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Dear Wendy: “Is It OK To Call Guys For A Second Date?”

I’m a woman on the cusp of her 30th birthday and have enjoyed my single status for over a year now, but am looking for a relationship again (I had three serious ones throughout my twenties). About a year ago, I joined an online dating site, and have had no shortage of first-dates, but very few second dates. Granted, I don’t always want a second date with every guy I go out with, but I’m baffled when my date seems to show genuine interest and then I never hear from him again. So my first question is this: do women really have something to lose if we go ahead and call after a date to take a man up on his offer? Several friends are insistent that calling after the first date makes a woman look desperate, end of story. I am not sure how many more blows I can take in this department — there’s always the nagging question of, “What if I had just called?” I’m also wondering if there’s some “secret” I’ve been oblivious to in the past year that will magically make me more successful in the dating world. I believe I’m a “catch” and I know all the first-date don’ts: don’t drink too much, don’t talk about your ex, don’t sleep with him or come on too strong, etc. Is there something else I should be (or not be) doing? — Tired of Being Single

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11 Reasons Not To Call Him Back

You have a missed call … from him. Oh no! What are you going to do, girl? Don’t guilt yourself into an awkward conversation you don’t want to have. Before you touch that dial, does he deserve that return phone call? Or is he on this list … Keep reading »

30-Day Breakup Guide: Day 1

To celebrate the publication of our first-ever book, The Frisky 30-Day Breakup Guide, we’re re-running the original series that inspired it, and having writer Maude Standish bravely road test the book’s expanded tasks and tips. So follow along, chart your own progress, and find out everything else you need to know to forget he-who-shall-not-be-named!

DAY 1: Change Your Cell Phone’s Wallpaper

If you were “that girl” who had her boyfriend’s pic as her phone’s wallpaper, that ends. Now. Even if you didn’t and your phone’s screen has always proudly displayed the default “dewy leaf” background, it’s time to start over. Today you’re going to find your Inspirational Photograph that will accompany you on your 30-day journey.
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Dear Wendy: The Ex Files

I have been dating my man for a year and half and we have been living together for five months now. All in all, we have a great relationship, however, I worry about his feelings towards his ex. He has all of their old emails saved on his computer and I did some snooping (I know, I know, asking for trouble) and discovered that they had a flirtatious relationship up until we had been together for three months. She texted him frequently when she was drunk; they said “I love you” to each other; and he even called her on our first Valentine’s day together as a couple. He was honest about speaking with her, but was not honest about the extent of these exchanges. Furthermore, why does he still hold onto these emails? He also has a bracelet she gave him that he swears he will never part with (even though it’s metal and scratches me sometimes when we have sex). He feels that asking him to let go of these reminders of her is unfair. She was the first person he slept with and he’s a loyal guy, so I understand that his “sentimentality” was a contributing factor in all of this. Their last contact was over a year ago, though, so should I just let it go? Or should I admit to snooping and discuss it with him? Does this sound like bad news to anyone but me?? — Suspicious

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365 Days In Paris: Oh L’Amour, L’Amour

Things with Henri are going splendidly. We haven’t been apart since we got together. This has been great, but I’m starting to realize how different my life is now that I’m not single. It’s not a bad different, but there are changes all around, like:

  • My sheets have guy hair in them, and I’m doing laundry much more often.
  • There are two toothbrushes in the bathroom.
  • I’ve been spending more money on eating out or cooking for two, updating my sad underwear collection, taking the metro three times as often, and planning weekend getaways.

It’s a reminder that my last serious relationship was over three years ago. Also, I haven’t even had a roommate for about a year, so I’ve suddenly become aware of a whole single girl side of my life that is easy and comfortable but a bit sad and shameful too. (See: spending Sundays in bed watching bad French television, drinking some wine, tweezing hair in weird places.) Slowly, la vie en couple is coming back to me and I’m re-learning how to live it. I do wonder: are there differences between everyday boyfriend-girlfriend life in France and in the U.S.? Keep reading »

15 Ways To Make A First Date Less Awkward

Getting ready for a first date is never easy. Between the expectations, nervousness and excitement it usually doesn’t go as planned. In fact, a first date is often awkward and a bit uncomfortable. After all, you’re getting to know someone for the first time. Instead of worrying about the possibility of the date going wrong, take a look at 15 easy ways you can make your first date less awkward and more of a success! Keep reading »

John Stamos And Other Celebs Who Need To Go To “Love Therapy”

John Stamos has just become my favorite man in Hollywood. According to the Enquirer, which we will choose to believe in this specific incident even though we know better, John is taking a six-month hiatus from work to undergo intensive “love therapy.” Meaning, he wants to unravel the mystery of why he’s a 46-year-old bachelor. He’s going to spend time navel-gazing and figuring out why his romances always crumble, because he’s finally ready to find true love and settle down. A round of applause for John! [Celebitchy]

I think the entire human race should be required to go to “love therapy.” Think about how much better dating would be if everyone figured their crap out instead of dragging their baggage around with them. I hope a few other celebs follow John’s example. I’m not naming any names … well maybe I am. After the jump, some more celebs who we’d like to send to “love therapy.” Keep reading »

Online Dating In The Early 1900s

A-ha! So this is the early twentieth century version of online dating. Honest, straight-forward, to the point. With an amazing painted backdrop. I like it. [BuzzFeed] Keep reading »

Girl Talk: How Much Space Is Too Much In A Relationship?

We’ve all dated a jerk at some point in our lives, and if you haven’t yet, you will. Like they say, you have to kiss a bunch of frogs to find your prince, right? Well, needless to say I’ve kissed my fair share of frogs and still no prince. But each frog I’ve dated has taught me at least one valuable lesson, if not more. One lesson I learned from an ex-frog is that if you give a guy a little rope to work with it might actually bring him closer to you, but give him too much rope and he will hang himself. Keep reading »

Dear Wendy: “My Boyfriend Says He’s Not In Love”

It’s time again for “Shortcuts,” wherein I answer readers’ letters in two sentences or less. Sometimes the answer to a person’s question is so obvious and the need to hear it so great, being as clear and frank as possible is simply the best way to go. Today we discuss loser boyfriends, lying about one’s age, and creepy old-man dance teachers. Keep reading »

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