Category Archives: Parenting

The Soapbox: Why Is Facebook So Against Breastfeeding?

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Breastfeeding professor brings sick baby to class, heads explode. Read More »
Rape Jokes On Facebook
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Joking about raping women is cool with Facebook. Read More »
Nursing Video On Porn Site
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Mom sues after "Parents" mag nursing video ends up on a porn site. Read More »

For all the pomp and circumstance of having nursed my son until he was three-years-old, I’ve only ever dealt with somebody negatively commenting on it twice. The first time happened when my son was around 18 months old. We were visiting family in southern Connecticut and ended up at a Johnny Rockets for lunch. A few minutes after being seated, our teenage waitress came over and said that somebody had complained about me breastfeeding my son and informed me that I “couldn’t do that here.” I let her know that, actually, I could, since the state of Connecticut protected my right to nurse my son in public wherever I wanted. She then told me that the restaurant had a special room for nursing, and that I should use that. It turned out that the “special room” was the questionably clean bathroom, and I let her know, again, that I was perfectly fine where I was. She finally left, only to stare at me while snarking behind her hand with her fellow waitresses, and I continued to nurse my son while sipping on my delicious milkshake. Nothing more was said by anyone on the subject (except for my sister-in-law, who ate lunch with us that day and later emailed Johnny Rockets headquarters to let them know what transpired — they sent us free milkshake coupons as an apology). Keep reading »

Riot Grrl Kathleen Hanna On Bikini Kill’s Beginnings

Kathleen Hanna Rocks
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Kathleen Hanna of Le Tigre on being a feminist ambassador. Read More »
Fanzines, A Love Story
On riot grrl, feminism and fanzines. Read More »

“I wanted to be a part of a family. I wanted to be someone who helped girls who’d been abused feel less alone because I’d been one of those girls. How is it that the world is half women, so many of us have experienced rape, battering, and verbal abuse, yet there were very few songs about these issues? I also wanted to make sure young women knew that feminism wasn’t dead just ’cause that’s what all the books and magazines were saying. … Keep reading »

Mommie Dearest: A Tale Of Two Gay Penguins

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This gay marriage scaremongering ad is so bad it's good. Read More »
On Bigotry
Andrea Grimes on love, politics and bigotry. Read More »
Children Of Lesbians
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Children of lesbians are happy and academically successful, says study. Read More »

One of the more challenging aspects to being a parent is keeping a handle on all the various things to which your child is exposed. For instance, the many studies pointing to a connection between early exposure to violent media and aggression certainly causes me to think twice about the television shows my almost-six-year old watches. And while I possibly think too much about the potential for him to turn into a pizza-eating, nunchuk-wielding vigilante as an adult due to too much “Teenage Mutant Ninja Turtles,” it’s for good reason. Children are highly impressionable sponges, soaking up as much of the world around them, and most parents want to ensure that their children are only soaking up the good stuff.

It makes sense. We’re raising the next generation and all, and we’d like them to be decent, conscientious people who aren’t car-thieving murderers who played too much “Grand Theft Auto” when they were younger. However, for as much as we’d like to have some semblance of control over what they’re exposed to, we’re not with our children every single second of the day. We can’t dictate what they’ll pick up from friends, extra-curricular activities, or school. At some point, we need to trust that we’ve instilled in them the ability to make good and reasonable choices for themselves, despite their seemingly undying love for Ninja Turtles (No, seriously. My son is obsessed. I do sort of fear he may take to the sewers one day). Keep reading »

Hitched: On Mothers-In-Law (And Mother-In-Law Jokes)

I have known since I was a wee child that someday, there would be a woman in my life that I would hate more than any person on the planet. She will be the epitome of all things evil; a seething skin-bag of meddlesome, ignorant lady-pus, hardly worthy to walk among us and yet, walk among us she will. Unabashed, her goal in life will be to make me miserable. She will shame me and mock me and re-fold my towels in the most offensive possible way, all in the name of “helping.” She will make passive aggressive comments about my weight and my pot roast. She will kiss my husband on the mouth in front of me.

She will be my mother-in-law. Keep reading »

Supreme Court Justice Sonia Sotomayor Talks Princesses On “Sesame Street”

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Disney Princess Sofia
Meet Sofia, Disney's first Latina princess. Well, sort of. Read More »
Little Boy Princess
What Would You Do? Halloween
A little boy learns he can't be a princess for Halloween. Read More »
Black Princess
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Awesome mom's reaction when her black son wanted to be a princess. Read More »
Being A Princess Is Not A Career

At some point in the life of many little girls and some little boys there comes the cold, hard realization that you cannot be a princess when you grow up. Think about it: do you really want to spend the rest of your life like Kate Middleton abusing brown eye liner? I thought not. A new clip from “Sesame Street” breaks it to those booger-eaters with the help of Supreme Court Justice Sonia Sotomayor. Keep reading »

Children Of Lesbian Mothers Have Higher Grades And Happier Lives

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Sara is planning a lesbian Jewish wedding! Read More »
Lesbian Moms Ad
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JC Penney ad features lesbian moms. Read More »
Lesbian Mom
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One woman talks about being a lesbian mom. Read More »
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Bad news for those who believe homosexual parents can negatively affect their children: a study of 17-year-olds who were raised by lesbian mothers found that they did well in school, with grades ranging from A- to B+, and were overall happier with their lives.

