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5 Online Dating Tips From The Most Desirable Woman On OKCupid

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Let me preface this by saying that not all of my online dating experiences were bad ones. I met handful of nice, normal guys who weren’t for me and one nice and normal enough man to have a 6-month relationship with. But there were also so many who weren’t nice or normal. There were so many messages that made me feel utterly demoralized about dating and months where I would go without getting a single message from someone I would remotely consider meeting in person. All of this led me to wonder: Who is getting messages?

With the help of OKCupid’s co-founder, Christian Rudder and some OKTrends data, NYMag.com tracked down a few of the the most desirable singles on the site, statistically speaking, and asked them just…HOW? The most sought after straight woman in New York City (technically, one of the top five most desirable women who was also willing to be interviewed) was 23-year-old makeup artist Lauren (handle: formerly nebulaeandstuff, now loandthecosmos). The 5’5″ curvy atheist, who likes “hockey, whiskey, swimming in an open ocean, down comforters, astronomy,” receives about 245 messages a week and has more than 8,000 five-star ratings from other men (!). But take heart, because even the most desirable woman on OKCupid admits to being pessimistic about her prospects of finding love. In the two years Lauren’s been on the site, she’s only gone on about 20 dates. Below, I’ve tried to cobbled together some Lauren’s secrets in the hopes that they might help the rest of us win at online dating. If that’s even possible. Keep reading »

Life After Dating: 15 Highly Annoying Habits You Should Overlook In Your Relationship (And 9 You Shouldn’t)

Annoying Habits You Should Overlook In Your Relationship

So you’ve finally found The One (or at least The One For The Foreseeable Future) and you’ve committed to a serious relationship. Now what? In our weekly column, Life After Dating, women discuss the unique joys and challenges of coupledom.

One of the things you notice when you spend a whole lot of time with someone is every single little annoying thing they do. Whether it be the way they slurp their angel hair pasta like they’re eating out of a trough or how they tend to be most eager to start a conversation when you’re meditating, in any long-term relationship, it’s inevitable that you’re going to find yourself grinding your teeth at the person you love (and trust us, they’ll be grinding their teeth at you, too). Even when you think you’ve managed to rise above the incessant channel flipping or the empty toilet paper roll, fresh annoyances can crop up…even after years and years. They’re only human. You still love them. But one of the keys to maintaining a happy LTR is deciding which of your partner’s annoying habits are worth overlooking (because let’s be honest, 99.9 percent of habits are), and which ones are indicative of deeper issues or — gulp — potential dealbreakers. Below are some annoying habits you should forgive and forget, and some that might deserve a harder look… Keep reading »

Date-Ade Episode #11: On Sandwiches & Seatmates

How do you tell someone that you hate the way they chew?

This week on Date-Ade, the advice series for all your existential dating dilemmas, I address the issue loving someone, but hating the way they chew.

If you have a sex, dating or relationship quandary that you’d like for me to try to unravel (no promises), send your questions to date-ade@thefrisky.com or tweet @TheFrisky#DateAde.

The Sexiest Drinks To Order On A Date Are…

Today in strange dating surveys that someone commissioned to promote an app: “dream dates” and imaginary beverage orders. Huh? Yes, exactly. What exactly qualifies a “dream date?” I’m not sure because it’s not specified. And who’s put thought into what their “dream man” or “dream woman” will be drinking? Not I. But if you have, no shame. Maybe you’re just more imaginative than me. According to a survey of 1,000 singles conducted by Wist, an app that makes personalized food and drink recommendations (huzzah!), a lot of daters have spent time considering what beverage their “dream person” would order on their imaginary first date. I’m personally partial to ordering water on a first date like Steve and Linda did in “Singles,” but sadly,the daters surveyed didn’t seem to share my enthusiasm for H2o.  Find out what you are hypothetically supposed to drinking when that imaginary person you’ve never met spots you in the corner of a dark bar and finds your drink incredibly sexy… Keep reading »

Ask A Married Guy: “Why Is My Boyfriend So … In-Between?”

