Category Archives: Parenting

Mommie Dearest: Explaining The Newtown Massacre To My Son

The Soapbox: Gun Control
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You don't have to be a parent to be worried about guns. Read More »
Obama In Newtown
Watch the president address mourners at the Sandy Hook vigil. Read More »
Shooting In CT
Twenty-seven people were killed, including 20 children. Read More »

“It’s unthinkable.” That’s what headlines are proclaiming and friends are telling me about the absolutely devastating massacre in Newton, Connecticut.

Unthinkable.

For me, it’s the complete opposite. I can’t stop thinking about it. Since the first moment the internet started buzzing with slips of information, my mind latched on and couldn’t let go. Days later and it still hasn’t. I’m not sure it ever will.

Why?

How?

Why? Keep reading »

The Soapbox: You Don’t Have To Be A Parent To Be Worried About Guns

Obama In Newtown
Watch the president address mourners at the Sandy Hook vigil. Read More »
Comfort Dogs
Amidst the Newtown tragedy, a furry paw of comfort. Read More »
Shooting In CT
Twenty-seven people were killed, including 20 children. Read More »
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“We’ve endured too many of these tragedies in the past few years.  And each time I learn the news I react not as a President, but as anybody else would — as a parent.  And that was especially true today.  I know there’s not a parent in America who doesn’t feel the same overwhelming grief that I do.”

– President Obama’s statement on the Sandy Hook School shooting in Newtown, Connecticut.

I have never been happier to see my daughter than the moment on Friday evening when I picked her up from her Girl Scouts pizza party. I made a beeline for her, hugged the stuffing out of her, kissed her and repeated. The repeat treatment was on behalf of a friend who does not have children, but loves her friends’ children as her own. Keep reading »

True Story: What You Don’t Know — But Should — About Single Mothers

Single Mom Speaks
Jennifer has been a single mom and Rick Santorum can kiss her ass. Read More »
Ann Hates Single Moms
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Ann Coulter trashed single mothers on the "Today" show. Read More »
Single Mom Hallmark Card
Hallmark made a card for black single moms on Father's Day. Read More »

I’m going to propose something that may seem radical, given the hysteria that single motherhood seems to conjure in American society. The typical single mother? She doesn’t exist.

As a solo-parenting mother (which is different than a single parent — this is a nuanced “issue” my friends!), I’ve searched high and low to find out if a significant portion of single moms are representative of the stereotype that politicians, moralizing religious groups, and census statistics tell me are single (puns!) handedly causing a rise in childhood poverty. All I’ve managed to find is a group of people as diverse as our married counterparts. Keep reading »

Mommie Dearest: Let’s Give Pregnant Kate Middleton Some Space

Kate Is Pregnant!
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Buckingham Palace has finally confirmed the princess is pregnant. Read More »
Kate Hospitalized
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The princess has "acute" morning sickness. Read More »
Morning Sickness
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His wife has the same acute morning sickness as Kate Middleton. Read More »

If you’ve been living under a rock for the past few days, then allow me to be the first to share the breaking news: Princess Kate is pregnant! Now feel free to join in with the rest of the world as it goes absolutely completely bonkers in reaction.

I understand that a new baby, especially one of royal lineage, is a huge deal. And sure, I’m also super curious whether the wee-one-to-be is going to have a head full of shiny, chestnut locks like his or her mother. But honestly? The most I can muster up for Kate right now, beyond my heartfelt congratulations, is my deepest sympathies. Keep reading »

Barbie Now Has Her Own Construction Site

Little Girls & LEGOs
Why LEGOs "for girls" are extremely popular. Read More »
Remixed Toy Ads
Remixed toy ads tell the truth about gendered marketing. Read More »
Sexist Toy Catalogs
Why is stuff to play with divided into "boys" and "girls" toys? Read More »
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When I was a little girl, playing LEGOs with my little brother was far from appealing. Not only did I have no interest in hanging out with him anyway, but I much preferred settling myself in my bedroom loft, cutting my Barbie’s hair off and allowing her to scandalously peck my Swan Princess Prince Derek Barbie doll on the cheek. Barbie got lucky with him. He was a hunk.

Next week, though, Mattel will be combining a LEGO-like atmosphere with Barbie in their new construction set, Mega Bloks Barbie Build ‘n Style. This new toy, featuring a mini-Barbie that can attach to each construction site, comes in various scenes like “a fashion boutique, a mansion and an ice cream cart,” where the children can rearrange and build the play set themselves. Keep reading »

Mommie Dearest: Why Toy Catalogs Make Me Roll My Eyes

Little Girls & LEGOs
Why LEGOs "for girls" are extremely popular. Read More »
Remixed Toy Ads
Remixed toy ads tell the truth about gendered marketing. Read More »
Sweet Or Creepy?
Disney princess doll
Put your daughter's face on a Disney princess doll. Read More »

Mommie Dearest is The Frisky’s new biweekly column about being a mama.

