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Dear Wendy: “My Ex Hit Me And Now He Wants Me Back”

I started a long-distance (1,500 miles apart) relationship with a wonderful man in August of last year. Things were going great, but suddenly took a turn for the worse in January when he was diagnosed with cancer. I was able to take two semesters off from school to go be his caregiver. We continued to build our relationship and he constantly expressed his gratitude for my being there. Unfortunately, about a month into his treatment, he started to become verbally abusive, and began to pick fights. Months went by, and threats of hitting me turned into actually hitting me, on two occasions. I reached out to his family and friends for support, but he told them I was a crazy liar. I begged him to see a therapist, or to talk to his doctor about the medications and steroids he was on, but he refused. When he was done his last round of chemo and in remission, I ended the relationship, packed my bags and went home. We have stayed in contact, and he surprised me last weekend by driving out to visit me. He spent a few days at my apartment, and was once again the man I fell in love with. He told me that he’d told his family about the abuse, that he loved me, and that he wants to get back together. My friends think I should cut all contact with him, and that he lost his chance to be with me once he hit me. I think his behavior was caused by the drugs and steroids he was on, so my decision isn’t easy. Is it really as cut-and-dry as my friends think, or can I give him a second chance? — Abused Caregiver

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A Guy’s Definitive Guide To Getting Over A Breakup

A broken heart sucks. Even those of us with the strongest of wills have at some point learned that getting over somebody can be a painful and arduous process. So the notion of a definitive guide for achieving a clear mind and healthy heart after a failed relationship or rejection by the opposite sex might seem absurd.

The goal of this piece is to show how life does not end with rejection at a bar, a note left on a pillow, or coming home from work to an empty apartment. Combining a few bits of advice from friends and my own life experiences, I think I am able to provide a dependable resource you can refer to the next time a man or woman decides you and your genitals are inadequate. So without further ado, let’s start the healing process … together. Keep reading »

Girl Talk: The Two-Night Stand

I met Elliot* at a restaurant. I was sitting at a table having dinner with a friend when I saw him sipping a bourbon at the bar. My palms got a little clammy, my jaw dropped slightly, and I may have even audibly gasped. “Hottest. Dude. Ever,” I announced to my friend. My mouth started to salivate. He was dreamy.

“Where?” my friend asked.

“There. At the bar,” I said. “The one with the facial hair and the scarf around his neck. The one who is obviously the sexiest guy this place has ever seen.” He was good-looking in the way that would make even the most poised woman act like a horny teenage boy, stopping to do a double and triple take and choke back a catcall. Keep reading »

Dear Wendy: “Should I Marry For Health Insurance?”

I was laid off about a year and a half ago and have been without health care since that time. For the most part, that’s OK because I am not sick often. I do, however, have adult ADHD and it is incredibly difficult to function or keep myself organized without my medication. I also have continuous problems with UTIs and am now having pain in my kidneys. I’ve done mass quantities of research and every option is either out of my price range or literally will take days of waiting in different lines and being screened by social workers before I am even able to see a doctor (for the UTI). The ADHD actually requires going to another city where my college doctor is, convincing him to see me for free and then write me a prescription which I then send to a specific pharmaceutical company who will decide if I am deserving of free medication. There is one other option that could possibly work, but it is one that makes me very sad. I could secretly wed my fiancé and then get on his health insurance. We are supposed to be married in about a year, but if we went to a court we could be married as soon as this weekend. The whole idea of that breaks my heart; I love him so much that I don’t want to hide being married to him. I also don’t want to get married without our families there. I am so conflicted. Should I just suck it up and spend the days and the miles running around trying to get the help I need or secretly wed my husband-to-be and make it easy to see a doctor? — In Sickness and In Health

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The 5 Stages Of Dealing With Getting Stood Up

Nobody likes to get stood up! But it does happen. And if you date long enough, it’s bound to happen. It’s so embarrassing. You get left at a restaurant, the dude never shows, the man of your dreams just doesn’t call. No matter what the situation is, here are the five stages of dealing with a dating no-show. Keep reading »

Ryan Seacrest Is SO Great That Julianne Hough Is Embarrassed

He’s phenomenal … he’s really romantic. He’s not even in town and I got in my car and there are flowers everywhere! And for my birthday, same thing … like, flowers everywhere. I was almost embarrassed. You walk in and you’re like, ‘Is this my room? I don’t even know.’ I’m kind of embarrassed.”

Julianne Hough gushing about BF Ryan Seacrest on “Ellen.” Nothing to be embarrassed about, Julianne—sounds like you just landed an awesome dude. Although, I might be slightly embarrassed too if Ryan were my boyfriend. But I suppose the flowers may help me get over it. [Celebitchy] Keep reading »

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