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Dear Wendy: “My Family Thinks I’m Living In Sin”

I am a 23-year-old, self-supporting college grad and my boyfriend and I have lived together for four months. We love each other very much, are happy together and everything is going great. But there is one problem. My mother and much of my family is extremely conservative and this would be qualified as “living in sin.” I see nothing wrong with my choice as it makes me happy, it’s a healthy relationship, etc., but I fear I would cause a large rift in the relationship with my mother, with whom I’m very close, if she knew or found out. But keeping it a secret is causing a problem in my relationship with my boyfriend and I know he is hurt by it. I feel like I need to do something, but I fear destroying a relationship with my family. Any advice on what to do? — Live-in Love

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Do you know anyone who keeps their New Year’s resolutions? Or even remembers them after January 15? I sure don’t. Most of us vow to lose weight, quit drinking, or cut up those credit cards. But some of us make relationship-related resolutions, and that’s what we’re here to talk about. After the jump are four resolutions. One of the four is valid; the other three are less so. Let’s see if you can tell which is which. I bet you can… Keep reading »

Dear Wendy: “I Got Sick And My Friends Abandoned Me”

I’m 25 and earlier this year I was diagnosed with a chronic illness that I’ve yet to really get a handle on. It’s been very emotional for me to say the least, and to top it off I feel like I’ve been somewhat abandoned by my friends. The thing is, I know they’re all lovely people — it just seems like they get uncomfortable/unsure of what to say when I talk about my illness, so they think it’s best not to mention it at all or something. I’ve expressed to a few of them that it’s helpful for me to just be able to get the feelings off my chest once in a while, yet no one really seems to be making much of an effort to hear about it. I hate to be a Negative Nancy and certainly don’t want to talk about my illness all the time … I just want to know that my friends care. Am I going about this the wrong way? Is this not the type of thing that friends talk to each other about these days? My mom and boyfriend seem to think I should stop trying to get support on this from friends, but I don’t want to lean on them alone. — Not-So-Positive Pollyanna

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Dater X: Shaking Off The Pressure To Kiss Someone On New Year’s Eve

Last night, while out to dinner with friends, my phone rang—a rare occurrence in a world where phones are amazing for organizing schedules and arranging text messages into adorable dialogue bubbles, but aren’t so hot at providing a clear pathway for two people to talk. I recognized the area code immediately, though I had deleted the caller’s name in a huff a few days before—it was Scruffy Beard. I hadn’t heard from him in almost two weeks, since he sent me a lame “see you around” text the day after we had sex and he darted out the door 20 minutes after, throwing the condom in the trash.

I resisted the urge to listen to his voicemail message all the way through dinner. But as I left the restaurant, I just had to know what he said. Keep reading »

10 Types Of Guys To Avoid In 2011

On the heels of my dating resolutions list, I’m also thinking about the types of guys I’ve dated this year — the ones I’ve had fun with, the ones who’ve hurt my feelings, the ones who’ve wasted my time, the ones with whom the timing was just wrong. My girlfriends have also been through a bounty of man types and shared some of their best and worst. Some we would date again and some, well, we wouldn’t touch with a 10-foot pole. Keep reading »

Dear Wendy: “Should I Let My Family’s Bigotry Ruin My Relationship?”

After several years of being contently single, I have met the most amazing man. He is smart, career driven, attentive, and we have a ton in common. While our relationship is new, and we aren’t rushing into anything, I feel that there is potential for something serious to develop. There’s just one problem — I’m white and he’s black, and while it doesn’t bother me in the least, my family is very conservative and they don’t believe in interracial dating. I am from a small town in a southern state and interracial dating is fairly uncommon here, and there are still prejudices about such things. I know that my family would adore him as much as I do if they could only look past his skin color and see him for the amazing person he is. The problem is that I don’t think that they will ever be able to do that. I feel torn between pursuing a relationship which I think could be serious, and pleasing my family. There is a possibility that some members of my family will never speak to me again, but I’m afraid that if I don’t give him a chance I may always wonder what could’ve been. I know that it’s a little early in the game for me to be thinking of choosing between a man and my family, but I am stressed out thinking about how to break the news to them. I could use any advice about how to tell them or how to know if a relationship is worth disappointing my family. — Stressed Out and Color Blind

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