So you’ve finally found The One (or at least The One For The Foreseeable Future) and you’ve committed to a serious relationship. Now what? In our new weekly column, Life After Dating, we’ll discuss the unique joys and challenges of coupledom.
Dear Single Friends,
We haven’t seen a lot of you lately. And when we have, there have been strained exchanges and tense subtext. We can see you stifling an eye roll when we bring up our S.O.’s name. So we stopped bringing up his name because we didn’t want to make you feel weird. That only made us feel weird.
Single friends, we’re not dead, we’re just coupled. Everything has changed, but at the same time, nothing has changed. That sounds really esoteric, but it’s not. All the little things have changed — like, we now spend Sunday mornings snuggling instead of getting a pedicure and we’re not going to be around to do orphan Thanksgiving this year. Sorry. And no, we can’t be your single wingwoman on Saturday nights. But that doesn’t mean we don’t want to hang out on Saturday night. We do. Because despite our relationship status, everything else is the same. Our friendships, especially. Keep reading »
You grew up playing Pokémon. They grew up right along with you. Over all these years, you haven’t ever really stopped thinking about them. It never occurred to you before, but – you know what? Pokémon are fun. Pokémon are easygoing. Pokémon are sexy (look, just go with it). Pokémon know you, and you know Pokémon.
Pocket monsters are total relationship material. But which one is right for you?
DISCLAIMER: We’re narrowing our scope to the original 151 species because a) we are old and b) dear sweet Jesus why are there so many Pokémon now? Lighten up, nerds. Keep reading »
Merlin’s beard, we’re old! It is the 12th anniversary of the Harry Potter and the Sorcerer’s Stone premiere, but Potterdom is as alive today as ever. One of my favorite things (of many) about the Harry Potter book and film series is that it’s not a cheesy romantic story on the outside — hello mystery, adventure, and strong female heroines — but at the heart of it, it is a love story. There are various romantic pairings that slowly develop over the course of the series, and there is, of course, the love of Harry’s mother that steers the entire plot. So using GIFs and quotes from the movies and books, I’m sharing some of the best love lessons J.K.’s series has taught us about the magic of love. Read all 27 love lessons on Tres Sugar…
When I started dating at age 13, I approached relationships completely unaware that I could and would fall—and with faith that, if I did, the net below would catch me. I put all of my trust in the boys I gave my heart to, and was blindsided again and again when, despite my total devotion, they didn’t love me the way I deserved to be loved.
And it wasn’t just men. Fair-weather friends also disillusioned me. I didn’t truly understand that being a devoted friend or girlfriend didn’t guarantee that others would act in kind. Instead of becoming hip to the ways of people who would mistreat me and avoiding them accordingly, I retreated into myself and tried unsuccessfully to block out potential sources of pain. Read more on Your Tango…
We have all been there. A casual happy hour turns into a dark, drunken blur where one can’t remember how many or what type of alcohol has been consumed. We all pay the price. But no one is more predictable than the Drunk Boyfriend. The men in our lives who behave so uniquely in our daily lives turn into the same man when wasted. The predictability of each stage of a boyfriend’s intoxication is almost comforting. Keep reading »
So, I’m in love. This isn’t exactly unique — so many others would say the same. Love is an overused word, it’s commonplace, expected even. But to me, it couldn’t be a more novel, beautiful, fascinating thing. For most of my life, I was fiercely independent and ambivalent about relationships. My focus was on platonic friendships and tangible milestones, like my education.
So, it’s strange to think that now, I call someone “my teammate.” My boyfriend has become my refuge from the craziness of everyday life and encourages me every day to be the best I can be. He’s never too busy to make me laugh or to remind me to cut myself some slack. He tells me ridiculous stories of faraway places we’ve never been, wears the most adorable sweaters in the world, and confides in me candidly. He has taught me so much about myself and what I’m capable of.
The crazy thing is that he and I almost never happened. What we have now was one wayward text message and an ounce of pride away from never happening.In some alternate reality, there is another me, who didn’t give him a second chance. What is this other me doing? What kind of things has she missed out on? Keep reading »
Hold on to your knickers, eHarmony subscribers. You’re gonna looooove this.
In a new attempt to help people find romance, the popular dating site will soon launch eH+, a service where a real human will be assigned to you as your personal matchmaker for the bargain price of $5,000. Keep reading »
When I arrived at work the other day, there was an unread message in my inbox from a coworker with the subject line “Would It Be Weird If…”
I clicked on the message, eager to discover the second half of her cliffhanger. The email said:
Would it be weird if I tried to set you up with a friend? His name is Rishi* (he’s Indian) and he’s really nice and attractive and funny.
My first thought wasn’t Oh God, not another doomed setup. Nor was it, Finally! Someone who I didn’t meet on OKCupid. Instead, it was, But my dad would never approve. Keep reading »
Sometimes relationships get messy. Thankfully, we have professional matchmakers like Susan Trombetti from Exclusive Matchmaking to help us figure out which end is up.
The Frisky teamed up with Exclusive Matchmaking for our first-ever #FriskyMatch Chat, where you, our loyal Frisky fans, were able to ask Susan (fo’ free!) about the issues you’re facing in your love lives right now.
From how to handle a bad kisser to dealing with the “fade out,” Susan was able to tackle your questions head on. Here’s what she had to say: Keep reading »
Relationships are the most unique and nuanced thing in life. So why does Facebook only have a handful of options to describe them? This doesn’t make sense to me. Between single, civil union and divorced there are a zillion shades of relationship situations, which are all supposed to fall under the “it’s complicated” category. That’s ridiculous. I think the label of a relationship should reflect the complexity of the thing. So, I’ve come up with some new statuses that include everyone — from those who got dumped three days ago to those who have the benefits without the friendship. See where you fall on the real-life relationship status spectrum and stop trying to fit your romantic life in a box. Keep reading »