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“I remember being at this bar called Tosca in San Francisco, and I met this guy one night. He was really cute, and we were talking, and then, like, he just said something about how he had always had a crush on me. And I was suddenly mistrustful about why he was talking to me. I wanted to be just a normal girl flirting with a normal guy. It’s like you meet people, and they know this stuff about you. It’s why you want to meet somebody who’s in the same business, only because they understand more. But you don’t necessarily want to be with another actor.”
Every few years some enterprising publisher knocks off the world’s most famous “how to change yourself to get a man to love you” book, The Rules (which itself knocks off Fascinating Womanhood). We know what condescending “rules” these books teach: men are simple, men are visual creatures, don’t nag them or they turn into little boys, men like to “chase.” The #1 rule is generally a version of be “Put away your penis!”, as Patti Stanger might say.
The 2011 incarnation is The Man Whisperer: A Gentle, Results-Oriented Approach To Communication, a book about “a new method of communication” called (duh) Man Whispering. Penned by “dating experts” Donna Sozio and Samantha Brett, I want to say it’s like The Rules on steroids, but really it’s like The Rules after a few too many Cosmos: Whoever wrote this must have been drunk. Did I say Cosmos? Scratch that. Four Lokos.
So, I bravely fished The Man Whisperer out of the The Frisky’s “books to donate” pile and got reading. Here’s what I learned: Keep reading »
You’ve heard the old adage: you have to put yourself out there if you want to find someone! Well, if you’re sending out the wrong signals or you aren’t pursuing the right kind of people, it won’t matter how much you put yourself out there — you’re still going to wind up empty-handed in the relationship department. After the jump, eight things that may be keeping you single if you don’t want to be. Keep reading »
On this season of “The Millionaire Matchmaker,” Patti Stanger has been in New York City, since apparently the single ladies here have been begging her for years to help. And in general, she seems to pretty much detest NY women. “L.A. is flaky and New York is snotty,” she explains. “‘Oh, excuse me, did you cure cancer yet, because I don’t think I can date you.’ A lot of those. And the girls were not as hot as I expected. There were a lot of girls who thought they were great, and I’m like, honey, you’re 25 pounds overweight … nobody wants to ride your ride.” [NY Post]
Patti has taken on some high-profile women this season, including DJ Sky Nellor. In next week’s episode, her client is Judith Regan, aka the publishing scion known for discovering authors like Wally Lamb and Douglas Coupland, and for almost publishing OJ Simpson’s oh-so-classy book, If I Did It. Keep reading »
It’s time again for “Shortcuts.” For every question, I’ll give my advice in three sentences or less, because sometimes the answer to a person’s question is so obvious and the need to hear it so great, being as clear and frank as possible is simply the best way to go. Today we discuss whether sex with a boyfriend can ruin a marriage, the ethics of dating one’s lawyer, and reaching out to a friend you’ve wronged.