Meeting a mate online is not easy. At all. And anyone who’s used even a dating app can tell you a horror story or three. Your straightforward and basic account profile won’t catch potential partners’ eyes – instead, it’ll turn them off.
What matters? Well, according to statistics, it’s a mix of things we can’t control, how talk about ourselves and what we show off. It can be everything from race to your favorite sport. And while appearances matter more than ever to the online world, so does vocab … and where you take your profile picture.
Here’s what science says will get you in the door — and staying there. Read more on Your Tango…
I answered the phone at 10:45 p.m., worried about why my father was calling so late. It was highly unusual for a man who never calls after 8 o’clock, especially since he finally chucked his old cell phone which frequently allowed him to “butt dial” everyone on his recent calls list.
“Hi. What are you doing tomorrow?” he asked.
“I planned on going to brunch with some girlfriends, but that’s it. Why? Is everything okay?” Silence from the other end of the receiver confirmed my concern.
“It’s Grandmom,” he said. “I think you should come home.” Keep reading »
I’m writing about sex this week — specifically, the situation in which certain men complain about being “friendzoned” by women who choose not to see them sexually. Now, I recognize that sex is a highly-charged, volatile, and subjective issue, so it’s my goal to remain as logical and objective as possible as I urge all men to completely remove “friendzoned” from their vocabulary — especially when they’re using it to deride a woman’s sexual choices.
First, what does “frieindzoned” even mean? Basically, a man who’s complaining about being “friendzoned” by a woman is upset that this woman sees him in only a non-sexual manner, or only as a friend. But before we examine all three scenarios where a man would make such a complaint, and why he would be wrong to do so, let’s take a step back and see what kind of men we’re talking about. Read more on Cracked…
Here is a confession — though I write a dating column, and have for quite some time, I’m not currently dating anyone right now. The last relationship I was in was about two years ago, and in the time between then and now, there have been plenty of dates, but nothing has stuck. Dating in general isn’t hard, but it takes work, energy, time that could be used doing hundreds of other things, like learning how to weave or baking all the bread you eat yourself, or creating a rooftop garden out of two sad planters and a handful of seeds. The way we choose to spend our time is our choice alone, not something to be judged, and not something that we should feel ashamed of. I know this. As a person who willfully chooses to spend many nights trawling beauty blogs on the internet and conducting deep, vast research on the best pink lipstick for my exact skin tone and coloring, I know that the way I spend my time could be spent better, but I know that the choice to spend time on really anything is mine alone. That’s why I’m perfectly comfortable coming out and saying it — right now, I’m choosing to focus on my career instead of finding a partner. Keep reading »
Dudes the world over (I feel like until people stop saying “but I’m not like that!” I have to keep amending statements like this by saying OK GUYS #NOTALLMEN, WE GET IT, MOVING ON) claim that no, they’re not harassing women, they’re just flirting! Can’t they flirt? Is flirting illegal now? Why can’t we flirt anymore? FEMINAZIS, AMIRITE?
Yes, guys, you can flirt. But you might want to consider the fact that some women feel actively threatened by what you call “flirting” constructive feedback and improve your technique so that when you’re expressing romantic or possibly sexual interest in someone, you don’t end up making them feel hounded, harassed and/or worried for their safety.
Here’s some tips for not being predatory while you’re flirting. Keep reading »
What do women really want? Well, according to a new survey published in the Journal of Behavioral Addictions, their cell phones. Young women spend an average of 10 hours a day on their cell phones. 10 hours?! What on earth are you doing? Well, for exactly 94.6 minutes a day, you’re texting. Then, you’re emailing (48.5 minutes), Facebook-ing (38.6 minutes), browsing the web (34.4 minutes) and rocking out to music (26.9 minutes).
And, last year, it was discovered that half of women would rather give up sex for a month than lose their phones for that long. It sounds outrageous, but let’s be honest — we all know more than a few people who are positively glued to their phones (you might even be one of them!).
Want to know if you’re in deep with your own handheld boyfriend? Here are a few surefire signs. Read more on YourTango…