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Mommie Dearest: Focusing On Celeb Pregnancies Only Raises The Bar Higher For Other Mothers

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I’m not sure if you all heard about it or not, but Kim Kardashian is pregnant. I’ll wait a moment for the shock to sink in.

We can now look forward to six more months of paparazzi falling all over themselves for the newest baby bump shots, interviews with Kim and Kanye’s potential nannies, photoshoots of their nurseries, and “in depth” articles that pontificate on everything from what Kris Jenner will go by (something tells me she doesn’t dig “Granny”) to whether Kanye will cut the cord, to dissecting which potential weight loss programs Kim will utilize/shill to get back into her “pre-baby bod.”

And I can tell you already, I’m over it. Keep reading »

On Alisa Valdes’s Conflict With Feminism, Her Cowboy & Domestic Abuse

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If you’ve been reading the blogosphere lately, you’ve likely heard about Alisa Valdes and her memoir, The Feminist And The Cowboy: An Unlikely Love Story. Valdes is the author several romance novels and the debut novel The Dirty Girls Social Club (as Valdes-Rodriguez), which landed her all kinds of accolades. She was even named one of the top feminist writers under 30 by Ms. magazine. Then, somewhere along the way, her feminist principles started to chafe: she felt like men were emasculated (“icky ‘liberal’ men,” she calls them in the book) and she resented feeling like women wore the pants. Soon Valdes fell for a Fox News-watching, macho cowboy who exuded an alpha male sexiness and she started to submit to him in their relationship. As the Amazon.com description of The Feminist And The Cowboy says, Valdes discovered ” “when men … act like men rather than like emasculated boys, you as a woman will find not only great pleasure in submitting to them but also great growth as a person.”

Alas, it didn’t quite work out the way. In fact, following the publication of The Feminist And The Cowboy, Valdes has now come forward to say the cowboy raped and physically and emotionally abused her.   Keep reading »

Beyonce Is Miss Financially Independent

“You know, equality is a myth, and for some reason, everyone accepts the fact that women don’t make as much money as men do. I don’t understand that. Why do we have to take a backseat? I truly believe that women should be financially independent from their men. And let’s face it, money gives men the power to run the show. It gives men the power to define value. They define what’s sexy. And men define what’s feminine. It’s ridiculous.”

Beyonce has some pretty feminist-minded things to say in her upcoming HBO documentary, which GQ got a sneak preview of while reporting on the singer for their “Hottest Woman of the Century” cover story. Interesting that the men’s magazine chose to use this quote giving the accolade they were bestowing upon her, but I digress. My favorite quote from the actual GQ interview has Beyonce articulates her self-confidence thusly: ”I now know that, yes, I am powerful. I’m more powerful than my mind can even digest and understand.” I am putting that on a Post-It and sticking it to my bathroom mirror immediately. [GQ]

Pittsburgh Steelers Player Chris Rainey Arrested For Striking Girlfriend

  • Pittsburgh Steelers running back Chris Rainey has been arrested on one count of “simple violence,” which I guess is what they call “dating violence” in Gainsville, Florida, after hitting his girlfriend. The two allegedly fought over a cell phone and a witness saw Rainey slap the woman across the face with an open hand. She then ran off and Rainey chased her, eventually knocking both of them to the ground. Following the incident, the Steelers cut Rainey from the team. [USA Today] Keep reading »

3 Men Charged With Raping Indian Woman, Jyoti Singh Pandey, Will Plead Not Guilty

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  • Three of the six men who have been charged with raping 23-year-old Indian woman Jyoti Singh Pandey — who died from her injuries — are going to plead not guilty on the grounds that their were “lapses in the police investigation.” Oh, and also, their lawyer says, “Until today I have not seen a single incident or example of rape with a respected lady. Even an underworld don would not like to touch a girl with respect.” I just can’t with this. [SMH.co.au; NY Times]
  • Authorities in Steubenville, Ohio, have a launched a website to dispel what they call the “myths” about their investigation into the gang rape of an unconscious 16-year-old girl by local high school football players. [Time] Keep reading »
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Hitched: Does Being A Wife Mean Being A Proper Lady?

“Are you going to grow your hair out for the wedding?”

Obviously my stylist needed to know, because she was standing there with scissors. But family members? Dress shop employees? After the hundredth time telling people “No,” it got a little tiresome.

The question, in and of itself, isn’t offensive or stupid. It’s probably just small talk. After all, it’s incredibly uncommon to see short-haired brides, especially represented in mainstream wedding-related media; it’s understandable why people ask.

But there are an awful lot of preconceived notions about weddings and femininity and the all-importantness of a one-day event packed into that deceptively innocent sentence. Keep reading »

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