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Thoughts From Guys On Our IM: Why Are Dudes Either Flaky Or Non-Committal About Time?

Why Are Men Non-Committal About Time?
What is it with dudes and time? By that we mean, why do they—and of course we are generalizing because that is what we get paid to do—either refuse to be committal when it comes to making a date or are super flaky about the plans/statements they do make? The Non-Committal Type says things like, “Let’s hang out soon” or “I’ll call you sometime.”
Meanwhile, The Flaky Type is super specific, but has zero follow through. “I’ll call you Monday to make plans for a date on Thursday” results in no call Monday, Tuesday, or Wednesday, so you make alternate plans for Thursday night, but guess what? He’s all up in your grill that morning, saying, “Psyched to hang out tonight!
What should we do?” We are in a constant state of trying to decide which type we hate more. But more important, why do guys generally fall into one of these two buckets? Why is the “Guy Who Makes Specific Plans And Sticks To Them” such a f**king dating unicorn? We went to the guys on our IM to find out.

Infographic: What Your Bra Says About You (On A Date)

Hey ladies! (And some dudes!) In honor of Bra Recycling Month (this is an actual, real thing and not just some creepy internet guy trying to get you to send him your old bras) we’re addressing that age-old question: If you hook up on a date, what can a guy tell about you from your choice in bra?

As it turns out, if you obsess about which over-the-shoulder-boulder-holder to pull from the ol’ bra(wer) drawer, you’re totally justified. We can tell quite a bit about you from the type of breast support you rely on. Keep reading »

Dear Wendy: “My Boyfriend Lies About His Porn Viewing”

I’ve been with my boyfriend — my first boyfriend — for almost two years now. I am away from home at school, only an hour and half drive away, and we see each other every weekend. He stays with me when he comes to visit. Recently the past couple of times he has come to visit, he uses my computer while I am away for class for a couple hours. At this recent account, I came back to my room and noticed that the floor was a little damp in a certain area right next to his chair. I asked him what happened and he said he spilled something. Later after he left, I was on my computer and up popped up porn sites. Then it dawned on me that he had not spilled something on the floor … if you know what I mean … So, I checked my history and found even more porn sites. According to the timeline of the days’ events, I know he looked at this right after I left for class, so right when he woke up and got out of bed.

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Text Messages Are Useless … Hormonally Speaking

Text messaging may have changed the way we communicate, but it will never change the way we communicate. According to a new study, text messages do not have the power to change a person’s hormone levels the way human voices do. Researchers found that girls who received phone calls or in-person visits from their mothers while doing stressful tasks were hormonally altered while those who received a text message were not. The girls who heard their mother’s voices showed a drop in cortisol (the stress hormone) levels and an increase oxytocin levels (the love hormone).*** Keep reading »

An Online Dating Site For The Sexless

So, maybe sex is off the table for you for whatever reason — emotional, physical, or spiritual — does that mean you shouldn’t have romance in your life? No, of course not. There’s a place for all of us in the dating world. Created by a cervical cancer survivor, 2Date4Love.com is a dating forum for people who cannot (or do not want to) engage in sexual intercourse, but still seek love, companionship, and intimacy. After founder Laura Brashier underwent chemotherapy, she found sex to be too painful, but did not want to give up on the hope of finding love. “I didn’t want to be alone. This was the reason I went online,” Laura said. “My reason is to help a lot of people like me if I can.” I really think this site will help people. As someone who has mixed feelings about the gimmicky slickness of many online dating sites, I find this to be a really wonderful concept. [NY Daily News] Keep reading »

Mind Of Man: Do Nice Guys Really Finish Last?

A recent study has concluded that it doesn’t pay to be a “nice” guy. Scientists have found that men who are “agreeable” in the workplace don’t earn as much money as men who are more cutthroat. This groundbreaking finding serves to prove that tired old saying that “nice guys finish last.” When did you become so starved for attention, science? I know that modern society is allergic to reason and that facts and the boring pursuit of truth aren’t sexy. But why bother drumming up controversy by using social research to confirm a statement that only reinforces gender cliches? Do you need a ratings boost?

When women hear that “nice guys finish last,” they wail and shake their fists and wonder aloud, very loudly, if they’ll ever, ever, ever find a guy who isn’t a jackass. Then there are the men who are actually jackasses who tell themselves they’re “nice guys,” because even jackasses need to sleep. But then they read, for the 1000th time, that “nice guys finish last,” and resign themselves to being jackasses. Because why bother being a nice guy if you’re doomed to failure? Both men and women respond emotionally to the phrase “nice guys finish last.” I don’t care how scientifically sound the study happens to be because I’ll bet all my credit card debt that it was inspired by a desire to steal some spotlight instead of illuminating the human condition. Keep reading »

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