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That night at Madison Square Garden, as my date changed into sneakers by standing on his work shoes rather than the floor because “he didn’t want to soil his socks,” my first thought was, Isn’t everything about a Phish show dirty? My second thought was that while the red cashmere socks certainly qualified him as metrosexual, his unselfconscious aversion to dirt was a more finicky proclamation. And then it hit me like a box of steel-toed wing-tips. What I had just witnessed was the emergence of the metrosexual’s kissing cousin: the high maintenance man. While both metros and highmay (high maintenance) men are fastidious, the former are strictly fussy about how they dress and the latter are persnickety in myriad ways that may have nothing to do with their appearance. It’s just as high maintenance Sally — of “When Harry Met…” — so clearly explained: “I just want it the way I want it.” With the overwhelming acceptance of (or resignation to) metrosexuality, men who once feared being ridiculed for their highmay ways are stepping out of their walk-in closets onto the well-manicured path blazed by their sartorially-inclined cousins. While dating a man first in line at a Barney’s sample sale may seem like a bonus, a boyfriend should only be highmay about two things: sports and keeping his woman happy. All other forms of maintenance are flashing red lights on the highmay highway alerting women to slow down and reconsider. Thus I offer up the following list of traits for women to heed, as they’ll undoubtedly need some practical dating advice in the age of the high-maintenance man.
I am newly engaged to a fantastic guy (yay!). We’ve been together for a little over two years and living together (against the wishes of my parents and a few of my friends, who happen to be very conservative Christians). Last week, a very close friend of mine raised concerns that I am getting married without “thinking it through.” She said she’s not sure what a “good friend” is supposed to do: stand there, smile, and pretend to be excited for me, or openly tell me about her concerns for my future. While I agree that a true friend will (and should) say things to you that a fair-weather friend wouldn’t, her comments hit me like a Mack truck; I was completely blindsided. She then said, and I quote, “I don’t know that I’ll be able to stand beside you five years from now when you’re getting a divorce.”
Here’s the kicker: the friend is getting married later this year and I am a bridesmaid. For that matter, I was going to ask her to be in my wedding! I know I can’t just ignore her or pretend the conversation didn’t happen, but I have no idea how to respond to her. I feel that it is in no way appropriate for anyone — friend or otherwise — to talk to someone like that. I could understand her concerns if I were with someone who is abusive, a cheater, a compulsive liar, gambler, or any number of messed-up things people to do sabotage themselves and those around them, but my fiancé is an incredible person: intelligent, funny, hardworking, treats me like gold, and even our families get along great. I just don’t know where a person gets off saying these things to a friend, and especially have no idea how she expected me to respond.— Befuddled Bride
When you’re dating someone new, it’s obviously good advice to be wary of their exes. But since college is a fishbowl, exes aren’t the only type of people you need to be worried about. There’s tons of people who can make your life as miserable as possible or just ruin it all together.
Good news for those of you who are bending over backwards to figure out how to attract your dream guy/girl. As it turns out, the equation is very simple. Pretty much everyone — guys and girls, gay and straight, young and old — is looking for the same ten things in a partner.
No one in their right mind really expects to find a partner who excels in every single one of these areas. After all, if you’re already perfect, what do you need a relationship for anyway.
Identifying which of these areas you may be lacking in and beginning to work on them, will not only improve your chances of finding someone, but it will make you happier with yourself. Keep reading »
If you have gay male friends, you’ve probably heard them mention Grindr at least once, if not a thousand times. For those of you not familiar with the app, it uses GPS technology to track other gay men in your vicinity available for “meetups.” Basically, you can look on your phone and find out which men are in the same bar, on the same block as you at the same moment. You can check out their stats and photos, chat, and decide on a meeting place if you choose. According to one of my single gay friends, this app has “revolutionized his dating life.” Another calls it “a slutty hookup heaven.” Soon, we’ll be able to draw our own conclusions. This week, the company is launching a version of the app for heteros called Project Amicus. Keep reading »
I have been with my boyfriend for three years, and honestly can’t picture my life without him. Last week, though, I came home and found him in our bed, passed out with a naked woman. I had been staying at my place while my mother was in town. He knew I was coming home early that morning. That was the day we were planning on leaving to go on a 7-day cruise together.