“I’m not going to apologize for being female or human. But I will apologize to the party I’ve wronged. About a month ago, I posted this video on my Facebook page about being pro choice and why. There was this conversation that ensued in the comments about whether abortion should be legal. And this man who is a fan of ‘Wild’ and ‘Tiny Beautiful Things’ said, well, I’m against abortion, but I do think it should be legal. And Cheryl, the thing about you is, you had an abortion but you regret it. And you’ve told us how that does stay with you and how many regrets you have about it. And I was like, uh, no I haven’t. I thought, I can’t let that stand. I said, actually, you’re mistaken. I do not regret it. I wish I hadn’t gotten pregnant. I don’t think it’s this great, exciting chapter of my life that I treasure. But I certainly think that having an abortion was the best thing I could have done in that situation. And I have absolutely no regrets whatsoever, nor am I scarred by the experience. I think it’s really important to assert that. Because the generation of women before us, they could do things like have an abortion or have sex in ways that are conceived as promiscuous, so long as they felt bad about it afterward or have been, like, oh, but what I was really looking for was love. When really it’s — a lot of times what I was really looking for was sex.”
–Cheryl Strayed on the balance between claiming responsibility for your actions and apologizing for yourself. This is just a snippet from an interview published in The Millions. I highly recommend reading the entire interview. At least twice. And if you haven’t already, I implore you to read Wild and Tiny Beautiful Things, Cheryl’s collection of Dear Sugar columns from The Rumpus. She is my inspiration/life hero at the moment. Amelia and I went to see her speak a couple of weeks ago and the best thing she said, which has been my mantra ever since, was: “True motherfuckerhood has to do with being humble.” [The Millions]
“I can’t stand whining. I can’t stand the kind of paralysis that some people fall into because they’re not happy with the choices they made. You live in a time when there are endless choices. … Some women are not comfortable working at the pace and intensity you have to work at in these jobs … Other women don’t break a sweat.”
— Da-yum, Secretary of State Hillary Clinton. Tell us what you really think. Marie Claire asked Clinton about The Atlantic‘s infamous Anne-Marie Slaughter piece “Why Women Still Can’t Have It All”; I hope that in the context of the actual piece it doesn’t sound so much like she’s dismissively saying “deal with it.” I’m certain Clinton knows all about the larger, structural institutionalized sexism and workplace flexibility issues that families face, so I’m not sure why that wasn’t reflected in her response. [Jezebel] Keep reading »
If you haven’t fallen in love with Caitlin Moran, there is something wrong with your head. Earlier this year, the Times Of London columnist published a brilliant modern-day feminist screed called How To Be A Woman; I literally can’t keep it on my bookshelf for longer than five minutes before another girl friend wants to borrow it. Moran is whipsmart, witty, pro-sex, anti-secrets and utterly unapologetic about being a feminist.
Why, then, would pop culture feminist magazine Bitch refuse to run an interview with her? Keep reading »