For most of my 15-year dating career, I went for Fledglings, Makeshift Men, pre-release beta tests of the fully formed adult male. Like Rusty, the dread-locked guitarist with groupies to spare whom I followed to various smoky, sticky-floored venues in college, hoping he’d recognize me from anthropology class. Guys whose giant charisma, outsider cool or longer-than-purely-business hair stoked my sense of adventure and ate my own — often annoying — level of maturity for breakfast.
I was drawn to men who were nothing like the soft-spoken, principled and straight-laced person who had been the dominant male presence in my life so far: my retired CPA father. Keep reading »
As we’ve stated previously, we all have issues. And yes, that includes the womenfolk. Even though we feel that women may be more open to tackling the emotional obstacles that cripple them, there are still a lot of ladies out there rolling around in wheelchairs or soliciting a man to push them.
Ami will admit that throughout much of her 20s she used an emotional wheelchair to help her get around. But she made it her mission to get up and walk again. And that she did with quite a bit of time and effort. She doesn’t walk perfectly … but she’s moving. And just to be clear, perfection is not the goal. It’s our responsibility as mature women to be aware of our emotional obstacles and to manage them. We may never totally eradicate them but we must do what is necessary to stay healthy and keep on walking (or at least limping) through life.
We’ve profiled 10 types of male emotional cripples. Click through to find out about 10 types of female emotional cripples (often seen in combination), the kind of men they’re after, and what they need more than a dude rolling them through life.
It’s time again for “Dear Wendy Updates,” a feature where people I’ve given advice to in the past let us know whether they followed the advice and how they’re doing today. After the jump, we hear from “Money Isn’t Everything” whose newish boyfriend felt uncomfortable with the amount and type of gifts she was giving him and his family. So, has she curtailed her gift-giving? Has he become more comfortable with her expressions of affection? Find out after the jump. Keep reading »
When I was working as an English professor, my fiancée ran a medium-sized company and made 15 times as much money per year as I did—before her bonus. Like many men, I’m proud and competitive. I had already accepted that I wasn’t going to earn more in my lifetime than my father. Now I blanched when I wanted to take my darling to dinner: would we go to the kind of place she’s used to, which I couldn’t come close to affording, or would she be willing to slum it with me again? Keep reading »