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365 Days In Paris: French Automatic Online Dating Dealbreakers

While I was in NYC, a session with my old shrink told me that I really need to—as much as I hate, hate this expression—“put myself out there” more. “It’s not wrong to want to be in a relationship,” Dr. W reasoned. “It’s unhealthy, however, if you just sit at home all the time and do nothing about it.”

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Where Have All The Good Collegiate Dudes Gone?

One of the best parts of my college experience at NYU was sampling from the buffet of dudes on campus. It seemed like eligible men were lurking behind every dorm room door, in every lecture hall, and at every bump-and-grind dance party. College life was rife with men, whether they ended up becoming friends or more. There were certainly enough to go around. Apparently, this is not the case for the new generation of college ladies. According to The New York Times, women are totally outnumbering men on campus. The stats say that female enrollment is up to about 57 percent at most major universities (except the Ivys, where men still outnumber women) since the 2000s. So what does that mean for collegiate dating life? It means it’s in crisis. Keep reading »

How To Seduce Someone (Or Simply Get A Date)

In honor of Valentine’s Day, there’s an article in today’s Daily Mail called “How to … Seduce a Man,” written by the founder of the popular lingerie boutique Coco de Mer. The advice, which is really applicable to either sex, made me think of this weekend’s “Dear Wendy” column in which a reader asked me why she can’t get a date. I offered her some suggestions, but because a lot of us could use a refresher, check out some of the best tips for seducing someone (or simply getting a date) … Keep reading »

How To Know If He’s Just That Into You

When it comes to finding a potential soul mate, getting the date is only half the battle.

These days, small talk isn’t enough to determine if someone is into you, but you can rely on more innate signs based on a person’s body language. Sure, a big, wide smile is a good starting point, but there are other telltale signs that can also tip you off as to whether your date is into you. Keep reading »

The Top 10 Guys To Follow On Twitter For Love Advice

Just the other day, we shared with you the 10 tweeps (plus one!) you should follow on Twitter for all your dating advice needs. That list was pretty incredible, but we’re not done. Oh no. Twitter has too much to offer! Today, we present you with the top 10 guys you should be following on Twitter: guys who tweet about love, dating, relationships and the bro code. Because sometimes it’s nice to have that demystifying male perspective. Without further ado: Keep reading »

Dear Wendy: “Why Can’t I Get A Date?”

I’m a few months away from turning 20 and I have NEVER had a relationship, serious or casual. I’ve missed out on all the dating during my high school years and I’m afraid that it’ll continue throughout my 20s unless I change something. I’ve always been open to a relationship but not to the point where I had “desperate” labeled across my forehead. I’m not looking for a husband but just someone to casually date. All my girlfriends always comment that they wish they had my personality and all my guy friends always call to do girlfriend-y type stuff (shopping for his clothes, eating out with him on his lunch breaks, etc) with me [rather] than with their own girlfriends, so what’s the deal? Physically, I’ve received flattering looks and enough compliments to at least qualify as decent-looking, I don’t have weight problems as I’m very active, and I was voted most fashionable in school, meaning I don’t go out looking like a dump. Aside from the physical aspect, I’m a great student, I am well traveled, and I can speak several languages. I’m usually very outgoing and make friends easily. I lounge around and watch sports with the guys and dress up for dinner with the girls, which is why I have just as many guy friends as I do girlfriends. To add a heaping pile of salt to my wound, my guy friends and my girlfriends’ boyfriends all say the same thing about me … that I’m the girl guys want to have as a girlfriend. If that was the case, then why oh freaking why can’t I even remember the last time a guy asked me out on a date? Really, I’m just tired of family members trying to confirm and reconfirm that I am not a lesbian, but just unlucky. — Only the Bridesmaid

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20 Things No One Wants To Hear On Valentine’s Day

Hey, have you heard? Valentine’s Day is coming up! On top of worrying about what to give your date — if indeed you have one — there’s also anxiety about saying the wrong thing. What if you let the “L-word” slip and it’s only your second date? What if you get so caught up in the excitement, you accidentally call him by the wrong name? After the jump, 20 other things that are bound to be real mood-busters if you or your date say them. Keep reading »

Dear Wendy: “I’m Jealous Of My Boyfriend’s Salary”

My boyfriend and I have been together for a year now. We went to the same school, majored in the same field, graduated together, and thus have similar levels of expertise in our chosen careers. After college, I took a low-paying job at a small company with a high-level of prestige in the hopes of building a portfolio, gaining experience, making contacts, and starting my career with the respect of my peers. I have been at this same company for nearly three years without a single raise or substantial bonus while being told that I’m the “best employee” they’ve ever had. Ever since I took the job, I’ve been told by former classmates and others in the community how lucky I am to do such great work for such a prestigious company. However, the median yearly income for my profession is $15,000 more than what I make. My boyfriend, on the other hand, took an average-paying job at a large niche company. He has also been there for nearly three years and has been given stocks, bonuses, and very recently, a significant raise. My boyfriend now makes $20,000 more than I do. I’ve been trying to ignore these intense feelings of jealousy, but am losing the fight. I feel as though what I do at my job is important and the respect I’ve gained from others while doing it is priceless. But I do not make enough money to support myself (I am lucky enough to live with family), and the fact that I make so much less than my boyfriend is starting to take a big toll on my self-esteem and our relationship. — Underpaid

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The Frisky Plays Matchmaker For Reese Witherspoon

It looks like Reese Witherspoon may be ready to play the field again after her split from hottie BF Jake Gyllenhaal. A single and ready-to-mingle Reese was spotted at a Santa Monica Italian restaurant, Locanda Portofino, last Thursday with big-time Hollywood agent Jim Toth. Yeah, he’s easy on the eyes for sure, but I’m thinking he is probably a rebound if anything. Let’s help find Reese someone special this Valentine’s Day season. After the jump, our suggestions for whom Reese should date next. Keep reading »

Dating Don’ts: How To Make Sure Your Apartment Isn’t A Boner Killer

You know how experts claim that most couples fight over sex or money? Not in my tiny apartment, which I share with a 6’5” dude and two cats. What we fight over is décor.

If he were in charge of our home, everything would be bright, white, and utilitarian. There’d be no blood-red living room, featuring Ganesh and Jesus duking it out for wall space. No piles of books and no throw pillows (he especially hates the latter).

But because real estate in New York is insane and my apartment is cheap, my man moved into mine, which (I believe) negates his right to complain because he knew what he was getting into. He would disagree, but I already told you this was our biggest bone of contention. Keep reading »

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