When I was in my late 20s, I had a crush on a guy I worked with. He was tall and preppy, and looked like he’d stepped out of a J. Crew catalog. Every Monday morning I’d skip down the aisle, lean on the wall of his cubicle, and ask him how his weekend was, and he’d tell me about the restaurant he went to or the movie he saw.
He loved music, and I thought I could love him, so I invited him to see my friend and her band rehearse one night. She was an incredible up-and-coming singer who had the same manager as Alicia Keys, and my crush was thrilled to get to go to her rehearsal.
Afterwards, we stopped at his apartment. I took my Joss Stone CD out of my knapsack. “I think you’ll like this,” I said, handing it to him. He put it in his stereo, turned up the music, and turned off the lights.
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Even if you’re not a tech geek or a self-identified nerd, it’s highly possible that you’ve heard about an essay that ran on the blog Gizmodo on Monday (it’s received almost 800K hits as of this writing). In the piece, writer Alyssa Bereznak described how her first attempt at online dating resulted in her going out with a guy who, at first, seemed “normal,” until he revealed that he not only played that admittedly geeky card game Magic the Gathering, but was, in fact, the world champion. In the story, Bereznak also reveals his full name, generally a big time no-no when it comes to writing about personal experiences on the internet. (Although it becomes clear that she almost doesn’t have to give his name, as Jon Finkel — that’s his name — is a legend among the Magic community because of his “world champion” status.) Keep reading »
It’s every girls worst nightmare that she’ll grow old with seventy cats and no husband. While it’s completely reasonable to want to avoid this feline fate, the opposite is true of dogs. Having recently adopted a puppy, I’ve found reason to believe that having a furry friend is better than having a boyfriend. They may be mans best friend, but dogs are woman’s best wingman. Keep reading »
First dates are like job interviews. If you say the wrong thing, or fail to groom, or act like an obnoxious loon, then chances are good you’re going to stay unemployed. When you’re on that first date, be on your best behavior.
This list of dumb first date mistakes is meant to help. Because we care. Don’t make any of these mistakes, and your first date will probably be a smashing success.
And trust us: plenty of people make these mistakes. They text at the table, or smell like belly button lint, or ask intensely personal questions. These people don’t deserve to be in a relationship. Don’t be one of these people. Avoid these 10 dumb first date mistakes. Read more… Keep reading »
1. The First Time You Don’t Schedule Weekend Plans
That seamless transition between having to wait until Wednesday to ask “What are you up to this weekend?”, and having it be a given that you two are going to hang out. Keep reading »
OKCupid loves crunching the data on its daters. This week, they took a look at the most common words and phrases in the profiles of New York singletons. The results are fascinating. For both genders, not only is the most common phrase a TV show, it’s the same TV show—”30 Rock.” From there, the lists diverge, but there are an awful lot of TV shows on both gender’s lists. For men, the most used words are: “30 Rock,” “Arrested Development,” “Always Sunny in Philadelphia,” Bob Dylan, born and raised, and my iPhone. For women, the list is: “30 Rock,” “True Blood,” Jay-Z, obsessed with, ice cream, and wine.
Presumably, people mention these TV shows because (a) they like them and (b) they think liking them will appeal to potential suitors. And so we’d like to give the straight guys out there some help. After the jump, the shows guys should name check, in addition to “30 Rock” and “Arrested Development,” if they want to pique a woman’s interest. Plus some more random words that will help, too. Keep reading »