“I met someone I really like,” my friend Greg*, who’s gay, announced.
“That’s great!” I said. “Is it serious?”
Yes, he felt it might be. But that hadn’t stopped him from keeping his options wide open while finding out. Greg proceeded to tell me that since meeting his new romantic interest, he had hooked up with three other guys, had a man that he saw when he was in town from San Francisco, and 12 others that he was flirting with online. Keep reading »
The love affair of Leonardo DiCaprio and Blake Lively has taken many twists and turns, but the strangest of all are reports that the “Gossip Girl” star reeled in the ladies’ man by following The Rules. Too young to remember The Rules? It’s a dating advice book published by two women in 1995 that prescribed 35 different “rules” for alluring, snagging, and domesticating the male species. The book advises a woman to never pay for herself on a date; never call him; rarely returns his calls; never accept a Saturday night date after Wednesday; end phone calls and dates first; and return one email for every four he sends. Some of the self-help wisdom contained therein is just obvious, such as reminding women that if you show a man your Pikachu on the first date he might not assume you’re looking for a serious relationship. But the rest of it is just a convoluted series of mind games with cult-like restrictions like “Don’t discuss the rules with your therapist” and “Do the rules, even if your friends and parents think it’s nuts.” The premise behind the book is that all men like “the chase,” so women need to make them work for it.
So, how did Blake use The Rules to supposedly snag her man? Keep reading »
To all the lonely, heartbroken blokes out there, wondering why they’re so unlucky in love, we’ve got an answer for you — actually 15 answers. Have you been watching movies? Because movies give you idiot-proof advice on how to land the woman of your dreams. Really, just close your eyes and pick one of these methods — be it sparkling or just not acting like yourself — and you’re sure to land a fancy broad. [Pleated Jeans] Keep reading »
Ughhhhh, he is infuriating, I thought as I scanned Paul*’s Facebook page. There were new status messages — “carboloading” — a recent video of him performing, and links to new posts on his blog. Facebook told me what parties Paul had recently attended and which ones he had just RSVP’d to; it told me “Paul and So-and-So are now friends” and that new friend made a reference to how great it was to meet him. I felt my mouth puckering in the way that my friend Erin refers to as “Cat Ass” — tight and pissed. I wanted to scream expletives at him, eviscerate his ego, slap him, do something to show him just how hurt I was. Instead, I took a deep breath and clicked the window closed. You’ve moved on, Amelia, I thought. You’re over him. You realized you deserved way better than what he could possibly give. There’s no point in being angry. Keep reading »
Salon.com’s advice column, Since You Asked, featured a question last week from a woman who has made a conscious choice to only date nice guys. With a history of choosing jerks –some who were even emotionally abusive — she went to therapy and worked on herself, sorted out her family history, and now finds herself dating a really good dude, who she is afraid may be too boring for her. After the jump, the advice that Cary Tennis gave her that I found very enlightening. Keep reading »