Every few years some enterprising publisher knocks off the world’s most famous “how to change yourself to get a man to love you” book, The Rules (which itself knocks off Fascinating Womanhood). We know what condescending “rules” these books teach: men are simple, men are visual creatures, don’t nag them or they turn into little boys, men like to “chase.” The #1 rule is generally a version of be “Put away your penis!”, as Patti Stanger might say.
The 2011 incarnation is The Man Whisperer: A Gentle, Results-Oriented Approach To Communication, a book about “a new method of communication” called (duh) Man Whispering. Penned by “dating experts” Donna Sozio and Samantha Brett, I want to say it’s like The Rules on steroids, but really it’s like The Rules after a few too many Cosmos: Whoever wrote this must have been drunk. Did I say Cosmos? Scratch that. Four Lokos.
So, I bravely fished The Man Whisperer out of the The Frisky’s “books to donate” pile and got reading. Here’s what I learned: Keep reading »
You’ve heard the old adage: you have to put yourself out there if you want to find someone! Well, if you’re sending out the wrong signals or you aren’t pursuing the right kind of people, it won’t matter how much you put yourself out there — you’re still going to wind up empty-handed in the relationship department. After the jump, eight things that may be keeping you single if you don’t want to be. Keep reading »
On this season of “The Millionaire Matchmaker,” Patti Stanger has been in New York City, since apparently the single ladies here have been begging her for years to help. And in general, she seems to pretty much detest NY women. “L.A. is flaky and New York is snotty,” she explains. “‘Oh, excuse me, did you cure cancer yet, because I don’t think I can date you.’ A lot of those. And the girls were not as hot as I expected. There were a lot of girls who thought they were great, and I’m like, honey, you’re 25 pounds overweight … nobody wants to ride your ride.” [NY Post]
Patti has taken on some high-profile women this season, including DJ Sky Nellor. In next week’s episode, her client is Judith Regan, aka the publishing scion known for discovering authors like Wally Lamb and Douglas Coupland, and for almost publishing OJ Simpson’s oh-so-classy book, If I Did It. Keep reading »
It’s time again for “Shortcuts.” For every question, I’ll give my advice in three sentences or less, because sometimes the answer to a person’s question is so obvious and the need to hear it so great, being as clear and frank as possible is simply the best way to go. Today we discuss whether sex with a boyfriend can ruin a marriage, the ethics of dating one’s lawyer, and reaching out to a friend you’ve wronged.
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Health.com has released a list of “10 Careers with High Rates of Depression,” among them the artists, writers, entertainers category: “In men, it’s the job category most likely to be associated with an episode of major depression (nearly 7% in full-time workers).” So what are jobs a potential male mate may have that could spell trouble for you down the line? Find out after the jump. Keep reading »
It’s time again for “Dear Wendy Updates,” a feature where people I’ve given advice to in the past let us know whether they followed the advice and how they’re doing today. After the jump, we hear from “Three’s Company,” a senior in college who was feeling lonely after seemingly alienating her two former roommates/friends during a rough junior year. She said she’d apologized for her actions when they lived together but one former roommate was still holding a grudge and giving the other roommate a hard time when she hung out with our letter writer. Find out how she’s doing today after the jump. Keep reading »