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Dear Wendy: “Now That I Have A New Boyfriend My Ex Won’t Leave Me Alone”

Wendy is on vacation, so we’ll be posting some of her more popular past Dear Wendy columns (that some of you may have missed!) to get you through the week.

I dated a guy back in 2006 and part of 2007 who eventually broke up with me. I was upset at the time but then moved to another city so I could move on with my life. Well, I have moved on with my life; I am currently dating a man I care about deeply. My current boyfriend and I have been together since late December 2009 and official since January. Since I started dating him, the old boyfriend has been occasionally sending me texts, writing on my Facebook, calling my phone and when I don’t pick up, leaving voice mails that send the message he’s desperate to talk to me. I feel it is clear the old boyfriend has feelings for me — there was one phone call where in one sentence he used every old inside joke we ever had. I am exceedingly content in the relationship I have with my boyfriend now and have no plans to wreck it. I have no ill feelings towards the old boyfriend; in my mind, he is something of what now feels like a past life. However, my current boyfriend is upset and angry that the old ex keeps trying to get in touch with me. I have no desire to create unnecessary drama and just want a peaceful life. How might I best handle the situation with no animosity directed at me as a result? — Happier Now

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Dear Wendy: “My Boyfriend’s Moving Out. Can Our Relationship Survive?”

Wendy is on vacation, so we’ll be posting some of her more popular past Dear Wendy columns (that some of you may have missed!) to get you through the week.

I’m 28, my boyfriend is about to be 27, and we’ll be celebrating our 5 year anniversary in a few months. We’ve been living together for about three years now and about a year ago I started bringing up buying a house, marriage and kids. I am not in a huge hurry to start a family, but I want to make sure my man wants to move in the same direction I do. I can never get a real answer from him about this. He always shrugs at me and says, “I’m not ready and I don’t know what I want yet, but I know I love you and want to be with you.” Soon after I broached these topics, my boyfriend got VERY mopey and down about his life. It has been very hard on the relationship, but I have been understanding because he finally started to go to counseling. I thought things would start getting better, but he dropped a bomb the night before last. He says he wants to get his own place so he can “find himself.” BUT, he says he does not want to break up with me and expects that things won’t change.

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Dear Wendy: “What’s The Kindest Way To Break Up With Six Men?”

Wendy is on vacation, so we’ll be posting some of her more popular past Dear Wendy columns (that some of you may have missed!) to get you through the week.

I’ve recently started dating in a normal, orderly way like other people date; formerly, I have only had long-term relationships which just sort of happened, no dates required. I’ve gone on dates with many men, with the goal of getting to know each of them before I choose to make a more serious commitment to any particular one. The problem is that they all seem to be really, really into me. As in, they want to bring me home to meet their parents. They call me pet names, they call me every day, my ears get sore from staying on the phone all night. They wonder what our babies would look like. It’s too much. And, just for the reference, these are all men I have known for less than one month, some I have not even kissed.

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Ask The Astrosexologist: Strong Aries Wants To Bounce Back From Bad Ex

I am an Aries woman and have been sleeping with an Aquarius guy for the past two years. To make a long story short, I fell for his “I’ve-fallen-in-love-with-you-but-can’t-date-you-due-to-xyz-obligation.” He made promises of us being together in wedded bliss once he finished school and stressed his “dutiful son” role came before anything else, including his friends and me.

Over the course of this time, I’d break up with him often, but would return after he apologized and vowed eternal love, soon to be sleeping with him again. Then, just a couple of weeks ago, I reached my breaking point. I played detective and found out that he has about five other women he’s “in love with.” He’s told them all that they’re the ones and they’re meant to be together. One of these is a married woman and leaving her husband for him. After the shock, I confronted and dumped him immediately.

Of course, his first reaction was to bluff. Then he blocked my calls and threatened me with a lawsuit. Finally, he has e-mailed me to say that we were never together, I’m crazy, and I broke up with him all the time, so he had to move on. So, my question isn’t about him, because he’s a complete prick. My love question is for me: what’s wrong with me? I am an Aries woman; aren’t I supposed to have more pride and strength? He has been the only man I’ve let emotionally abuse me. I’ve never dealt with a cheater before; why do I yearn for his e-mails, just so we can argue? Why am I an emotional-cutter? – Too Numb for a Witty Name

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8 Tips For Getting Along With Your Ex When You Share Friends

It’s only natural to date someone in your circle of friends. But what happens when the relationship ends? How do you handle the next pool party or skiing invitation from your buddies, when you know he’ll be there, too? Whether you part on decent terms or really really bad ones, it’s going to get awkward. If you want to keep your friends, however, you’ll need to figure out a way to get along with your ex. After the jump, eight tips for getting along with an ex in your circle of friends. Keep reading »

8 Women Talk About How They’ve Stayed Friends With Exes

Sometimes you hear women talk about how and why they stay friends with their exes and wonder how they do it. For some of us that seems impossible. After the jump, eight women share their thoughts about how they are able to keep friendships with exes. Keep reading »

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