It’s time again for “Dear Wendy Updates,” a feature where people I’ve given advice to in the past let us know whether they followed the advice and how they’re doing today. After the jump, we hear from “Present Tense,” who wasn’t crazy about the pearl necklace her boyfriend of one year gave her for Christmas and worried he was going to give her something similar for her upcoming birthday. “I don’t want to seem like I’m not grateful, because I am, but I never wear jewelry and am not really a fan of pearls.” She said. “Should I just act like I like it and let him buy me another or is there some way I can let him know that pearls just aren’t my thing?” After the jump, find out whether she got another pearl necklace for her birthday or not. Keep reading »
Yesterday evening, I met The Young One outside my office with no idea of where we were going or what we were doing to celebrate Valentine’s Day. I’d pressed him for clues all week and the most he would give me was, “You’ll really like it,” and “If you wear heels, nothing too high.” We began walking, zigging and zagging down the unseasonably warm New York City streets. Every time I thought I had an idea of where we were headed, he’d laugh at my guess, shake his head ‘no,’ and make an abrupt turn. Finally he said, “This is it,” motioning toward an awning with the words “Ballroom Dancing” printed on it. Keep reading »
A new survey of more than 800 college students found that over 60 percent of admitted cyberstalkers were female. More than 30 percent ‘fessed up to hacking into their S.O.’s email accounts. Researchers also found that women were way more likely than men to stalk Facebook or check cellphone histories. While I can say I am anti-snooping, I know there are times when perfectly logical, not insane women are put in a position where cyberstalking is the correct course of action. Luckily, I have never been in that position and I hope I never will. To all of the other females engaging in extraneous cyberstalking — cut that crap out! Sigh. What do these results say about us? That we’re more insecure than men? That we’re more jealous? I propose an antidote to cyberstalking. If you are feeling the urge to stalk your sweetie online, Google yourself instead. It’s totally addictive, narcissistic, and harmful to no one. Problem solved. [New Scientist] Keep reading »
Forget about your outfit, your makeup, or your breasts. A new survey done by Pantene found that dudes are pretty much obsessed with our hair. About three-fourths of men said they notice a woman because of her locks. In fact, most men notice hair before our clothes, our legs, our makeup, or our breasts. Yup, most men would approach a girl with hot hair over a girl with hot cleave and about 60 percent of men said they prefer nice hair over a nice rack when it comes to choosing a girlfriend. Gosh, I find this so hard to believe, but that’s what the survey says. Well, girls, I guess we’d better load up on those Pantene products for healthy, shiny hair. That’s the whole point of this survey, right? To motivate us to buy Pantene. The only thing that would actually motivate me to buy Pantene is Stacy London’s commercial. She’s so cool. [Glamour
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Earlier this week, I wrote about my flagrant disregard for Valentine’s Day. But a small (minor!) detail–a teensy admission about a particular ex of mine–seemed to garner the most attention. Yes, I went on a date with a hobo killer–but that’s not why I stopped seeing him. Keep reading »
Breakups suck. But after a little time has passed, you may find yourself feeling relieved, reflective and actually — dare we say — thankful that you and your former dude are no longer together. Breakups and how they’re done can teach us lots of valuable lessons about who we are and what we want. They can also be maddening, depressing and straight up rude. Still, all in all, practically every breakup has made me thankful, too–either that I’m no longer with that person or that I’ve learned something valuable about them. After the jump, some of the breakups I’m most thankful for.
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