Tag Archives: dating

How Did You Like Our Date? Tell Me In A Detailed Survey!

Be My BF: Spreadsheet Guy
This guy made a spreadsheet of all his Match.com dates. Read More »
Online Dating No-Nos
Take these five phrases off your profile immediately! Read More »

Last month, we told you about the finance guy who catalogued and kept track of his online dates via spreadsheet. As someone who loves spreadsheets and enjoys organizing things, I kind of found this a neat trick. Now we bring you the story of a 24-year-old finance guy (it’s always finance guys) who has his dates fill out a survey at the end of the evening. In addition to ranking him based on looks, attitude and general enjoyability, survey takers are also asked this question: “Mike is very masculine; at any point did you feel he was compensating for anything?”

As if the survey wasn’t a clue that Mike might be “compensating” for “something.”

The full survey, linked to the outside world by one of Mike’s previous dates, is after the jump. Said the woman of her experience with the future census collector: “He struck me as a little socially inept hence why I was starting to doubt the ‘non-physical’ attraction. He wasn’t too creepy, just the type of guy who over-analyzes every detail and feels completely awkward in the majority of social situations. It didn’t seem like he got out much.” Keep reading »

“The Rules” Are Coming Back — And They’re Still Not Helpful

FWB Rules
Want a fuck buddy? Follow these six rules to ensure it's a success! Read More »
Tetris Dating Rules
Tetris is just one giant metaphor for life. Read More »
Texting Rules
What are the rules for texting? Read More »

For a period in 1995, women stopped calling men on the phone and approaching them in bars. The reason? The Rules, a bestselling dating advice book by Ellen Fein and Sherri Schneider. The book, which became a cultural flashpoint, encouraged women to adopt more old-fashioned rules about dating and relationships, like using an egg timer to limit phone calls to five minutes and never, ever sleeping with a guy on the first (or fifth) date. Though the book was popular enough to spawn several sequels, Fein and Schneider have mostly stayed out of the media in the new millennium. Until now. Their new book, Not Your Mother’s Rules, will be published in February 2013. Though the basic approach is still the same, they’ve updated their formula to include advice about texting, sexting, emailing, and (of course) online dating. Keep reading »

The Geek Guide To Dating A Geek

I’ve been a self-identified nerd since I was 16, but I didn’t always date within my identity. I dated all kinds. Hipsters. Musicians. Wannabe hipsters. Bad musicians. My current boyfriend is a total nerd too, but I almost gave up on our relationship after our first date because he hadn’t read George Orwell’s 1984. (And he over-used exclamation points in his emails.)

Five years later, I’m so happy I didn’t let dystopian fiction and punctuation stand in the way of love. Here’s 5 rules for geek dating:

1. Don’t judge a geek by their fandom. If you’re a Trekkie, but you discover that the nerd you’re dating hasn’t even seen a clip of Star Trek on YouTube, don’t immediately guffaw. It will be your first reaction, because you can’t imagine your life without it. Instead, look at this as an opportunity to show a side of yourself to this person and share it with them.  Read more …

Girl Talk: The Harm In Labeling Someone “Harmless”

The Soapbox
Why "creep-shaming" is total BS. Read More »
Drunk Is A Feminist Issue
Why women everywhere should be concerned about binge-drinking. Read More »
Too Drunk?
If you're a drunk woman who gets raped, will you be taken seriously? Read More »

I just got back from a totally blissful six-day vacation in Tulum, Mexico, a quiet beach town about two hours from Cancun. I went alone. I’ve traveled solo (i.e. not in the company of a friend, boyfriend, or family member) before, but always as part of an organized group. This trip was the first time I was traveling alone without built-in activities and social opportunities. It was wonderful. I really enjoy my own company and loved having the freedom to do whatever I wanted — including nothing. But as a single woman traveling alone to a foreign country, I also knew I needed to be cautious and mindful of my safety. I took cabs at night if the area I was going to wasn’t well-lit, I locked my cabana door tight at night even though the ocean breeze would have cooled things down, and I kept a watchful eye on my drink at all times. Keep reading »

Dating Don’ts: Putting A Moratorium On Beating Yourself Up

Dating Don'ts: Negging
Just say no to negging! Read More »
Dating Don'ts: In Bed
Never say these things to a man in bed. Read More »
Dating Don'ts: Ghosting
Thou shalt not ghost your love interests. Read More »

“You’re really mean to yourself,” my friend said after I’d finished listing all the ways I’d messed up a date with a guy I really liked. What did I do that I found so unacceptable? Here’s the list:

1. I didn’t offer to pay. I always offer to pay, but then I feel resentful because I don’t really want to pay and I want the guy to decline my offer, so I was just trying to experiment with letting myself feel treated. But now he probably thinks I’m using him and just in it for a free meal!

