munn Understand The Definition Of Feminism?

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“I just consider myself a person in this world who wants to stand up for everyone who can’t stand up for themselves. I care just as much about the guys as I do about the girls. I want geeks to feel empowered to stand with people who are more socially accepted. And I want girls to feel that they can be pretty and funny and edgy and not apologize for it.”

Olivia Munn, newest correspondent of “The Daily Show,” won’t label herself a feminist. But isn’t what she stands for — empowering girls to be pretty and funny and edgy and not apologize for it — the exact definition of feminism? Maybe she just doesn’t use the label because feminists have been kinda critical of her (for good reason!). But I still think it’s a cop-out not to just claim the label, like when people say, “Oh, I’m for human rights!” Yeah, we’re all for human rights. And empowering geeks, of course. [NYMag.com] Keep reading »

Today’s Lady News: “Today” Will Not Be Throwing A Gay Wedding

  • Lesbian and gay couples are urging NBC to open “The Today Show”‘s wedding contest to them, too. The network has said it won’t do so because New York state, where the show is filmed, doesn’t recognize same-sex marriage. Gay rights advocates say that excuse doesn’t hold water because NY actually recognizes marriage licenses from other states, so a ceremony could, in fact, be performed on the show. [TheWrap.com]
  • Louisiana Senator David Vitter said it’s “old news” that his former staffer, Brent Furer, allegedly held a woman at knife point and threatened to kill her. The incident occurred in 2008 and Furer resigned last month after an ABC News report on the incident; Vitter had repeatedly refused to answer questions about why he kept Furer on staff all that time. [ABC News]
  • More crap news from the wage gap trenches: German women expect to earn a lower salary than their male counterparts because men are considered to be the breadwinners. A recent study found German women earn 20 percent less than men, one of the highest gender gaps in the European Union, and researchers theorize they accept the unequal pay as a part of their culture. [Washington Post]

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Recently I was at someone’s family party and there were a whole bunch of people I’d never met before. I started chatting about the Twilight books with a woman when she asked me, somewhat accusingly, “You’re not a Christian, right?” Now, I identify as a Christian in the loosest sense of the word. I read liberal, feminist Anne Lamott books, I like Christian teachings about social justice, I used to go to a gay youth group at a Unitarian Church — that sort of thing. What little identification I have with it is more cultural than anything else’ I got the sense that wasn’t the answer she was looking for, though. As tactfully as I could, I said, “I’m probably not the same kind of Christian you are.” She then confirmed that suspicion to me by telling me how she is a true Christian because she lives her life literally from the Bible. She also told me there are a lot of people who think that they are Christians, but they aren’t. I’m guessing she meant me.

Now, like I said, I don’t especially identify as a Christian. But I do resent being told “you’re not Christian enough” or, in this case, “I’m-more-Christian-than-thou.” Who the hell are you to tell me what I am and what I am not? Keep reading »

Today’s Lady News: Turns Out You Can’t Fire Someone For Getting A Sex Change

  • A judge has ruled on behalf of a transgendered woman who claims she was fired when she told her employer she would soon be coming to work dressed as a woman. When Vandy Beth Glenn, a former Georgia state legislative aide, told her employer she would soon be undergoing a sex change, her boss claimed she would make her colleagues feel uncomfortable and the sex change itself was “immoral.” [AP]
  • Feministing co-founder Jessica Valenti is six months pregnant and she has a request: stop touching her belly without asking first. “You wouldn’t touch a non-pregnant person’s belly without asking,” she writes, “so what makes you think it’s okay to just lay hands on mine?” [JessicaValenti.com]
  • South African runner Caster Semenya was cleared today to compete as a woman in future races. Last year, Semenya was found to be intersex — meaning she has both male and female parts — and there was some controversy about how she should be competing. [AFP]

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Al Gore Doesn’t Have To Fight To Get Laid, And Other Things You’ll Learn From Gore Defenders

Here are four prominent men who have been accused of sexual assault: former vice president Al Gore, filmmaker Roman Polanski, and football players Ben Roethlisberger and Lawrence Taylor. The accusations against each of them are so very different. But they share one commonality: each has received the benefit of the doubt — in some cases, a lot of doubt — that their accuser is a liar.

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