Ughhhhh, he is infuriating, I thought as I scanned Paul*’s Facebook page. There were new status messages — “carboloading” — a recent video of him performing, and links to new posts on his blog. Facebook told me what parties Paul had recently attended and which ones he had just RSVP’d to; it told me “Paul and So-and-So are now friends” and that new friend made a reference to how great it was to meet him. I felt my mouth puckering in the way that my friend Erin refers to as “Cat Ass” — tight and pissed. I wanted to scream expletives at him, eviscerate his ego, slap him, do something to show him just how hurt I was. Instead, I took a deep breath and clicked the window closed. You’ve moved on, Amelia, I thought. You’re over him. You realized you deserved way better than what he could possibly give. There’s no point in being angry. Keep reading »
Salon.com’s advice column, Since You Asked, featured a question last week from a woman who has made a conscious choice to only date nice guys. With a history of choosing jerks –some who were even emotionally abusive — she went to therapy and worked on herself, sorted out her family history, and now finds herself dating a really good dude, who she is afraid may be too boring for her. After the jump, the advice that Cary Tennis gave her that I found very enlightening. Keep reading »
As a college grad, seeing the words “college” and “dating” together in one sentence almost seems like an oxymoron. The [sad] truth is that in a college environment, traditional dating is very far from the norm. As we all know, dating culture in college = hooking up. There are still plenty of romantic hopefuls, though, who prefer to tread the traditional waters. Whether in college or not, everyone could always use a little guidance when it comes to the dating game. (And now that the new school year is quickly approaching, I’m sure a few of you undergrads are getting the jitters about picking up the pace again with that college boyfriend of yours!)
So in light of these back to school jitters, I present to you the 1o Commandments of College Dating… Read more… Keep reading »
Can you see yourself with him forever? I asked myself just, oh, the other day.Yes. Yes I can. I had asked this question of myself a few months ago too, but about someone else. The answer was the same. And about six months before that. Same question, same answer. Did I mention I’m currently single?
This week, I read Dater X’s latest column with great interest. The idea that maybe we should be asking ourselves bigger questions — “Can I see myself marrying/spending my life with this person?” — about the people we date is not a foreign concept to me. I ask myself that question almost right away with nearly every single person I date; and, with a few exceptions, my subconscious usually answers “yes.” At least at first. Keep reading »
You’re on a first date — should you do it? Run to the bathroom and whip out this flowchart to help you decide. [Rosie Says] Keep reading »
Every second of every day, some couple somewhere is fighting about something either completely ridiculous, semi ridiculous or actually kind of legitimate, and someone’s always going to walk away the victor of the argument. It has been said that you can tell a lot about a person’s character by the way they fight whether they’re a screamer, a crier, stubborn or submissive. Aw, the wonderful world of arguing. Keep reading »