Category Archives: Parenting

How Do We Feel About The “Kid Shaming” Meme?

Street Style Toddler
Aila Wang makes other street style stars look like child's play. Read More »
Toddler Fight Club
There's not hope for humanity, you guys. Read More »
Tone Deaf Singer
Listen to this little boy butcher "How To Be An American." Read More »
License Parents?
Judge Judy on "The View" photo
Judge Judy thinks parents should be licensed to procreate. Read More »

Nothing on the Internet is better than the dog shaming meme: pet owners post pictures of their pups with signs around their necks reading stuff like “I ate my own barf” and “I like to hump this cat.” I keep trying to get Amelia to submit a photo of Lucca but she insists her dog has never done anything to be ashamed of, ever. Anyway, now the meme has spread to little kids. Keep reading »

Girl Talk: I Am My Mother’s Least Favorite Child

Fears From Mom
Strange fears our mothers instilled in us. Read More »
On Motherhood
Why are we treating moms like second class citizens? Read More »

When I was little, I was convinced my mother hated me. Between my two older brothers and me, I was positive I was the one she liked least. Even at a young age I could sense I was a disappointment, that I didn’t fit the stereotype of her dream daughter: sweet, demure, cooperative, loving. I was that at first, mind you. As a baby, I rarely cried or fussed. I had big blue eyes and wore smocked dresses and ruffled bloomers. It appeared that having me was worth it, I imagine she thought, despite the fact that she was separated from my father before I was even born.

“Daisy was a perfect baby,” my mother still says. “And then she turned three.” Keep reading »

Hitched: Why My Husband Is Getting A Vasectomy

No Interest In Kids
Gloria Steinem on Chelsea Lately
Chelsea Handler and Gloria Steinem do not want kids. Read More »

I’ve been walking around with a sketch of a uterus and cervix in my reporter’s notebook for several weeks now, courtesy of my gynecologist. She drew it while explaining to me how an IUD works. I keep it around both because I like it as a conversation piece and because when you write about ladyparts as much as I do, it’s actually quite useful as a reference tool at the office or, you know, the bar. Wherever.

But what I like best about my little IUD sketch is that I don’t need it, because my husband is getting a vasectomy. When it comes to long-term contraception that isn’t sterilization, vasectomies are the bee’s infertile knees. The benefits are many: I don’t have to live with a foreign body inside me (either of biological origin or one made of copper), condom breakage isn’t a constant concern, and neither do I have to rely on hormones or head back to my doctor’s office regularly for a Depo shot. Keep reading »

The Best Father/Daughter Portraits Maybe Ever

Meet Dave Engledow and his daughter Alice Bee. When Alice was born, Engledow wanted to document her life and their relationship in a unique way, so he started taking these elaborate photos with her, in which he’s depicted as the anti-World’s Best Dad. They are hilarious, sweet, and such a fantastic tribute to their relationship that Alice will be able to treasure as an adult. Check out tons more of his photos on Fotoblur and donate to his Kickstarter here.

The Soapbox: Why Choosing Your Baby’s Sex Is Gambling On Gender Stereotypes

Pink Photo Project
The Pink & Blue Project photo
A fascinating photo project captures little girls and their pink toys. Read More »
I'm Doing IVF
IVF
One women's experience with IVF. Read More »
Sexist Beliefs
mother and daughter photo
Sexist beliefs are passed down more from mothers than fathers, study finds. Read More »

There are many in Western society that seem to band together anytime the subject of sex-selective abortion in foreign countries comes up. It’s a tricky topic, especially for those of us who favor unfettered abortion access. Outrage and incomprehension over aborting female fetuses in favor of males is usually the default response, with many claiming the practice is misogynistic, and rightfully pointing out the negative impact it has on many countries, specifically in Asia.

But despite our alarm and discomfort surrounding sex-selective abortion, many in Western society have no issue doing all they can to conceive a specific sex. And while pregnancy screenings to rule out female fetuses abound outside the U.S., there has recently been a surge in the number of parents looking to do exactly the opposite within this country: going to great — and expensive — lengths to ensure that their newborn is a girl. Keep reading »

Frisky Q&A: Jessica Valenti, Author Of “Why Have Kids?” Plus, Enter To Win A Kindle Fire!

