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Dear Wendy: “I Don’t Want Kids, But My Live-In Boyfriend Does. Are We Doomed?”

I have been in a wonderful relationship with my boyfriend for about a year and a half. We moved in together about a year ago and it has been going great! He is financially responsible (although we both deal with school loan debt), fun to be around, and has a great family. We have talked about getting married in the next few years and buying house, and I would love to be his wife for the rest of my life. But … I don’t ever want to have kids. Now, I know I am only 25 (as is he) so we have a ways before I have to start thinking about it, however, he is very family-oriented and has mentioned his desire to someday take a child with him to sports games. I made it clear to him that I have always wanted to adopt or foster older children rather than have my own kids but he has never really stated an opinion on that option. I’m worried that if we get married, he will make the assumption (as many do) that I will want kids eventually, and will start putting the pressure on me when we get closer to 30/35 at which point we’ll get divorced if I still don’t want kids. Is it safe to stay in a relationship with such a big difference of opinion, or the hope that I “might” someday change my mind? Is it too early to have a serious talk with him about it? I love him but am scared this is going to be the end of us. — No Kids, Please

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What Is Your Dating Fetish?

The other day I was having dinner with a guy friend when he spotted something over my shoulder that had him salivating. Seriously, his eyes were going all googley and crap.

“What are you looking at?” I finally asked him.

“Don’t turn around now, but when you can, check out the woman at the table behind you and to the left.”

I nonchalantly gave the ol’ side eye. Keep reading »

Why Women Prefer Bad Boys

A new study done at the University of British Columbia may explain our penchant for bad boys. No, it’s not because they treat us like crap. Phew, that theory has always really irked me. It’s all in their smile, or rather, lack thereof. Researchers found that women ranked images of men “brooding” far more sexually attractive than images of men “smiling.” Ah, but here’s the rub; men found images of women who were smiling more attractive than those who were brooding. Men and women have opposite sexual responses to smiling. Isn’t that fascinating? And so easy to fix for all parties involved. Guys (especially the nice ones) should smile less, girls (especially the serious ones) should smile more, and then we will all live happily ever after in a Utopian lovefest. Sounds plausible, right? [Daily Mail UK] Keep reading »

The Love Guru: My Terribly Unglamorous Moment Of Clarity

As I got ready to go on my second date with Party Boy, the be-dimpled guy I had shared witty banter and a cigarette with at my friend’s birthday party, I was hopeful, grateful in fact, that going to see one of our favorite bands together would be an awesome way to spend a Wednesday evening. Dr. Diana’s call to gratitude had kicked my negative dating booty in gear. This dating thing was actually becoming, dare I say it, kind of FUN. Keep reading »

The Seemingly Harmless Question You Should Stop Asking Single People

One of the more difficult parts of being single is having to field comments and questions from friends and family members who are inexplicably invested in your dating life. One innocuous question in particular can be hurtful, no matter how well-intentioned.

A friend recently vented to me about her personal pet peeve: she hates when she tells a friend about a really great encounter with a guy, and the person responds with “So, when are you seeing him again?” Keep reading »

Dear Wendy: “My Boyfriend Refuses To Introduce Me To His Friends And Family”

My boyfriend and I have been together for 11 months, but he won’t let me meet his friends or his family. He has told me his friends dislike me for the sole reason that I am his girlfriend. It’s not even that I take up too much of his time — he see’s them every day and I only see him one day a week. His friends haven’t met me, yet they try to start fights with me and are mean to me on Facebook. I asked him to please tell them to stop saying mean things to me on Facebook, but he won’t. Instead, he says to me “Stop being silly. Who cares?” Well, I care. One day we were in his bedroom, and we heard some of his friends in the living room with his roommate; I was gonna go out and say hello but my boyfriend said to me “No, they will rip your head off.” I just hate it. I’m not allowed to meet them, he lets them talk bad about me to his face and on the internet, and when I get mad, it’s all my fault. Another thing is I’m kept separate from his family. He has met mine but won’t let me meet his. One day we drove to his house and he just sat outside in the car. I said let’s go inside and say hello, but he wouldn’t. I had to sit in the car. What do I do? What does this all mean? — Kept in the Dark

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