This seems like the absolute worst time of year to weigh these types of statistics, but WalletHub measured some data and put together a nifty list of the best and worst cities in the United States to be single. The list is based on the damage dating does to your wallet in each metropolis and by how fun and romantic each region is. Researchers took a look at the 150 most populated cities in the US and broke them down by 25 metrics including restaurant costs, number of attractions in the city, and percentages of singles. Not surprisingly, New York City hovers low on the list as an awful place to be single (and broke), but the city that made #1 is pretty shocking.
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When I tried to recall all the men who’ve come and gone in my love life over the last year, I wasn’t surprised to find myself staring at a list of names and anxiously tapping my pen, knowing there were a couple I’d forgotten. 2014 was most certainly The Year Of The Dudes. With almost one man for every month of the year, despite the fact that some relationships (and I use that term loosely) lasted longer than others, there was no shortage of testosterone in my dating life — or bed — in 2014. It’s not always easy to look back and reflect on failure, but I’m choosing to see those “failures” as learning opportunities, and one-by-one, share with you what I’ve taken away from each man. Keep reading »
New York comedian Grace Spelman is a god damned inspiration. She created a Twitter account specifically to pretend that she was a ghost Tinder-ing from beyond the grave… Keep reading »
He picks you up, presents you with roses, opens your door, takes you to an elegant restaurant, and endlessly compliments you throughout the night. He repeatedly tells you, his voice laced with incredulous wonder, that he can’t believe you actually agreed to go out with him since you are so far out of his league. He treats you like a princess and let’s face it, it’s flattering. It’s a refreshing change to feel so appreciated, especially if you’ve dated a few self-absorbed, insensitive jerks in the past. You begin to think that maybe he’s “the one.” But then things head south. His sweet attentiveness turns to overwhelming obsession. It no longer feels like he treasures and cherishes you; it feels like overbearing possessiveness. Suddenly it seems to take all your energy to assure (and reassure and reassure again) your man that you love him. It’s sucking the life out of you. Read more on Your Tango…
Michelle Markowitz apparently had the same experience on Tinder that I had on OKCupid: Eventually, you begin to realize that not only are most of the potential matches exactly the same types of guys with the same types of baggage, they’re usually also incompatible (which is OK!), but often in a way that is borderline-if-not-definitely offensive (which is not so great). Keep reading »
Earlier this week, a friend of mine sent me an article by Mark Manson titled “Fuck Yes or No,” with a simple directive: “Read this.” Since it had the word ‘fuck’ in it, I was obviously sold, considering the F-bomb has been my favorite word since I was old enough to pronounce consonants.
The piece describes the all-too-common “grey area” of dating, where “feelings are ambiguous or one person has stronger feelings than the other.” We’ve all been there (and I can admit when I’m guilty). But according to Manson, if you’re in the grey area to begin with, you’ve already lost. To help assure you that you’re entering into an equally beneficial and enthusiastic partnership, Manson says you should apply “The Law Of Fuck Yes Or No” (TLOFYON) to each and every romantic situation. Keep reading »