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Ask A Married Guy: "Why Is My Boyfriend So ... In-Between?"

I’ve been dating a guy for seven months. He’s in the middle of an easy divorce (no kids, no assets). I’m going through a divorce too (I have kids). We were head over heels for each other in the first few months. He had no issues with me having kids. He would always ask to see me, and we did tons of fun stuff together. I had a toothbrush at his house, and even had dinners with his parents. Great, right? But in the past few weeks, he’s distant, not making an effort to see me. He makes excuses about work, and when I ask him about it he says I’m overreacting, that sometimes life gets in the way and there’s nothing wrong with our relationship. I’ve been making all the effort, rearranging my schedule to spend time with him, and he doesn’t seem to appreciate it. He has a very lax, “ehhh I’ll see you when I see you” attitude. He says he’s not looking to remarry any time soon and I’m honestly not either, but there has to be an in-between phase, right? We can be in a relationship and take it easy, but I don’t get the 180-degree change in behavior. Why is he so in-between? – Danielle

It could be a lot of things. He could be dealing with a lot of pain. Maybe he’s not that into you anymore. Or he could in truth, be really busy with work and life and all that complicated stuff. But here’s the point: IT DOESN’T MATTER. His deal is his deal. Focus on yourself. Keep reading »

#OnlineDatingFail: Your First Message Shouldn’t Be About Panties

Online Dating Fail

The online dating scene is rough. Sure, it’s a great way to meet people, but we use the term “people” loosely, as some of the individuals we’ve come in contact with still seem to be in their primitive forms. Obviously, first impressions count … but not to these idiots. 

Sender: 34, Male

Receiver: 26, Female

Site: OKCupid

Tip: Asking someone what kind of panties they’re wearing is not an appropriate greeting, unless you are messaging a hooker. Keep reading »

Dater X: Missing Him Or Missing The Idea Of Him?

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Well, I successfully made it through Valentine’s Day without needing Xanax or calling an ex-boyfriend, so I’d say it was a great success. But before I headed out on February 14th for a singles’ feast and game night with some of my favorite ladies, I heard from Officer Handsoming. Shocked to see his name appear on my phone, I felt equal parts annoyed and surprised that he’d reach out on Valentine’s Day, since his lack of planning for the holiday ultimately fueled our split.

“Hey. How’d you make it through the snowstorm?” his text read.

“Fine, thanks. Have you had many stabbings and out-of-control ex-boyfriend bonfires to tend to today?” I joked, knowing he was on the clock.

“Not so far, but there’s still time,” he wrote with a wink emoticon. “My schedule changed and I’m no longer working overnight. What are you up to tonight?” Keep reading »

14 Days Of Dating, Day 14: A Spontaneous Night Out With A New Date (Win A Frisky Dating Subscription!)

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Cupid is a-comin’, and we’re counting down the days ‘til that fat, little cherub arrives. But until then, kick your relationship up a notch with these unique date ideas for you and your boo (or your friends…we don’t discriminate). A date a day, and your romance shall stay! Keep reading »

Date-Ade Episode #10: On Leopard Print Pants & Rubbing Your Happiness In Your Ex’s Face

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Happiness Never Needs To Be Rubbed In Anyone's Face...
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This week on Date-Ade, the advice series for all your existential dating dilemmas, I address the issue of rubbing your happiness in your crappy ex-boyfriend’s face.

If you have a sex, dating or relationship quandary that you’d like for me to try to unravel (no promises), send your questions to date-ade@thefrisky.com or tweet @TheFrisky#DateAde.

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Astrology 101: The Ideal Date For Each Sign

Falling in love is easy. Planning dates that please your partner? Now that’s the hard part. Luckily, you can always look to astrology for a bit of inspiration. Whether you’re trying to impress a new paramour or attempting to break out of a 5-year Netflix-and-takeout rut, click through to find the perfect date for each Zodiac sign!

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