Some people are good at relationships. They meet potential partners with effortless ease wherever they go—on the subway, in the elevator at work, on line at the grocery store. They strike up conversations with men in bars, get fixed up by friends, and actually enjoy (ugh!) online dating. The people they encounter are emotionally available and commitment-ready, and they sail smoothly into monogamous relationships as if on command.
And then there are those who are more relationship challenged. Mystified by how to transform a Match.com profile into a boyfriend or how to meet a guy who’s not a total commitmentphobe. You probably feel like you’re trapped in an ’80s movie, forever destined to be on the outside, looking longingly in at all the couples with their hands resting in the back pocket of each other’s acid-washed jeans. How do they do it? you wonder, as you force yourself to “put yourself out there” yet again, gritting your teeth through another brutal bout of online dating.
If the relationship you so desperately desire keeps remaining just out of reach, there may be internal blocks to intimacy standing in your way. Rather than muscling through an endless barrage of bad dates and painful, short-lived relationships, take a time out to identify any deep-seated beliefs and counter-productive patterns that could be holding you back. Click through for barriers that might be sabotaging your relationship efforts—and how to kiss them goodbye.
Jennifer Garam is a Brooklyn-based blogger, freelance writer, and teacher who writes the blogs One Writeous Chick and NotSoZen YogaJen. You can follow her on Twitter at @writeouschick.
Merry Monday and happy Chocha Day, everyone! This week we’ve got a crop of floaty white summer dresses that happen to float up a little bit too high, plus a “sweater dress” that is very obviously meant to be a regular sweater. Click through to check ‘em out, and remember, if you spot a chocha moment, send it to me at firstname.lastname@example.org!
On my recent trip to Hawaii, I spent pretty much every night watching the sun set over the bright blue ocean and just, you know, thinking about life. There are certain places in the world–Maui, for example–that invite you to slow down, take a breath, and consider this amazing world we live in and our place in it. Inspired by that pristine ocean view, I decided to hunt down a few more perfect places for pondering. From waterfalls to banyan trees to a stunning starry sky, click through to check them out…
I liked Adrianne Curry back when she won the first season of “America’s Next Top Model,” I liked her even more on “Surreal Life 4,” where she met her future (now ex) husband Christopher Knight (Bobby on “The Brady Bunch”), and I love, love, love her for letting her nerd flag fly at Comic Con. Every year, Adrianne, who still does a bit of modeling, shows up in costume to various Comic Cons around the country (including the one currently going down in San Diego). I love that she doesn’t pretend to be a precious celebrity (albeit a D-list one) and that she goes full-on cosplay. Let’s click through to ogle some of her greatest Comic Con looks.
Gwen Stefani’s cute three-year-old son Zuma Nesta Rock Rossdale (that’s his full name and I love it) has grown to be such a little towhead, mama’s bottle of bleach not necessary! Gwen took Zuma to the beach in Santa Monica and the little nugget went nuts playing in the water. I miss being a kid and being allowed to play in those park fountains. I tried to go to the one across from my apartment the other day and got dirty looks from all the parents. Sad face.
It’s Bastille Day! Got a hot French boyfriend of your own? Lucky you. The rest of us will have to get into the spirit by ogling these 10 French dudes whilst imagining them whispering naughty French phrases in our ears. Keep clicking to see who butters our baguettes and what we’d love to hear them say in their native tongues…