“… 80 percent of female actors are pretty strong, powerful women, and that’s a very hard relationship for men to have. Even today, in 2012, the guy is supposed to be in charge. I see it in every heterosexual relationship I know, the acquiescence of the female. When I observe people being coupled, I see too many compromises that I don’t know that I could make or would want to make.”
– There’s lots of interesting stuff in Melissa Leo‘s Q&A in The New York Times Magazine, but what was most interesting to me was the stuff she said about relationships. Melissa jokes — at least, I think she was joking — about how she always picks a gaffer on-set to be her imaginary boyfriend because that’s so much easier than being in a real relationship. I don’t 100 percent agree with her theory here because I know there are guys who love strong, powerful women and who are willing to make compromises — but maybe she was just speaking to the male-dominated microcosm of Hollywood. [NY Times Magazine]
A Frisky reader sent me the lyric video for Pink’s new song “Slut Like Me” and asked what I think. To be honest, musically, I think it sucks. But I have a feeling he was asking what I really think about Pink owning the word “slut” and using it to describe herself — which I’m cool with in my own life. We have to be aware of the nuanced differences between how different people use “offensive words.” Those words can be powerful or harmful depending on who is using them and how. It’s totally different when I call myself a slut in a positive, pat-on-the-back way than it is when an angry man calls me a slut because I rejected him at a bar. (Or, you know, Rush Limbaugh calls Sandra Fluke a “slut.”) “Slut Like Me” is no great piece of music, though. I wish it was worthy of the debate over women using the word “slut” that it is going to cause! [YouTube]
Bad news out of Missouri this week: employers and insurers who personally oppose birth control, abortion and sterilization will be able to refuse to cover those forms of health care in their employee’s health insurance. Missouri’s Governor Jay Nixon had vetoed the bill, but earlier this week, the Republican-controlled legislature overrode the veto. Keep reading »
I was horrified to read this week that a 73-year-old woman was raped in broad daylight in Central Park.
Read that again, let it sink in: a 73-year-old woman was raped in broad daylight in Central Park.
According to news reports, the woman goes to Central Park every day and sits on a bench, birdwatching. Last week she witnessed a man in the bushes masturbating, so she took his picture — presumably to show to police. He came up to her after being photographed and demanded she hand over the film, but she refused.
Then Tuesday around noon, she was back in the park and the same man confronted her, asked “You remember me?” and then savagely beat and raped her, vaginally and rectally. He ran off with her bag, which contained her camera, and tried to steal her watch, too. The elderly victim was discovered lying in the ground by a fellow birdwatcher, who called 911. (He was arrested yesterday.) Keep reading »