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Girl Talk: Dating In A Second Language

Seven years ago, I was doing an internship in Mexico and attempting proficiency in Spanish. One night at a club with some friends, I nearly broke my face after slipping on the booze-soaked floor. Had I been with English-speaking friends, I would have dusted myself off and uttered with a sly smile, “Well, that was embarrassing.” Instead, I looked at my Mexican buds and pooed a clumsy “Estoy embarazada.” Their jaws dropped. I’d forgotten for a moment that “embarazada” does not mean “embarrassed.” It means “pregnant.”

It’s hard to be cool in your second language. But it’s even harder to be sexy. Keep reading »

Dear Wendy: “My Boyfriend Sends Dirty Texts To Girls He Meets Online”

I have this great boyfriend. We live together, he is never not able to be found, he buys great gifts for me and my daughter. He does home improvements to my home, mows my lawn and constantly tells me that he loves and adores me. And his family is great to me and my daughter too. Here’s the kicker. I know for a fact (because I snoop) that he goes online and meets girls. He gives out his number and corresponds with them, but as far as I can tell, he never really meets up with them. How can he when we are together all the time? He never has guy friends that he goes out with. He never goes out with anyone but me. When he is home, he keeps his phone turned off so I can’t see/hear who is calling. BTW: He’s a cop and works the midnight shift. I have caught him before sending dirty texts to girls that he says are friends (that I guess he meets online) and tells me this is no worse than using a 900 number. I think he does it just for sexual stimulation. Since I found this out, he has blocked texting on his phone for me. Part of me wants to dump him, but on the other hand, he is really good to me. If I didn’t snoop, I would have no reason to question his whereabouts or his love for me. Is this kind of behavior acceptable? Am I dealing with a nut? Or am I crazy to put up with it? I feel like anyone I meet will have some sort of issues that I will have to deal with, and they may not be as good to me as he is. — Cop’s Girlfriend

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Book Excerpt: The Mysterious Appeal Of The Grubby Glow

There are two kinds of nights out on the town:

  1. The nights you plan a big night out, when you shower, you shave, you wax, you pluck, you blow out your hair, slip into your sexiest heels, and suck in your stomach so you can squeeze into your cleavage-baring, skin-hugging, make-a-guy-melt top.
  2. Those lazy nights when you haven’t shaved your legs, you’re still wearing the T-shirt you woke up in paired with jeans you haven’t washed in weeks, and all you have time to do with your hair is pull it into a low ponytail so people can’t tell how greasy it is.

Now here’s the quiz: Which night are you going to end up kissing a hot guy in a dark corner who wants to take you home to rip off your clothes and ravage you? Say it with me everyone—the answer is 2. Like the gravitational pull of the moon that causes the tides to ebb and flow, there is a strong and as-yet-unmeasured power that pulls men toward you when you’re really not ready for it. This, my friends, is the mysterious appeal of the Grubby Glow. Keep reading »

Dear Wendy: “How Long Do I Have To Wait For A Commitment?”

Recently I met a guy that I truly enjoy being with. We have been sort of dating for a month. We are very different from each other, but we connected really well from the first time we started talking. I have never really “dated” in the conventional sense before. Usually, it takes two to three dates before me and the guy are already sort of a “couple.” This guy doesn’t want to commit to me yet though. He feels that one month is too short of a time. I really like him so I agreed to it, but deep inside it is eating me up. I mean, I know he isn’t dating anyone else because he works like crazy and we talk on the phone every night. We have already had sex and the more I have sex with him the more I fall head over heels. I took a bit of time off from him because I felt like I was falling for him and the more I did the more I wanted a commitment. This word pushes him to the wall and it scares him away. So I figured, if I don’t see him for a week, then he will miss me and want me more, or I will get over him and that way won’t scare him off. It seems as if he is still the same. No drastic change with him. It seems like he isn’t going crazy for not seeing me. On the other hand, he calls me every night. It confuses me because he keeps on calling me and talking to me as if he needs to call me, but does not want to commit to me. I miss him so much. What am I supposed to do? I do not know how the dating scene works. How long do people casually date before they can start thinking of being a couple? Should I continue dating him casually and wait for him to make the move (if ever), and if so, how long should I wait until I understand it is pointless to continue? — In A Hurry

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365 Days In Paris: New York, New York

The moment the wheels of the plane touched down at JFK, I felt the comfort of the familiar as I realized that everyone around me was speaking English. I mindlessly zoomed through immigration and got in a cab. I’m sure you know the feeling of coming back home when you’ve been away for a while—it’s weird how natural it is, sort of like nothing’s different, or you never really left. And yet, at the same time, you’re thrown off by out-of-the-blue changes, like how all of a sudden there’s an Apple store in your neighborhood, and a building that was on one block isn’t there anymore, and a high-rise has gone up in the space of four months.

I have to say, being home makes me feel really torn. I’ve been so proud of myself for coping so well in a foreign city outside my comfort zone, but God, it’s nice to just not have to think about the littlest things. Keep reading »

Dealbreaker: The Loveless Man

If you saw Derek* and me on the streets of New York, you might have thought we were a normal couple. You might have seen us sipping cocktails at a bar with our hands intertwined, lip-locked on the sidewalk. We might have been gazing into each other’s eyes so intently that we didn’t notice you gawking and muttering, “Get a room,” under your breath. You might have seen us on the front stoop of your building, licking ice cream cones and thought that we were in love. Keep reading »

Why Did He Stop Calling?

Amy Spencer is a dating expert and the author of Meeting Your Half-Orange: An Utterly Upbeat Guide to Using Dating Optimism to Find Your Perfect Match (Running Press). We ask her the dating questions that continue to baffle us.

Q: What do you do if the guy you’re dating stops calling? Read more Keep reading »

GuySpeak/GirlSpeak: The “Ugly Duckling” Wants Revenge

Every week, the editors over at GuySpeak give answers to women’s questions in guy style. Then they handpick some of their favorites and send them over to us to answer (read: fix) them in girl style. This week, what do you do when guys who ignored you in high school crawl out of the Facebook woodwork to hit on the grown up you?

Am I being too harsh by dismissing guys who ignored me in high school? I’m getting attention now from guys who never even considered me back then. Thoughts?

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Dude Posing As Model Scammed Rich Men On Millionaire “Dating” Web Site

It’s every dude’s worst nightmare: that a drop-dead gorgeous Guess jeans modelyou’re talking to online turns out to be … a dude. Such is the sad tale of Marc Puelo from Austin, Texas, who joined SeekingMillionaire.com looking for love. But 24-year-old Justin Brown was on the millionaire online “dating” web site, too, posing as sexy-as-all-hell model Bree Condon, fixin’ to swindle a wannabe sugar daddy. Keep reading »

23 Guys I’ll Never Get The Chance To Bang

My whole dating strategy the past few years has been to act like a kid in a penny candy store. I’ve been bagging any man who looks tasty, just getting a couple bites, then moving on to the next flavor. They’ve all been sweet, but, frankly, I’m starting to get a toothache. Now that I’ve really seen what’s out there on the market, I’ve been able to narrow down the ones I have no chance of ever finding, wooing, or making it work with. Here’s who I’ve got so far … Keep reading »

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