Attraction is a funny thing. The qualities you think make someone the hottest thing on the planet might make your best friend give you some serious side-eye. What makes one person attracted to another person can be so varied, and that’s what makes it such an interesting subject—which is probably the reason why scientists and researchers are constantly doing different studies about it.
These studies usually give us some pretty obvious information (like research that says that a good personality ultimately makes you seem more appealing), but some of them introduce surprising new clues on what helps make others fall for us, and that’s when things get interesting. Read more on YourTango.com…
The day I learned that J. enjoyed a nice, hot cup of “beef tea” was the day I realized this guy most definitely wasn’t the one. As anyone outside of the UK might not know, we have this strange meat spread called Bovril. Said viscous, meaty paste can be added to boiling water to create a beefy hot beverage. Yum? Keep reading »
It’s tempting to jump into relationships when we meet someone we believe is wonderful. But if it takes a few months to begin gauging someone’s character, and two to three years to truly know them, we are setting ourselves up for disaster if we commit too soon. Here are nine essential questions to help guide us. Read More On Huffington Post Women…
Several times a week, I think to myself, “Oh, thank goodness I’m not single anymore.” Today’s edition: Brown bag speed dating. Yes, speed dating where you cut holes out of a bag for your eyes and mouth and put it over your head. Seriously. Keep reading »
According to a new study from Oakland University, women who have an abundance of men in their life— coworkers, family members, friends, etc.—have more sex with their boyfriends compared to couples in which the woman has less male influencers.
Researchers claim it all boils down to a little something called “sperm competition.” In actual biology, sperm are feisty little suckers who, if in a race, fight to the death in order to be the first to fertilize an egg. This competitive nature translates to the dating world, too, in that men have a physiological desire to fight off other men. Keep reading »
While watching your partner have sex with another person is common enough to play a vibrant role in swinging and orgies, and to spawn porn parodies like “One Flew Over the Cuckold’s Nest,” in general it’s safe to assume that a conversation regarding your partner’s sexual history rarely ends well. Recalling Amsterdam trips at 19 or drunken indiscretions with a married man upon moving to New York typically don’t make for the best dirty talk. While honesty is the best policy, exchanging such details in a new relationship often leaves you wishing you left them in your past like your Bob Marley wall tapestry rather than stamped on your present like the peace sign tattoo on your ass.
As a sex writer, I can attest to the usefulness of personal anecdotes in writing. (See: This article.) People tend to be more interested in learning about “sounding” (the practice of inserting objects up the urethra) when you can describe a British man exhibiting such a kink in your bed after a tea date than simply an interview with a sexologist on the practice standing alone. Less clinical, more relatable, with a punch of humor. “The truth is stranger than fiction” said Mark Twain, although I don’t think he was referring to pinkies up pee-holes. While the general population tends to appreciate such tales, the one reader group that grimaces, perhaps secondary to my parents, are my boyfriends. Keep reading »