“Find a guy who calls you beautiful instead of hot, who calls you back when you hang up on him, who will lie under the stars and listen to your heartbeat, or will stay awake just to watch you sleep … Wait for the boy who kisses your forehead, who wants to show you off to the world when you are in sweats, who holds your hand in front of his friends, who thinks you’re just as pretty without makeup on. One who is constantly reminding you of how much he cares and how lucky his is to have you … The one who turns to his friends and says, ‘That’s her.’” — Unknown
Everyone makes mistakes in relationships. The trick is not making the same relationship mistakes over and over and over again. I’ve made my share of relationship mistakes along the way. Here are mine, so you don’t have to make them. Keep reading »
OK, whoa, sorry for posting that fake letter yesterday. Man, you guys took me to task on that one! That’s OK — I can take it as well as I can dish it. And to make it up to you, I’ve got two (very real) letters today. Read on…
My boyfriend and I have been together for going on five months now and things on the whole are going great. He’s super sweet, thoughtful, kind, and affectionate, genuinely enjoys spending time with me, and even at this early stage he’s hinted to me that he can see this relationship continuing for a while. The problem is we met on an online dating site and he’s still listed as single on there. Not only that, but he still logs in pretty frequently (about two or three times a day). Admittedly, I go on there quite a bit too, but I’ve been listed as “seeing someone” for about a month, so there’s no ambiguity about my only being there for a little “window shopping,” if you will. I know he’s not seeing anyone else — I trust him, and frankly, I don’t see how he would have the time anyway. But I’m just worried that deep down he thinks I’m not enough for him and that he’s hoping to meet someone even better. We joke about the site all the time and tease each other whenever one of us happens to see that the other has gotten a new message, but there’s this tiny part of me that’s worried that he’ll actually act on it. I know this is a really stupid and petty thing to be worried about but somehow I can’t let it stop bothering me. How can I ask him about this without seeming super clingy or like a web stalker? Or should I just try and forget about it? — Well-Matched
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I can’t tell you how many diets I’ve been on in my life. The grapefruit diet, the cookie diet, the no-sugar diet, the no-carbs diet, the Atkins diet, the raw diet, the juice diet, Weight Watchers, Nutrisystem, and too many more to list. While I’ve never been terrifically skinny or incredibly overweight, I’ve definitely vacillated in the 20-pounds zone. Sometimes, I’m up. Sometimes, I’m down. Mostly, I go in phases. For years, I’m very good. Other times, I am very bad. In the long run, it does seem like diets don’t really work. You lose it, but it tracks you down and finds you again. I have found one pretty fail-safe method over the years, though. And that’s the sex diet. Keep reading »
“I try not to plan [dates] out. It has a tendency to get a little stiff and contrived if you work on it too hard. So, I try to be spontaneous. It’s not about what you do, but who you do it with that’s most important. If you are with someone who is awesome and having a good time, you can sit at a bus station and still have fun.”
—Alexander Skarsgard gives his dating advice. Luckily, he takes maybe girlfriend Kate Bosworth to better places than the Greyhound depot—they were recently spotted together at Coachella. [People] Keep reading »
Chris brought me flowers every week. Chris wined and dined me and took me on spontaneous romantic getaways. Chris called when he said he would, made plans in advance, opened doors, and held hands. But when he wasn’t doing all of those things, Chris was also kind of an a**hole.
There is a moment in every doomed-to-fail union when your relationship jumps the shark, whether you know it or not. Maybe he forgets to calls one time too many or cancels again. Maybe you just wake up one day and realize you’re tired of his face. For me, that moment with Chris came when I told him that my work schedule would make it impossible to hang out for a couple of days. On the brink of a giant promotion, I was coming in early and staying late, and I warned him I would be too busy to grab dinner in the coming 72 hours.
It is a nice feeling when your boyfriend expresses interest in seeing you often and is disappointed when you can’t get together. It’s most certainly not a nice feeling to sit and watch in horror as a grown 36-year-old man gets red in the face, curls his lips into an exaggerated pout, stamps his feet, and makes whining sounds. Keep reading »
Do you need a reason to stay awake all night? Like, maybe you’re babysitting late, pulling an all-nighter at the University of Phoenix, or you’re trying to head off jetlag by staying up until you’re on Tokyo time?
Well, it’s your lucky day. Meet Alex McRae, the creepiest creeper ever to skulk the creep circuit. Alex is a humanoid gastropod who’s allegedly teaching men “How to Pick Up a Girl in a Bar,” but the video should really be called “Flavor Savers and This Shirt: A Seminar in How Never to Get Laid.” Perhaps the most terrifying moment probably comes at 1:33, when Alex suggests you hit on a girl by asking her if you can eat her eyes. Not joking! To quote Alex, “It’s just strange!” Read more … Keep reading »
Bonjour, mes amis. It is I, Leonora, your faithful heroine on zee mission ov finding her one true love à Paree. So, it ees wis great disappointment zat I muss tell you that this week, I haf made très peu de progress. I am, how you say, a leetle stuck in zee matters of zee heart.
OK, so actually, the truth is just that I had a rather uneventful week. No word from any boys. Stayed in most nights, preferring to take walks and cook dinner alone. I’m not feeling too sad or lonely, just experiencing a slight lull in entertainment. But in general, I’m cool and calm, and have been focusing on appreciating Paris for the amazing city that it is. Keep reading »
As a wise man once told me, there’s not much a woman can do to make herself completely unappealing to every guy at a bar. After all, a bar contains all the essential elements to romance—booze, dim lighting, and the sweet, sweet smell of desperation.
However, as difficult as it is to come off as completely repellent—especially as last call approaches — there are some behaviors to steer away from. So whatever you do … Keep reading »
This may make all of the serial daters out there feel a little bit better. Or, ahem, make me feel better. A new survey done in the U.K. found that the average woman goes on about 24 dates before she finds a keeper. And to add a little more solace—seven percent of the more than 2,000 women polled went on between 41 and 60 dates before finding someone special and one percent went on a staggering 61 to 80 dates before finding Prince Charming. Geez, no wonder we get so sick and tired of dating. That’s a lot frogs. Keep reading »
I’m so frustrated by hearing any dating advice that resembles “just trust your instincts.” It’s not that I don’t think it’s good advice — I do. I’m not that person who doesn’t believe in instincts or doesn’t know how to follow them. I am A + when it comes to following my instincts. They’ve led me through three careers, two cross-country moves, and a whole slew of major life dilemmas. My first — not even my middle! — name is Instinct. I follow my gut religiously, boldly, and without question in every single area of my life except my love life. In that department, my instincts have flown the coop and I don’t know how to get them back.
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