While we fantasize about finding the perfect feminist boyfriend, the burden of bringing feminism into a hetero relationship often lies with the lady — like so many other burdens of relationships! So here are a few ways to bring an egalitarian spirit to your coupledom:
1. Talk about “women’s” issues as if they are not “women’s” issues but “human” issues. Because, you know, they are. Who wins if we have birth control, healthy reproductive systems, and equal pay? Our guys, who get to have consequence-free sex and more money coming into the household. Read more …
I am fan of GOOD’s dating dealbreaker series (eerily similar to ours, but whatever) because I think it does a good job of looking back on past failed relationships and identifying the reason(s) things just didn’t work out. Sometimes these dealbreakers can seem insignificant on the surface, but actual indicate a larger problem; other times these dealbreakers are glaringly obvious compatibility flaws. Even if the specific story does not resonate with readers, the larger problems are often relatable. GOOD writer Melissa Jeltsen’s dealbreaker, according to the headline on her piece? “He Didn’t Go To College.” This made her an “obnoxious, pseudo intellectual elitist” in the words of Feministe writer Caperton.
I found Jeltsen’s story about breaking up with someone because he was not her intellectual equal to be nuanced, compelling, thoughtful, and self-reflective. Feministe’s takedown, on the other hand, while raising one or two decent points, was disproportionately nasty in tone. Yes, the title of her piece was somewhat simplistic, but it was eye-catching and likely written by her editor, as most headlines are. However, Jeltsen’s piece was about more than just breaking up with her boyfriend because he didn’t go to college. She writes that despite having a “deep and easy” connection with Duke, the boyfriend in question, she was not intellectually stimulated by him. Keep reading »
It all started–as many revolutions do–with a school librarian. Lina Ehrin, a 32-year-old librarian from central Sweden, was in the audience of a national Swedish singing contest when TV cameras captured a shot of her cheering wildly with her arms raised–armpit hair clearly exposed. A fan of the show posted a screengrab of Lina on Facebook, which quickly racked up thousands of angry comments declaring Lina dirty, ugly, and disgusting for choosing not to shave her pits. To combat the hate, a group of young activists created a Facebook event page called Ta Håret Tillbaka! (Take the Hair Back!), where people could voice their support for Lina and post photos of their own body hair. With over 15,000 members and hundreds of photos shared, the movement is quickly gaining momentum. Lina, for one, is shocked at the attention: “I mean, there are wars going on in the world, yet crazy people are sitting here commenting on this … I can’t believe a little bit of hair on a woman is such a big thing.”
So, what do you think of this personal grooming drama? Do you shave your armpits? How often? Would you ever put down your razor to make a statement? [Vice]