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Life After Dating: Bitter, Party Of One

Life After Dating: Bitter, Party Of One

A few years ago, I had a Big, Terrible Breakup. I’d been living with a guy, whom I loved, wanted to marry and raise kids with. He wanted those things, too, until he didn’t. I hadn’t seen the split coming and felt completely gobsmacked.

I turned around, reactivated my OKCupid profile, and began dating immediately. That turned out to not be such a good idea. I thought I needed to distract myself (and considering I had moved back in with my parents, part of me did need to distract myself) but what I really needed was to heal. Alas, even though I was not ready to date yet in the grander scheme of things, dipping my toe back in the waters showed me there were lots other guys out there. It took me a couple months to admit that there could be someone out there better for me than Ex-Mr. Jessica. But my acceptance wasn’t necessarily due to anything particularly convincing he said while we were breaking up; it came from meeting other guys online who, in integral ways, seemed like they’d be a better fit.

That’s not to say that I limped off my injury gracefully. Not much at all, in fact. I passed many, many months during 2011 mired in bitterness — hurt, resentful, and very angry. Keep reading »

Conservatives Are Trying To Make It Harder To Divorce

Let's Talk Divorce
Should marriage be a renewable contract? Read More »
Disclose Your Divorce
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... and other facts you should be open about on your online dating profile. Read More »
Chart: Mapping Crying Fits
Divorced Woman Charts The Pain Of A Breakup … Literally
A divorced woman charts the pain of a breakup ... literally. Read More »
Dating A Divorced Man
The pros and cons of dating a man who's already been down the aisle. Read More »
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We knew that some conservatives have a boner for (heterosexual, of course) marriage. But did you know they get equally hard for stopping couples from being able to divorce?  As Scott Keyes writes in a must-read piece for The Washington Post, politicians in over a dozen states have introduced bills making it harder for a couple to end their union. Keep reading »

Dater X: Is It Really Possible To Be “Just Friends” With An Ex?

Dater X: Is It Really Possible To Be "Just Friends" With An Ex?

Just as I began to feel satisfied and confident with my relationship-free self, guess who came back to throw a wrench in things and screw up my single girl feng shui? My college boyfriend, and one of the few men I’ve ever really loved: Don. Keep reading »

Flashback: Revisiting The Post “Does Your Ex ‘Owe’ You Something After A Nasty Breakup?”

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Last week, I celebrated a BIG birthday: 30! In acknowledgment of the fact that I’ve spent over half of my 20s working at The Frisky, I’m going to reach down deep into to archives and revisit some old posts. I’ll examine what I wrote at the time and how that has or hasn’t changed. If you have any suggestions of old posts you’d like me to revisit, tell me in the comments or shoot me an email at Jessica@TheFrisky.com.

The Post: “Does Your Ex ‘Owe’ You Something After A Nasty Breakup?” Keep reading »

The Case For Being Friends With An Ex

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In our recent Break Up With Your Ex survey, 51 percent of you said you can’t truly be friends with an ex. And there’s a good reason, why too. Thirty-eight percent said the biggest impediment is that they’re still in love and can’t let go.  I can’t say I agree that creating a clean slate is right for everyone. Read why on Your Tango…

The Cleanup After The Breakup: 5 Tips For Reorganizing Your Home Post-Split

I've Moved Out
Jessica on moving out of a shared apartment after a split. Read More »
After The Move-In...
...couples should stop doing these 20 things! Read More »
On Moving Out
Girl Talk: I'm Moving Out And Getting A Roommate
She's moving out, but they're not breaking up. Read More »
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Whether your last relationship was a brief affair or years in the making, breakups are always tough to handle. For many of us, the five stages of grief include sulking, series binging on your favorite TV shows, drowning your sorrows with multiple pints of Ben & Jerry’s, and staunch avoidance. Still surrounded by mementos of your ex and your relationship, sometimes the easiest response to your emotional state is to sit on the couch and do nothing at all. That is, until your best friend comes over to deliver a much-needed pep talk and finds you buried beneath a pile of post-relationship clutter.

With a little push, you admit that it’s time to get organized and get on with your life. To help guide the process of cleaning up after the breakup, here are five simple tips for excising your ex and all his/her stuff from your home: Keep reading »

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