Another post about a guy responding in an abusive manner towards a woman who didn’t adhere to his expectations? you may be thinking. I promise, we will stop posting about the topic just as soon as stories about the violent manifestations of pervasive male entitlement stop filling the news cycle. You can hold me to that. So, the latest rage-inducer? A man is accused of choking a woman he met online because she wasn’t “like she was on the Internet.” Keep reading »
Bye Felipe is an Instagram collection of Tinder creeps curated by Alexandra Tweten, an Los Angeles-based journalist inspired by her own bad experiences on Tinder. The difference between Bye Felipe (the name is inspired by the “Bye, Felicia” meme) and other blogs dedicated to exposing assholes on dating sites is the particular kind of asshole they expose: The guys who escalate and get angry reallllly fast if women reject them, don’t answer them, or simply exist, in some cases.
The Atlantic is calling this a “feminist” initiative. It pains me to think that asking men to be basically decent and polite is part of a non-mainstream political effort to erase the gender gap, because it seems like it should just be something that everyone does for the sake of doing it. But it’s women, not men, who are experiencing sexual harassment online — in dating apps less of the time and on social media more often. That gender difference means something about men’s attitudes toward sex and women, specifically that they feel entitled to sex and entitled to women. In that context, sexual rejection isn’t just a normal part of human interactions, it’s a denial of something they perceive to be rightfully theirs. Keep reading »
Lulu, the app created last year to form an all-lady network and enable the power of girl talk, has launched a new feature that allows dudes to ask Lulu users dating questions. Lulu is most famous for its feature that enables women to rate men they’ve dated and leave comments about their character, but this new Q&A feature, called Truth Bombs, is a whole different animal. The Truth Bombs are anonymous posts that allow guys to ask their most burning questions about love, and enable Lulu users to anonymously reply. This is the first time the app has enabled guys and girls to interact. I don’t want to sound grim, but considering how full of pretense the dating world is these days, this kind of thing may be the only way for some people to seek unbiased opinions — and that makes the questions very enlightening to read. Keep reading »
Tinder’s CEO, Sean Rad, announced at the Forbes Under 30 Summit that Tinder is going to start introducing paid features to the app in November. No word as to what exactly those features will be, but Forbes is speculating that it could include breaking open location restrictions and options for platonic or business-related meetups. Good for Tinder! Apparently they’ve been focusing on growth for the last two years and are just now starting to work out a way to monetize the app. Oh, and don’t worry, the service as it stands is going to remain free. Keep reading »
Update: Baby Face and I are moving full steam ahead, getting together as often as possible and still having amazing sex (with only a brief hiatus during Aunt Flo’s visit), which is why it’s so typical that one of my exes resurfaced— looking all handsome like he popped right out of a J.Crew catalogue— and tried his absolute damnedest to lure me back in. And he almost — almost — had me. Keep reading »