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Dear Wendy Updates: “Real World Weary” Responds

It’s time again for “Dear Wendy Updates,” a feature where people I’ve given advice to in the past let us know whether they followed the advice and how they’re doing today. After the jump, we hear from “Real World Weary,” a recent college grad who found herself underemployed and with a suddenly depleted social circle as her friends found jobs elsewhere and moved away.

“I feel disconnected and lost, like everyone’s moving forward with their lives and I’m stuck in place. [...] My mom keeps assuring me that when I get a job everything will fall into place and my Grand Adventure will begin. In the meantime, how do I regain my sanity and my social life?”

After the jump, find out if she’s managed to regain her sanity and social life and if her “Grand Adventure” has finally begun. Keep reading »

A Completely Arbitrary Graph Of Sexy And Unsexy Dude Professions

Go ahead and take issue with our completely arbitrary list of sexy and unsexy professions: we get that it may be hard to understand why a pizza guy is sexy to us (um, they smell like pizza) and a fry guy is so totally not (fry grease makes us gag). And yes, our definition of high-paying and low-paying is definitely ball park — we define high-paying as definitely way above minimum wage and low-paying as closer to it. And sure, there are probably some ice cream truck guys who rake in the dough and some IT guys who are just scraping by. However, we do want to point out that in assembling this list we’ve come to realize that we’ve almost exclusively dated low-paying sexy dudes. And a lot of drummers. Keep reading »

Want A Man? Wear A Hat

Ladies, having trouble attracting a man (AND HOW)? Then grab a bowler hat. That’s right: a bowler hat. According to Daily Mail writer Deborah Francis-White, a jaunty cap will do the trick to attract a mate. Says Francis-White:

“I’ve worn a bowler hat and the effect is extraordinary. When I walk down the street dressed ­normally, nothing happens. If I walk down the street in a bowler, a man will say at least five times a day: ‘Nice hat!’ — which I read as a more acceptable way of saying: ‘Nice breasts!’”

Or, maybe you’re just wearing a stupid hat? Keep reading »

Dater X: Feeling Attracted To Someone Who Isn’t That Attractive

What I’m about to say isn’t going to make you love me. It isn’t PC, and it certainly wouldn’t get high marks from the judges in a beauty pageant question and answer round. It is shallow, and a thing that none of us are supposed to say. But it is also honest:

Looks matter to me. Sometimes a lot. Keep reading »

Dear Wendy: “I’m Stressed About New Year’s Eve”

I’m in school in the UK and my wonderful boyfriend is in school in Michigan. I’m coming to stay with him for a couple weeks over New Year’s (one week in the middle, when he’s in classes, I’ll go to see my parents in NC), but there’s a problem: he wants to go to NYC for NYE where all his friends from undergrad will be and he wants me to pay for our flights and he’ll pay me back for both when he gets money he’s owed in January. I worry that if I pay for the tickets now, it will put me in a very tight money situation for the next few weeks until he pays me, and who knows if he’ll even be able to pay me promptly?! I get very nervous with money and budgeting, and he is very lax about “I owe you” and I worry it may be months or more before I’m paid back. I know when our relationship gets more serious we will have to talk about finances and how we handle money together, but this is hitting me in the face, and I feel unprepared. We were planning to go to Chicago for New Year’s — just the two of us — which would be a lot cheaper than going to NYC ($450 cheaper!), but he’d be upset about not being with his friends. At the end of the day, I’m sure I’ll be just really happy to be with him wherever we are, as I haven’t seen him in three months, but here I am fretting about money and I can’t help myself. What do you think I should do? — Pay it Forward?

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Dealbreaker: The Obnoxious Social Media Oversharer

Newly returned to New York after a two-year sojourn abroad, I was eager to make friends (or more than friends), so I turned to my Facebook, FourSquare, Twitter, Tumblr, and OkCupid accounts. At some point, social media savvy became a legitimate dating skill and I was ready to showcase mine to the fullest. I was excited when a cuteish boy I had met at a Fashion Week party had started following me on Twitter. I pushed that follow-button back, baby, and the ferocious at-replying began. Keep reading »

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