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Study: Children With Lesbian Parents Are Not Screwed Up

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  • Lesbians are great parents whose children are happy with life and academically successful, according to the findings of a study conducted by the Williams Institute. [Queerty]
  • A cultural history of mansplaining. [The Atlantic]
  • A Wisconsin politician said he had to become a lobbyist because “my wife loves to shop.” You know, women be shopping. [The Broad Side]
  • Bill O’Reilly’s show found a bunch of random women on NYC streets dressed in sexy Halloween costumes to talk about who they’re voting for in this weird ‘on the street’ segment. [Slate] Keep reading »

The Soapbox: Trying to Make Sense Of The NYC Nanny Murders

Nanny Scam
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I was the victim of an Internet nanny scam. Read More »
Six Figure Nanny
Some families are willing to pay six figures for a super-nanny. Read More »
Frisky Parenting!
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All the posts The Frisky has ever done about parenting! Read More »
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Originally appeared on Role/Reboot. Republished here with permission.

Last week, two young children, Leo and Lulu Krim, were allegedly stabbed to death by their nanny in their home in Manhattan. The children’s mother discovered the bodies as Yoselyn Ortega, the nanny, began to hack at her own throat. Although the nanny survived, she is hospitalized and unable to speak.

The reports to date are that the Krim family was kind to the nanny — there were no bad feelings on either side of the relationship. A friend of the Krim family recommended Ms. Ortega, and she’d been their employee for approximately two years.

Parents are searching for an explanation that makes the incident understandable believing that if they can understand why it occurred, they can take precautions to avoid a similar catastrophe. These deaths happened at the hands of a nanny, but children may be harmed in daycare, in school, at Boy Scouts or … the list is long. Too long. Keep reading »

Awesome Mom’s Reaction When Her Black Son Wanted To Be A Princess

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Little Boy Princess
What Would You Do? Halloween
A little boy learns he can't be a princess for Halloween. Read More »

Last week we watched an interesting social experiment on the TV show “What Would You Do?” where actors playing a mom and kids went to a Halloween costume store looking for non-gender-conforming costumes. A little boy begged to be a princess and a little girl begged to be Spiderman, while nosy shoppers (mostly) discouraged the kids and their mom from those costumes. So I was delighted to see an actual real-life mom write a piece for the New York Times this weekend about the time her three-year-old son wanted to be a princess. And interestingly, her concern wasn’t that he wanted to be girly — it was that all the princess junk out there didn’t take into account her son is black.

Doreen Oliver writes that her older son is autistic and struggles to communicate. So if her younger son wants to express himself in any way, even by dressing up like a princess on Halloween, she and her husband will support him. And, she adds, “[I]f it turns out Bug is gay, we’d embrace his identity.” The problem wasn’t that Bug wanted to be a princess, though — it was that “his idea of a princess had blond hair and peach-colored skin” and sure enough all the princess costumes had blonde wigs and pictures of “smiling white women.” Keep reading »

The Soapbox: On Disney’s First Latina Princess

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She was once asked to wear "whiteface" in a role. Read More »
Can't Date Outside My Race
Dennis doesn't date outside his race because his race won't date him. Read More »
Mindy's Race Jokes
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"The Mindy Project" makes some squicky jokes about race. Read More »
Disney Princess Sofia

“Disney is releasing a Latina princess soon, mija,” I declared to my daughter as we drove away from her school and on our way to pick up her dad. “Good!” she said firmly. But of course, I rarely let that be the end of any conversation. “Why good?” I probed.

What followed was a discussion of how we both recognized that Latinas deserve a princess that looks like them — this is despite the fact that my husband and I worked hard to minimize “the princess effect” in our home. Princesses were far from banned. Rather we opted for a different approach: we emphasize strong princesses like Leia, Wonder Woman and Xena (not a real princess, but warrior princesses counted). I also would bring up real-life princesses who did good in the world whenever I could. Oh, the way I used to bring up Princess Diana and Queen Noor! Goodness. We also discussed the strong traits of the Disney princess kingdom: Ariel was adventurous, Belle loved to read and Rapunzel knew how to wield a cast-iron skillet. As you can see, we aren’t anti-Princess, but we are anti-”I’m a pretty-princess waiting for a prince to save me.” Keep reading »

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