2.I botched the kiss goodnight moment. He went in for the kiss and I kissed him on the cheek, then gushed about what a great time I had to overcompensate for the missed kiss, then jumped out of his car. Because I wanted to kiss him, but I also wanted to take it slow, but I was nervous, and could I have been more horribly awkward?!

3. I talked about an ex. Absolutely unforgivable!!! Why, why, why did I do this??? Keep reading »

12 Facebook Friends You Should Keep Because They’re So Much Fun To Stalk

FB Friend Dealbreakers
These Facebook infractions will get you unfriended. Read More »
Facebook Stalker?
5 signs that you're a Facebook stalker. Read More »
Facebook ruins self-esteem
A new study confirms it. Read More »

I use Facebook primarily for three reasons: To chat with my family members who live out of state, to share links of animals doing stupid cute things and occasionally, to stalk. I’m not talking about stalking exes, I’m not into that at all. I usually hide or unfriend them within moments of the breakup. I’m no masochist and looking at exes makes you feel like crap. I only engage in fun stalking. The kind that makes me feel good about myself. I like to creep on FB friends that I should probably unfriend. I just can’t because I enjoy following their every virtual move so much. After the jump, the Facebook friends you really should keep just for the hell of it. Keep reading »

Is It Normal To Feel Disconnected When You Live Together?

I’ve been with my boyfriend for two years now and this past month, we saw each other a lot more frequently (i.e. every day) since my parents weren’t in town. Essentially, we were pretty much living together for that month. We would see each other after classes, go out to eat together, make dinner, etc. I feel that from this past month, I can sense that he is not as affectionate to me as we used to be — after sex, we would just go to sleep and not really cuddle). Little things he does are starting to bother me too, like laziness. It’s nothing major, but I guess it’s something you really see with time.

Is it normal to feel like you’re a little more disconnected when you’re living together vs. not? It’s only temporary, so I’m not sure if this is a sign of things in our future if we were to get married? Read more …

Even “Girls” Star Zosia Mamet Agrees Dating In Your 20s Sucks

"Girls" Diversity
Lena Dunham explains the lack of diversity on "Girls." Read More »
Tokenism?
Erica says lay off "Girls" for being all-white and give black girls a show. Read More »
"Girls" Vs. "SATC"
lena dunham photo
Lena Dunham on the debt "Girls" owes to "Sex And The City." Read More »
zosia mamet on dating

“Ninety percent of the time when I go on dates, I’m by myself thinking, I could be reading my book instead,” Zosia Mamet, who plays the naive one on “Girls” (and the lesbian-ish one on “Mad Men”), said last week on “Conan.” Oh, honey. We know. We have been there. Oh, have we been there. The next step is that you go on a date and find yourself missing your cat. [Team Coco]

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One-Night Stand Etiquette: Who Should Cover Birth Control?

The indie rom-com “The Pill” is about the day after a one-night stand that the man fears will result in a pregnancy; hilarity and the pursuit of emergency contraception ensue.

It’s a little bit of “Run Lola Run” meets “Knocked Up,” but without the dialogue that you’d picture a Katherine Heigl character saying. And it brings up a few really important questions about responsibility and a fertilized ovum. Check out the clip below, which shows us the, well, WRONG way to go about contraception usage during a one-night stand (spoiler alert: not using any!). Read more …

5 Reasons Being A Single Man Is Kind Of Overrated

While most will probably remember 2012 as the “Year Of The YOLO” (and by “most” I mean “like seven people”), it holds special significance for me because it’ll likely be the first year since 2002 where I spent the entire year single. I haven’t completed a full calendar year yet — May will make it seven months since the former Lady Champ and I decided to go our separate ways — but because I seem to enjoy doing random anthropological experiments on myself for absolutely no reason (and because I’m an INTJ and INTJs apparently suck at relationships), I’m confident that I’ll make it to 2013 without having to change my Facebook relationship status again.

Anyway, if I could sum up my seven months of singledom in one word, it would most likely be “interesting.” Read more …