I have a love/hate relationship with catalogs. There are some that I love to flip through and pretend that I have the money to burn. Who wouldn’t want her own cotton candy machine, night vision goggles, or handcrafted teak patio furniture? (I don’t even have a patio.) The holiday season provides me with an ample supply of these catalogs, depositing no less than three catalogs a day into my mailbox. However, they’re not all fantasy furnishings and expensive gadgets. The majority of the catalogs I receive actually cause me to roll my eyes, gnash my teeth and fill my already stuffed recycling bin to the brim: toy catalogs promoting tired traditional gender stereotypes. Keep reading »

Mom Blogs About Taking Her Son For Pedicures

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  • I’m loving this post on Raising My Rainbow, a parenting blog hosted on Queerty written by the mother of “a slightly effeminiate, possibly gay, totally fabulous son.” In this latest post, she writes about taking her son for pedicures and how rudely everyone in the nail salon behaved. The woman doing the mom’s pedicure actually asked her, “Is that a boy or a girl?” [Queerty]
  • A U.S. District judge ruled on Monday that a chain store called Hobby Lobby must abide by the provisions of Obamacare in regards to contraception; Hobby Lobby has appealed the ruling. [Think Progress]
  • Four generals, four scandals, and a sprawling rape case. [NYmag.com The Cut]
  • Karen Handel, the former executive at Susan G. Komen who left the organization amidst allegations they were politicizing their funding for Planned Parenthood, is reportedly considering a Senate bid. [Huffington Post] Keep reading »

The Soapbox: Why Is Facebook So Against Breastfeeding?

Professor Breastfeeds
Breastfeeding professor brings sick baby to class, heads explode. Read More »
Rape Jokes On Facebook
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Joking about raping women is cool with Facebook. Read More »
Nursing Video On Porn Site
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Mom sues after "Parents" mag nursing video ends up on a porn site. Read More »

For all the pomp and circumstance of having nursed my son until he was three-years-old, I’ve only ever dealt with somebody negatively commenting on it twice. The first time happened when my son was around 18 months old. We were visiting family in southern Connecticut and ended up at a Johnny Rockets for lunch. A few minutes after being seated, our teenage waitress came over and said that somebody had complained about me breastfeeding my son and informed me that I “couldn’t do that here.” I let her know that, actually, I could, since the state of Connecticut protected my right to nurse my son in public wherever I wanted. She then told me that the restaurant had a special room for nursing, and that I should use that. It turned out that the “special room” was the questionably clean bathroom, and I let her know, again, that I was perfectly fine where I was. She finally left, only to stare at me while snarking behind her hand with her fellow waitresses, and I continued to nurse my son while sipping on my delicious milkshake. Nothing more was said by anyone on the subject (except for my sister-in-law, who ate lunch with us that day and later emailed Johnny Rockets headquarters to let them know what transpired — they sent us free milkshake coupons as an apology). Keep reading »

Riot Grrl Kathleen Hanna On Bikini Kill’s Beginnings

Kathleen Hanna Rocks
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Kathleen Hanna of Le Tigre on being a feminist ambassador. Read More »
Fanzines, A Love Story
On riot grrl, feminism and fanzines. Read More »

“I wanted to be a part of a family. I wanted to be someone who helped girls who’d been abused feel less alone because I’d been one of those girls. How is it that the world is half women, so many of us have experienced rape, battering, and verbal abuse, yet there were very few songs about these issues? I also wanted to make sure young women knew that feminism wasn’t dead just ’cause that’s what all the books and magazines were saying. … Keep reading »

Mommie Dearest: A Tale Of Two Gay Penguins

Gay Scaremongering
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This gay marriage scaremongering ad is so bad it's good. Read More »
On Bigotry
Andrea Grimes on love, politics and bigotry. Read More »
Children Of Lesbians
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Children of lesbians are happy and academically successful, says study. Read More »

One of the more challenging aspects to being a parent is keeping a handle on all the various things to which your child is exposed. For instance, the many studies pointing to a connection between early exposure to violent media and aggression certainly causes me to think twice about the television shows my almost-six-year old watches. And while I possibly think too much about the potential for him to turn into a pizza-eating, nunchuk-wielding vigilante as an adult due to too much “Teenage Mutant Ninja Turtles,” it’s for good reason. Children are highly impressionable sponges, soaking up as much of the world around them, and most parents want to ensure that their children are only soaking up the good stuff.

It makes sense. We’re raising the next generation and all, and we’d like them to be decent, conscientious people who aren’t car-thieving murderers who played too much “Grand Theft Auto” when they were younger. However, for as much as we’d like to have some semblance of control over what they’re exposed to, we’re not with our children every single second of the day. We can’t dictate what they’ll pick up from friends, extra-curricular activities, or school. At some point, we need to trust that we’ve instilled in them the ability to make good and reasonable choices for themselves, despite their seemingly undying love for Ninja Turtles (No, seriously. My son is obsessed. I do sort of fear he may take to the sewers one day). Keep reading »

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