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7 Online Dating Red Flags to Avoid

Dater, beware: steer clear of these tell-tale online dating profile warning signs. Keep reading »

I’m Jealous Of His Female Friends

My boyfriend has lots of friends who are girls. Likewise, I have tons of friends who are guys. The problem is both of us are slightly jealous people, but neither one of us wants to give up our friends first. What should we do? Read more Keep reading »

9 Things I’ve Learned One Year Into A Relationship

I used to have an expiration date, like eggs or 2% milk. Nine months was my limit; nine months of dating and then a guy gave me my walking papers. But tomorrow will be one year since my boyfriend and I met each other at a birthday party and sometime in the next couple of weeks, we will have been dating for one year.

This whole experience has definitely been weird for me: I’d been single for the past two years and now I share a sock drawer and a toothbrush holder with someone. I’ve been thinking a lot lately about how much things have changed in the last year:

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365 Days In Paris: Summer Planning

“Hi honeeeyyy! So have you talked to your sister about July?”

“Mom, what? What’s happening in July?”

“You’re coming home. You and your sister are going to come up to Maine.”

“Uh, we are?”

I shouldn’t have been surprised when talking on the phone with my mother last week because stuff like this is typical mom-behavior. You know, telling you what to do, or making plans and then “informing” you of them, rather than scheduling them. Ever since I knew I might stay in Paris for a few extra months, I also knew I’d probably want to make a trip home at some point, but hadn’t gotten that far yet. With my mom on my back about July—not a month I would have picked for travel to the U.S.—it’s started to remind me of this weird relationship space I’m entering with my parents, one that I don’t know how to negotiate yet. Keep reading »

Are You Dating A Control Freak?

At first it might have been charming: he orders for you on dates, wards off creepy guys at the bar, wants to protect you. What girl doesn’t like being taken care of? But there’s a thin line between wanting what’s best for you and deciding what’s best for you. Keep reading »

Girl Talk: It’s Time To Cut The Baby Talk

There comes a point in every relationship when two people become so cozy together that they start to create their own private, little world. One person’s neck becomes a perfume shop, a place where you could bury your nose for hours. The other’s chest becomes a bedroom piece as essential to sleeping as the bed itself. This list could go on; this list could get dirty. But perhaps what’s most notable about the birth of your tiny couple nation is the genesis of your own tonally driven dialect of sweet, soothing sayings, otherwise known as baby talk.

Of course, baby talk should never be used within earshot of anyone other than your partner. (If you do happen to employ baby talk outside of state lines, you should be immediately deported.) When used in the confines of your relationship, though, it can be a really positive thing—until you overdo it, and the sweetness turns sour. Keep reading »

Girl Talk: I’m A Little Jealous Of Your New Relationship

I want to start this confession with a disclaimer: I have a boyfriend who I have been dating for two and a half years. It is a relationship that I have poured more love, commitment and concern into than any of my previous ones put together, and he does the same. He listens sincerely to all the problems I unload on him, even when it’s the same stale series of issues over and over again. Our biggest fight has only led to about 10 minutes of oh-so-mature silent treatment. We even have embarrassing nicknames for each other that I know better than to publish here. I know I am lucky to have this sort of relationship and I cherish every moment of it. I wouldn’t trade it for anything. Even though Jake Gyllenhaal is my “Get Out of Jail Free” exception, if he came calling in his “Prince of Persia” regalia, I know I couldn’t act on it. Now that has to be love.

And yet, I’m jealous of you—you giggly new couples with your adorably awkward first dates and timid hand-holding. Keep reading »

The 5 Biggest Relationship Mistakes I Ever Made

“Find a guy who calls you beautiful instead of hot, who calls you back when you hang up on him, who will lie under the stars and listen to your heartbeat, or will stay awake just to watch you sleep … Wait for the boy who kisses your forehead, who wants to show you off to the world when you are in sweats, who holds your hand in front of his friends, who thinks you’re just as pretty without makeup on. One who is constantly reminding you of how much he cares and how lucky his is to have you … The one who turns to his friends and says, ‘That’s her.’” — Unknown

Everyone makes mistakes in relationships. The trick is not making the same relationship mistakes over and over and over again. I’ve made my share of relationship mistakes along the way. Here are mine, so you don’t have to make them. Keep reading »

Dear Wendy: “My Boyfriend Still Frequents A Dating Site”

OK, whoa, sorry for posting that fake letter yesterday. Man, you guys took me to task on that one! That’s OK — I can take it as well as I can dish it. And to make it up to you, I’ve got two (very real) letters today. Read on…

My boyfriend and I have been together for going on five months now and things on the whole are going great. He’s super sweet, thoughtful, kind, and affectionate, genuinely enjoys spending time with me, and even at this early stage he’s hinted to me that he can see this relationship continuing for a while. The problem is we met on an online dating site and he’s still listed as single on there. Not only that, but he still logs in pretty frequently (about two or three times a day). Admittedly, I go on there quite a bit too, but I’ve been listed as “seeing someone” for about a month, so there’s no ambiguity about my only being there for a little “window shopping,” if you will. I know he’s not seeing anyone else — I trust him, and frankly, I don’t see how he would have the time anyway. But I’m just worried that deep down he thinks I’m not enough for him and that he’s hoping to meet someone even better. We joke about the site all the time and tease each other whenever one of us happens to see that the other has gotten a new message, but there’s this tiny part of me that’s worried that he’ll actually act on it. I know this is a really stupid and petty thing to be worried about but somehow I can’t let it stop bothering me. How can I ask him about this without seeming super clingy or like a web stalker? Or should I just try and forget about it? — Well-Matched

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Have You Ever Been On The Sex Diet?

I can’t tell you how many diets I’ve been on in my life. The grapefruit diet, the cookie diet, the no-sugar diet, the no-carbs diet, the Atkins diet, the raw diet, the juice diet, Weight Watchers, Nutrisystem, and too many more to list. While I’ve never been terrifically skinny or incredibly overweight, I’ve definitely vacillated in the 20-pounds zone. Sometimes, I’m up. Sometimes, I’m down. Mostly, I go in phases. For years, I’m very good. Other times, I am very bad. In the long run, it does seem like diets don’t really work. You lose it, but it tracks you down and finds you again. I have found one pretty fail-safe method over the years, though. And that’s the sex diet. Keep reading »

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