Mommy Wars Ceasefire
I want a ceasefire on the mommy wars, because it helps no one. Read More »
On Attachment Parenting
One woman's opinion about attachment parenting. Read More »
Single Mom Speaks
Rick Santorum can kiss this single, working mother's ass. Read More »

Go to the parenting section of any bookstore and there are hundreds of thousands of pages to read on how to do it and setting expectations for what the experiences should be like. Very few tackle the question of why a person, in particular a woman, should/would become a parent, and even fewer from a feminist perspective. That’s why I was so excited to read Jessica Valenti’s new book on the subject, Why Have Kids?: A New Mom Explores The Truth About Parenting And HappinessValenti is the founder of the feminist blog Feministing and author of a number of books, including The Purity Myth and Full Frontal Feminism, as well as a first-time mom to daughter Layla. Why Have Kids? is an incredibly well-researched look at the reality of parenting in America, in particular how having a child affects relationships, career aspirations, and financial security, using statistics, interviews with real women, and Valenti’s own experience as a guide. As someone who definitely does want kids, the book was still incredibly eye-opening, not to mention a total page-turner — I devoured it in a day! I was excited about getting to interview Valenti myself. Check out my Q&A with her — and enter to win a copy of Why Have Kids? and/or a Kindle Fire after the jump! Keep reading »

The Soapbox: On Rupert Everett & Having Gay Parents

Bigotry Is "Sick"
zachary quinto in out
Actor Zachary Quinto on the persecution of gays. Read More »
I'm A Lesbian Mom
lesbian moms photo
Meet a mom who is raising a son with her female partner. Read More »
On Bigotry
Andrea Grimes on love, politics and bigotry. Read More »

The actor Rupert Everett, who is gay, believes children should have a “mother and a father.”

My father, who is also gay, shared the same beliefs. So did my gay mother. So did my gay father-in-law. So, in fact, did the Christopher Plummer character in “Beginners.”

But can it be true that there’s “[nothing] worse than being brought up by two gay dads,” as Rupert said?

Ask my husband, whose father and stepfather fully participated in raising him. Ask my children, who have three of four openly gay grandparents. Keep reading »

Man Points Gun At Pregnant Smoker, Fails At Life

pregnant smoker photo

Smoking while pregnant isn’t defensible.

But you know what else isn’t defensible? Pointing a gun at a pregnant woman. Keep reading »

Mom Trades In SUV For Family Bike; Makes The Rest Of Us Look Incredibly Lazy

This is Emily Finch, a mother of six who traded in her gas-guzzling Suburban for a thigh-burning family bike. Apparently a full load of kids, gear, and groceries can weigh up to 550 pounds, but Finch keeps pedaling away in her cute wedge sandals, making sure to “rotate kids into pumping position to keep them fresh.” Would anyone be surprised if I told you she lives in Portland? Anyone? Anyone? That’s what I thought. [Bike Portland]

The Invisible Bike Helmet
Can you see it? Probably not. Read More »
Your Vagina And Your Bike
What you need to know. Read More »
Portland Is Weird
Here are 10 reasons why. Read More »

How To Tell Quadruplets Apart

Field Guide: Scene Kid Hair
This is some bad hair, guys. Read More »
Mini Prince
Stop it. Just, stop. Read More »
Parenting Solutions
These quadruplets' hair cuts help everyone tell them apart

Clearly, the most creative way to tell quadruplets apart is to shave numbers onto their heads. In China, that’s exactly what the mother of identical, six-year-old boys did. “My sons are identical, even to me,” said their mother, Tan Chaoyun.”Even now, their father can’t tell which one is which … Sometimes, he punishes the second one for something the third one has done.”  Yeah, that would suck. With their new haircuts, one, two, three and four — or whatever their actual names are — can be easily identified both at school and at home. [AU News]

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