A woman wrote to Rowan Pelling, the resident sex advice columnist for the Daily Mail, with a question I bet many of us have had at one point or another. She writes:
I’ve been with my boyfriend for six months, we’re both 34 and I am fairly sure he’s The One. The other night we ended up having a conversation about how many lovers we’d had. He told me he had slept with eight women and suddenly I felt nervous about confessing the truth – I had a lot of flings at university and in my first job at an ad agency, so my tally is closer to 40. But I found myself saying ten and even then he looked horrified. I hate being untruthful with him, but don’t want to be judged either. What should I do?
So, what do you think? Is honesty always the best policy? If the woman has been tested for STDs, etc. and shared the results with her boyfriend, is it even his business what her sex life was like before he started a relationship with her? Or should couples be completely honest with each other about their sexual histories?
Check out Pelling’s advice after the jump. Keep reading »
As if dating shows couldn’t get any worse, there’s a new addition to the primetime lineup this summer called “Dating in the Dark.” Maybe you’ve heard about it. Three men and three women court each other in a pitch-black room to find out if love is, in fact, blind. While I’m not racing to the next casting call, I do think I’ve figured out what my secret weapon would be: an accent. Who, I wonder, has never melted like chocolate in a warm hand at the sound of an exotic voice? Give me a nice Scottish brogue and those lights would never have to come on. Keep reading »
Imagine you’re getting dressed in front of your boyfriend and you ask the cliché question: “Do I look fat?” (We hope not, but just for the sake of argument here…) And his response is, “Well actually, do you want to do something about that?”
What would it be like to date a plastic surgeon—someone who spends his life producing and considering the “ideal” in female beauty? The New York Times‘s T style magazine investigates this question in its latest issue. The answers, surprisingly, are a mixed bag. There’s what you might expect—women who are cosmetic surgery fans ask their partners to help them out (and they do so willingly). One celeb surgeon, Dr. Raj Kanodia (Jen Aniston‘s nose man) has been known to dole out freebies to the ladies. “With previous girlfriends,” he says, “I’ve always done something—a little injection, a little Botox, and several of them I’ve done noses either during the relationship or after we broke up.” Keep reading »
While people have been gawking at the “Gossip Girl” crew that’s been filming all over Manhattan, some of the fans aren’t there to get a peek at their celeb crushes. This guy found his heart drawn towards an unknown girl wandering around the set. Hoping to find her, he posted in Craigslist‘s “Missed Connections.”
I am hoping to find the Gorgeous Tan Girl who was wearing White Pants and an Orange or Red Shirt and was with her 2 friends on 2nd Avenue right outside the Gossip Girl set that was filming. We made eye contact many times and I was hoping you would walk in the same direction as I walked but after turning around many times I finally lost you. If you happen to see this, please email me and let me know if you remember or know who I am or what I look like, etc.. I would love to be lucky enough to take you out for a drink.. Hope to find you…..
Interesting use of caps here! We hope that they find each other. And that they don’t have a relationship as complicated as Chuck and Blair’s. [Craigslist] Keep reading »
It’s a cliche, but it’s true: when I was really ill from depression last summer, it became easy to see who really cared about me and who had only stuck around me for other reasons.
I had been hooking up with two different guys that summer—”Brandon” and “Mark.” Brandon and I had developed what I’d thought was a deep friendship and mutual respect for each other’s careers; Mark and I had passion and affection. Both of them knew how I’d been struggling with sadness for the past eight months or so.
But both guys flat-out disappeared after I told them I’d been diagnosed by a doctor and prescribed medication. Did naming it make it real? Did calling it what it was make it scary? It hurt to sit with the reality that Mark and I had been in his bed together on Saturday night, but when I texted Mark on Monday morning to say I’d gotten a scrip for Lexapro, he never replied. Keep reading »
I’ve seen some things on Facebook that I wish I hadn’t. Last night, I was cruising my homepage when some pictures of my ex popped up in my newsfeed. We broke up years ago, so I thought to myself, “Why not? You can look. Who cares?” Apparently, I do. When I saw the pics of him and his girlfriend looking madly in love, I became insanely jealous. WTF? I’ve been over this guy for forever, so why was I so upset? Well, blame it on Facebook. According to a new study, the more time one spends on Facebook, the more likely she is to feel jealous toward her romantic partners, leading to more time on Facebook searching for additional information to fuel the jealousy. It’s an escalating cycle that may become addictive. So, I’m restricting my Facebook usage, lest I become like that girl who sent crazy emails to her BF while he was away in Europe. [Eureka Alert]
After the jump, cautionary tales of Facebook-inspired jealousy. Keep reading »
Heads up, “90210″ fans! On her date with Ryan Eggold, Merri is shocked to discover he is more than just a resident of the famous Beverly Hills zip code. Merri’s hot for teacher! Yow! [MERRIme.com] Keep reading »
“Why does she stay?” is the question most often asked when we hear about someone involved in an abusive relationship. Unfortunately, it’s also one of the least helpful things you can say to a woman caught up in this cycle. So what can we do to help when we suspect a friend is being battered?
Several years ago, project manager Jenny found herself in that position when she noticed a new friend was covered in bruises. “I told her flat-out that I had seen the bruises and that I was concerned,” Jenny says via email. “I told her that I didn’t know if she needed help or someone to talk to, but that she could call me any time, day or night.” Keep reading »
A year ago, my average week was something like a “Sex and The City” episode. Maybe it wasn’t that funny, maybe my clothes weren’t that fabulous, and maybe there weren’t that many hot-yet-problematic men, but there were guys, quite a few of them. I’d never had a boyfriend in high school. Then I went to an all-women’s college. In my senior year, I was in a serious relationship. When that didn’t work out, I found a Pandora’s Box of pleasures in the City. Keep reading »
What makes you swoon? I once swooned on a walk across a bridge in Central Park when my now-husband pointed to something below, and I looked down and saw the words “Wendy, will you marry me?” When I turned back around, he was down on a knee, holding my great-grandmother’s engagement ring. Swoon! I swoon when he brings home flowers for no reason at all, when he tells me I look lovely, and when I see how great he is with his niece and nephew. I wouldn’t swoon, however, if my man happened to “grasp my hand” when a beautiful, scantily-clad woman walked past us. Would you? Men’s Health seems to think this bizarre-o action is the key to a woman’s heart, seeing as they’ve included it in their list of 41 Ways To Make A Woman Swoon. In fact, almost the entire list seems to suggest that we women are insecure, needy, child-like creatures. After the jump, check out some of the other sad, sexist, and just plain odd ways they suggest making us swoon, and why they’re ridiculous. Keep reading »